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kimb311 · June 2014

This board is dying a slow death! and I think we can all agree the birth month boards can get a little......snarky. I know I have rolled my eyes and held back on schoolin some of these young wippersnappers :P
I'll start. I'm really kinda nervous being 41, with a 3 yr old AND a newborn. I was tired just chasing after DD! so, how hard is it really? Any trick to make it through with sanity slightly intact?

path75 · June 2014

I am just nervous about being a new mom in general at 39. I am worried about finances, I am worried about this whopping cough thing going around and being due in December. I am worried about how my job will take my leave and how it will be when I come back. I know I am over thinking everything but it all just concerns me. It is the greatest thing that ever happened to me and I just got to think everything will work itself out.

Klavanga74 · June 2014

Thanks for reviving things, OP! The birth month boards...well, they can be really supportive but can go in the opposite direction as well.

I have been pretty down about this pregnancy overall. I feel badly for my husband because I know he's excited, but we have two older kids and we are really set in our lives and I'm really used to having my time to work, some time to myself, etc. I'm scared of all that going out the window - and of having another human being relying on me. Plus, things have changed a lot in terms of giving birth from 10 years ago. I was talking to someone last night who gave birth in October and there are a lot of things they're pushing now in the hospital that they weren't before and so I'm worried about being tired from giving birth and pushed around by nurses who think I should do things a certain way.

How's that for an ear full?

mariahcohen · June 2014

I am trying to figure out the sanity thing as well. I have a 21 yr old. 18 year old. And a 4 year old. I'm 44 and six weeks. I'm terrified!
We got rid of everything baby because we were done. Lol
Chin up ladies. We got this!

flyinmommy · June 2014

I have three older kiddos (10, 8 and 7) and I feel like I am starting over. My main concerns right now is that this baby will be born in a smaller more rural hospital than my other three. I don't want to be given a hard time about not breast feeding when it is a huge thing here. I am also more worried about recovery this time and getting back to feeling normal again.

nursemarie925 · June 2014

Hi everyone. Hope it's ok if I join you guys, I'll be 35 when I deliver. As far as worrying goes... This little one was kind of a surprise. We were debating having another (our fourth), then the decision was made for us. Our others are 16,6,3. Kind of nervous to start over, especially with one graduating a few months after this one is born.

I've been pretty sick and tired lately which isn't making me feel all warm and fuzzy about this. Lol. Don't get me wrong, I'm gonna love this peanut like nobodies business, just going through the blues right now.

Further stressed trying to decide between vbac and rcs. I had an anxiety attack during my spinal and not looking forward to that again. My first two were natural births, third was breech, so physically, I feel like I can handle the vbac. Just nervous about the risks....and everything I guess.

kimb311 · June 2014

Glad to see I'm not the only worry warr here. I'm not sure what's going on with me. We had tried for a while to have another one after my daughter, with no success. I had finally made peace with the fact that we wouldn't. I was starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel with my daughter, it was getting easier, I was feeling like a woman again ( not just mom) I put her in a Mother's Day out program and actually had two whole days to myself!

Now all of that progress is gone. God, that sounds terrible! I am thrilled that we are pregnant again. But the anxiety of starting over( if this one sticks) has me terrified ! I worry that we will MC. I worry that we WONT. Just a plain old mess! HA!

Samuelismomma · June 2014

I had first ds at 39 so I don't know anything else...lol will be 42 when this one is born. I just worry things like travel, going out , etc will be harder with two. I also worry about sharing the love with two. I have such a bond with my son. I feel that sounds terrible:(??

bjb1979 · June 2014

hello! I'm new here after trying out the first tri board and not loving my experience, I will be 35 when this bubba is born in January, first for hubby and I. This board seems so much nicer, looking forward to being here!

mariahcohen · June 2014

It's a normal fear the whole I don't want to share... But there is plenty. And your DS will have a new love, too.

moroccojade · June 2014

I spaced my first and this second one out pretty far... so I am feeling pretty good about managing two.

Otherwise -- I am not bothering to worry. (What does it accomplish?) I am feeling good... the issues I had in the first tri seem to be ok now. I have amazing midwives and a great TCM doctor caring for me. I am just going to enjoy the next 5+ months. I am one of those weirdos who loves being pregnant. I am curious to meet this little person. Thinking about who he or she might be and might look like... it is beyond amazing.

lcwed · June 2014

@flyinmommy I think the decision to BF is a personal choice that you make based on what is best for your family. I say stay strong in your decision. People will get over it.

I'm glad I'm not the only one with fears. We just put our house on the market and I am worried if it doesn't sell quickly that we will still have 2 mortgages once all the major bills start coming in. With our ages, delaying really wasn't much of an option, especially since it took us a while to get pregnant with #2.

I also worry about being on bed rest again with this pregnancy. I hope what they say is true and no 2 pregnancies are the same. I dread bed rest with a toddler. Hopefully the pregnancy hypertension was a one time thing.

Right now I worry about something happening as I am only 5 weeks along. I don't feel pregnant, no significant symptoms, and I have to constantly remind myself I was the same way while pregnant with DD. I feel like I am 36 years old and I should know better than to feel this way but I can't stop. July 7 seems like so far away. I keep telling myself it is in God's hands and giving my worries up to him, but they are still there.

flyinmommy · June 2014

Thanks icwed. I appreciate the support. I have my first three in a big city where bottle feeding was not big deal but we have moved and it's a big deal here. I had surgery a few years ago so it's not even an option for me but I have heard stories about the pressure and guilt from nurses. I think no matter what we all can come up with things to worry about. This board is so much more supportive than other boards

SoLagMama · June 2014

Best board! First time Mom here, 38, have lots of worries but just going with it, I think I'll know better what to do than my 25 year old self would have! All the best to everyone. Keep the good posts coming. Sharing experiences is great.

Lady2010 · June 2014

I am 36, will be 37 when our LO arrives - and it will be our first. We are beyond excited since it took us over 2 years to get here but also of course a little anxious. All of our friends have children - most are done with having kids - so we look at it as having great resources. In addition, my sister has 2 kids who we are very close with and my SIL will have a baby in Aug (so it will be great to have the cousins close in age)

Still it is definitely scary since we live in a city where very few of our friends with kids live. But I am thinking that with our age comes some wisdom! (I hope!)

2redtulips · June 2014

I was just thinking this board seemed a bit more active recently than in the past few months.

I don't have any advice for coping with a toddler and a newborn, as I will be a FTM. I am just hoping I have enough maternal instinct kick in to manage the newborn phase all right.

k__teacher · June 2014

I am in the same boat - will be 41 when this little guy is born, and my first will be 3 1/2. Right now it's been so hard with trying to keep up with him and hubs working way too much overtime. So much for the second tri energy burst!! I get nervous about how we will juggle two, especially after I go back to work. I know we'll figure it out just like everything else, but that weighs on my mind a lot!

CaraH · June 2014

@klavanga74 - Have you considered hiring a doula? If you can find (and afford) a good one, they will help enforce your wishes and keep you from getting railroaded. They are also a huge help with positioning,etc. in natural childbirth; something L&D nurses in my area don't seem to know much about anymore. I did not use one, but wished I had. Though, to be fair, I did not feel railroaded at all by my nurses. They were very supportive of our wishes. (But, I wonder if my labor would have been better with more help.)

@flyinmommy - I hope the decision to use formula won't be as big a deal as you think. It sounds like you really don't have an option, so I'd probably figure out what my explanation is and just repeat it over and over. Around here, Moms worry about being pushed to give formula, because its actually easier for the hospitals to tell how much the baby is getting. Honestly, I didn't feel like my nurses cared what I chose to do. One last thought: my mom - a leche league member and two time bfer in the 70s, when almost noone was - tells my friends who feel self-conscious giving formula in front of her "never apologize for feeding your baby."

I'm another one who has been trying a long (long) time for baby #2. I will be 38 and DD will be 4 1/2 when this baby arrives, which wasn't really my plan. I was just starting to toy with the idea of her being the only child, in fact. But, any reservations I had about starting over went out the window when I realized we were finally pregnant. I'm only 4 weeks along (yep, 4) and have twice convinced myself this pregnancy wasn't sticking. So, at this point, I'm much more concerned about NOT having this baby than having him/her.

MrsL2B · June 2014

I like my BMB, and it's pretty active. Between that and work, I have a hard time remembering to check in here and on the high-risk board as much as I would like to. But I do like it here! Really I do!

I spent a lot of my first tri spotting and worrying about the fetus not making it to term. Now I'm feeling more confident in the pregnancy (but still a little nervous about having a small person to have to take care of for the next couple of decades). I'm having more issues with my pre-existing health conditions, so maybe that's taken over the part of my brain that handles my worrying.

Klavanga74 · June 2014

@CaraH - Thanks for the supportive words! I had a doula with my first and don't feel that I need it again, but I do highly recommend it, especially for first-time moms. I actually saw a new doctor the other day and will be delivering in a different hospital than originally planned. The new hospital seems much more cognizant of taking care of baby AND mom, and seems that they're a little more used to formula feeding moms.

@flyinmommy - You and I have a lot in common, although you're on number four and I'm on three. I think tubal ligation is in my future after this one! I agree with PP that you just need to know exactly what you're going to say when you get to the hospital and be very firm - it's not possible for you to breastfeed and you will not be attempting it. I live in a very metropolitan area, but switched hospitals and doctors because I heard that a lot has changed at the hospital where I delivered my son ten years ago and would be getting a lot of grief for formula feeding. When we're tired and beat up from just having given birth, that's the last thing we need. I am planning to drill into DH, also, that it's his job to speak up for me on this one. We can give each other some support!

flyinmommy · June 2014

@Klavanga74‌ I got you're back! I like the idea of coaching DH to stand up for you. I need to work on that too. I am hoping he will stand up to his family since I don't want anyone coming to the hospital.

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