Salt in the wound (sig warning - pic of DD)

kerbear135 · June 2014

Apparently the universe hates me for some reason. Within 1 week of our loss, 3 friends had babies and 3 more announced pregnancies...it's like i can't go one single day without someone unknowingly pouring salt in the wound....I have tried to limit my time on FB because that's where it's the worst, but unfortunately, one of my jobs involves being on FB quite a bit so it's hard to cut it out completely. I am trying not to be bitter and judgmental, but it's so very hard not to be sometimes.

sfazar · June 2014

I totally know what you mean. I pulled the plug on facebook, but I am *still* getting face slaps in various ways. Today has been *that* day for me, and my loss was in January. One friend announced her pregnancy with a second child in an email chain, which meant that my inbox was flooded with messages from other friends with multiple children talking about how great they are. I had told all of them in February about my MC in my 11th week, just in case they ever go through such a thing. I told them I didn't want condolences because it was too hard for me to talk about the experience. Despite this, the "friend" who just announced her pregnancy replied to that message, telling me that she was sorry and that she had a sister-in-law who had suffered 3 second term miscarriages and another friend who had lost part of her reproductive system as a result of one. Really encouraging, right?

Also today my supposed best friend gave birth to her second. I cut contact with her after she sent me a happy birthday note in which she complained about her 2 year old child's tantrums and how hard it is to be her buying a million dollar house.

I feel like we deserve a little sensitivity. My husband has no patience for this idea, and we got in a fight about it today. It's just so cruel how they have no qualms about awakening my pain. Even if I do get pregnant and have a baby, I honestly don't want people like this in my life.

Yaz14 · June 2014

Tell me about it! On the weekend I was on the way to a family function when I got a call from my best friend who told me she's 12 weeks pregnant. I couldn't believe how insanely jealous I felt. I then felt bad for feeling that way especially since she had also suffered a miscarriage only a few months before I did. I mean of course I'm happy for her, she's my best friend! But I can't help thinking "why can't that be me?!" I should be 22 weeks pregnant this week for f*ck sake. I then went to the family function where my cousin was parading her 3 week old son. At least she had had the baby I guess. I seem to be able to tolerate babies a lot better than I can tolerate pregnant women at the moment.

CreechMommy · June 2014

Yea it's tough - literally every friend I have has children. We were finally going to be "in the club" and now were not. There are also several women that are pg that I know and it's hard to see their posts. On the one hand, I'm happy for them and can't wait to meet their little ones, and on the other hand I'm hurting so bad and I miss my baby. I haven't blocked any posts yet, but I've certainly thought about it.

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