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Starting a New Career

kdaugherty4kdaugherty4 member
in August 2014 Moms
I'm 32w2d and I had an interview last November that went well but I was their second choice. They called me up on Friday and said it didn't work out with their first choice and they wanted to chat. I met up with them yesterday and we talked about the job. They sent me an offer today and want me to start July 14. My due date is August 17. I don't think they even noticed I was pregnant (I had very loose clothing on that hid it really well) when we met up! Do I accept the offer, then tell them? I don't want to be deceitful but I wanted the process to be fair. Essentially I'd be working for up to 4 weeks then having 18 days PTO and the rest unpaid for a total of at least 6 weeks of maternity leave... then I'd go back. What would you do? AM I CRAZY?! :)
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  • kraft333kraft333 member
    Agreed with @kountingsheep‌ and also: they already bet on the wrong person and spent more than 6 months paying for it. I'd think they'd be willing to wait a little longer for the right person.

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  • PeedyPeedy member
    The company I work for hires lots of noticeably pregnant women. (Sounds weird, but my boss was hired in January noticeably pregnant, and someone else started the same day as her And was noticeably pregnant. )They may be aware, but it might just be a more progressive company.
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  • jendem8jendem8 member
    If they already offered you the job then I'm pretty sure they can't take it back just because you're pregnant. I would let them know before you accept it so that you can work out the details. My husband just took a new job ad the new company was willing to give him 5 extra personal days to match the week of paternity leave he had at the job he's leaving.
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  • con07scon07s member
    I would be very upfront with them before you accept the offer. If they don't offer you the job then it's kinda like discrimination and their a bunch of poops ;) good luck! I had to do this at 20 weeks when I had just started showing and told them in my interview.
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  • kdaugherty4kdaugherty4 member
    The offer is contingent on a background check so I'm going to accept the offer, do the background check, and make sure its a for sure thing. Then I will mention that I assume they noticed that I was pregnant but wanted to make sure because like them, I value honesty. I'll say that I hope it doesn't change anything and they are willing to invest in me just as I am willing to invest in their company. Any other opinions of what I could say?
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  • MandMLeonaMandMLeona member

    I would look at it the same way I would any other time off I already had scheduled before taking a new job.  I would make sure they agreed to the time off before I accepted.  A lot can be negotiated on time off before an offer is accepted, afterward it can suddenly be grounds for dismissal to miss time in the initial probationary period.

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  • ashlou21ashlou21 member
    I just accepted a new job two months ago at around 25 weeks pregnant, they didn't know I was  pregnant during any of the interviews so I told them after I received the offer letter to work out the details on my maternity leave. I ended up negotiating with them more because of this and ended up gaining an extra week vacation out of it plus paid maternity leave.

    With it being so late in your pregnancy, I agree with snowflake91011, can you see if they would let you start after your maternity leave at your current job so your benefits would stay the same?  I think that would be something to at least ask, if a company wants you bad enough they will make it work for both of you.

    Good luck!
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  • kdaugherty4kdaugherty4 member
    I'm not really worried about paid time off for maternity leave.... I know I start with 18 days of PTO and can use them right away but DH and I aren't worried about the money because we don't need the PTO right away. I don't really care to negotiate more time off or anything, I just want to make sure they are aware of the situation and I want to know what their process is. Does this change your opinions on when to tell them?
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  • MandMLeonaMandMLeona member
    Even if you don't need PTO, you need time out of work.  I still think it's best to do that before officially accepting.
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  • dogperson11dogperson11 member
    MandMLeona said:

    Even if you don't need PTO, you need time out of work.  I still think it's best to do that before officially accepting.

    This. Getting paid time off or not, you still will not be available to work. Plus, if you currently hold your medical benefits at your current job then a change in jobs will affect that as well.
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  • MC03MC03 member

    Also - keep in mind background checks take time and are expensive for the company, so I would tell them before going through all of that. 

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  • shevaCCshevaCC member
    I would wait until you have the offer in hand..it sounds like that is now? I think contingent on a background check is close enough since they obviously want to hire you. Then just like @MandMLeona said, negotiate how long you'll be taking off (and whether it's paid or unpaid) before you accept. DH had to do that for a previous job where we were selling our house and moving across the country. They actually let him start in one office for a few weeks, take a few days off to finalize the move, then switch to his permanent office 3000 miles away. It's definitely worth talking to them to figure out what works best for both you and them.
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