University x Parenting

joonmyun · June 2014

Has anyone else tried going back to school after becoming a parent? Is it worth it, or too much work? I'm trying to get a degree, and it's only been a couple days of class, but I miss my kids, and I know not spending enough time with them is going to affect them negatively in the future. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to make attending uni and being a single, to be working mom, easier?

joonmyun · June 2014

@mrssqueegy‌ sorry! i wasn't as clear as i should've been, i work part time at a baby clothing store, and go to my necessary classes at the uni. im aiming to become a working mom because im single now. im sorry, if this post isn't appropriate for this board i can move it somewhere else. i don't wish to offend anyone.

joonmyun · June 2014

@mrssqueegy‌ okay i put it back. sorry just on my other discussion ppl started making fun of me and now im sort of scared to post anything at all but i do want some advice...if anyone has anything...

joonmyun · June 2014

@mrssqueegy sorry ;; i just put it back. all the moms on the parenting board flipped out on me on my other discussion post so im just a little nervous...

joonmyun · June 2014

@PrivacyWanted i mean i know there are some notions around kids who grow up without parents home often having a tougher time than kids who grow up with a stay at home mother or father. staying at home isn't really an option for me because someone needs to bring in money, and i have a nanny, but i don't know how much longer i can pay them for.

joonmyun · June 2014

@K3am oh. yeah, see i can't post anywhere without f*cking something up. im literally never home with them though, i don't spend any time with them. not on purpose, but between working a part time job, and attending university, the nanny has put them to bed by the time i get home and i have to get up to go to class before they even wake up. i haven't held my baby in weeks. i just don't want my kids to prefer the nanny over me, but i don't think i should blame them if they do, im never there for them when i should be.

joonmyun · June 2014

@amy052006 thanks. if i can successfully get the psychology degree i want, then im going to open a therapist office or at least try to once ive saved enough money, and then i can have control over my job and what times i work (given what times patients are available) and then id likely get to spend more time with my children. i like being a working mom, id never want to stay home again like i used to, not that there is anything wrong with stay at home moms, but i like feeling like im contributing to my family's welfare, and i get depressed easily and need something to keep me busy. i love my children but it was lonely when my seventh month old was napping and my five year old was at school. so in four years, hopefully, i'll have my degree and i can spend more time with my children then.

joonmyun · June 2014

@K3am thank you for your comment. i guess board wise i need to really think through before i post, and with my children, i'll just have to fit in time where i can. it's not like im out partying though, im working and working towards working and even though they're five and seventh months, hopefully one day if not now they'll understand why i didn't get to spend so much time with them.

joonmyun · June 2014

@PrivacyWanted alright, well if anything, that makes me feel better about my situation. im sincerely sorry if ive insulted any mothers or fathers who are parents in such circumstances. i didn't mean it as a jab at their parenting skills, but i know now that it came across that way. i suppose i'll start looking into daycare. it's just that my children are quite attached to this nanny since they've been working for us when i was still married and moved with us.

mlee116 · June 2014

I'm not going to lie, I think working plus attending college would be really hard. But if I were a single parent, I'd want the very best future for my child(ren), even if that meant some sacrifices now. I don't know your situation, but I wouldn't want to work full time at around minimum wage if I could help it just to barely make ends meet. Or have to work multiple jobs....I'd rather have a career where I could make enough to be comfortable.

There are tons of options out there for school including online classes and those targeted towards working parents. I would look into your options. Also, do you have any family that can help out and spend time with your kids when you have class, homework, group meetings, etc.?

Also, like PP's said, don't worry so much about the boards. Some boards just have a different vibe so I pick and choose where I post. We've all been flamed at one point or another! This board is the bomb

joonmyun · June 2014

@mlee116‌ yeah im beginning to really like this board whereas some people on the parenting board are acting immaturely. not posting there again, haha. id like to just jump into a career too, but ive got two years of law school as credits and that's it. id love to go back, but law will be too time consuming so i rather dabble for a while in psychology and choose my own hours, or possibly work in communications and have set business times. ive got my parents who would gladly take my kids but let's just say im not a huge fan of my mother and father and would rather not have their views instilled into my children. i suppose daycare would be my best option now, and i'll try for more child support out of my abusive ex husband. i would take online classes but it's easier for me to focus in a classroom where my children aren't a distraction. i live in an apartment and i doubt my five year old son would let me get much done without interruption.

joonmyun · June 2014

@PrivacyWanted i "ran off" with my au pair/nanny, they're a nanny but i don't like the word nanny so i use au pair. they meet the credentials of an au pair, they live with us and take care of my kids, it's the same thing...is it not?

CinemaGoddess · June 2014

Yo, OP. When you're done here can you please explain why you threatened me on Parenting?

kthxbai.

joonmyun · June 2014

@K3am you are? that was my dream job, well, the attorney part and since grade four or five id always told everyone that was what i wanted to do, but then life happened, i had a baby and that dream was flushed down the toilet. i don't regret my son, of course not, i just regret marrying his father and not going back to law school and trying this setup earlier.

joonmyun · June 2014

@PrivacyWanted im from ny, and no, i didn't know that. i just looked up now what id gotten into when i applied for psychology and one more year sounds a lot better than eight years.

joonmyun · June 2014

@PrivacyWanted no? some programs are longer though, i was in a four year law school program.

joonmyun · June 2014

@K3am i was asking these questions in earnest but i suppose if im offending people i'll get off now.

CinemaGoddess · June 2014

joonmyun said:

@K3am i was asking these questions in earnest but i suppose if im offending people i'll get off now.

Yes, please come back to Parenting and insult me some more.

That was fun.

CinemaGoddess · June 2014

PrivacyWanted said:

CinemaGoddess is not cool, please explain yourself

She said it wasn't a threat. (LIES)

Then she said I was annoying and was only here talk about "cookie pies and insult others". (LIE---well, I do talk about pie.)

joonmyun · June 2014

@PrivacyWanted‌ i said i only have that as something that will get me a job i can work with while being a mother, i do have a BA. israel is in the continent of asia, my friend, and maybe it's time for us both to get off of thebump dot com.

CinemaGoddess · June 2014

There aren't that many jobs in law right now, especially in the US, unless you're doing very specific kinds of law.

You might want to consider a paralegal degree for the time being, take law classes at nights or when you can, and gear up for taking the bar later.

That would be more economical, but it would take longer.

[Deleted User] · June 2014

Huh?

I will play with this hole-filled saga.

DH went to grad school and worked full time pre-kiddo. It was hard. I can only imagine it would be harder with kids and as a single parent. That's not the question.

You need to ask if a temporary sacrifice is worth it for your situation.

CinemaGoddess · June 2014

Seriously, tho.

If you think that being a lawyer is the only job you can get while you're a mom, you're in for a HUGE shock.

When you get out of law school, you are in the drudgery of associate work for YEARS.

LITERALLY YEARS.

You do not get to pick your hours.

You do not get the freedom to take off whenever you want to.

You do not get a high paycheck for a very very long time.

You will spend less time with your child as a young lawyer out of law school than you ever did if you were just support staff or working a regular 9-5 job.

joonmyun · June 2014

I'm tired of explaining myself to women over the Internet. I'm done here.

CinemaGoddess · June 2014

You've said you were done here, like, 5 times now.

Are you actually done this time?

shannm · June 2014

joonmyun said:
@K3am oh. yeah, see i can't post anywhere without f*cking something up. im literally never home with them though, i don't spend any time with them. not on purpose, but between working a part time job, and attending university, the nanny has put them to bed by the time i get home and i have to get up to go to class before they even wake up. i haven't held my baby in weeks. i just don't want my kids to prefer the nanny over me, but i don't think i should blame them if they do, im never there for them when i should be.

This has to be MUD.

krose0713 · June 2014

What kind of clinic are you planning on opening with a bachelors in psychology? I'm not knocking it, my undergrad is in psych as well, but it's almost always a stepping stone to a masters or doctorate. It doesn't qualify you to be a therapist.

Maybride2 · June 2014

Ditto krose. On the off chance that you're not a total troll, I'll share with you what my awesome undergrad advisor shared with me and I'm still thankful for 15 years later........a BS in psychology is pretty much useless for anything but getting into grad school to pursue an advanced degree. You will not get any decent job with it. You will not be opening any sort of clinc or doing any type of patient care with it. Most schools require even their guidance counselors to have advanced degrees. But since I'm sure you're MUD, nevermind.

rockychryslerb2010 · June 2014

I was ready to answer this for real, then I saw what kind of post it was. In case anyone reads it with the same question, I'll still answer.
Yes, it is possible to do school and be a mom and work full time. I work full time in technology for an investment management firm. I travel, a lot. I am also four months away from finishing my MBA. I also have an amazing hubby who is a great dad and picked up a lot of slack for me during my two year program. I mostly manage by working during the day, spending time with E before he goes to bed, then doing some work (school or actual work) at night. I also have to spend some weekend time doing work - some classes more than others. I could not do it without a supportive husband.

ss265 · June 2014

joonmyun said:

@PrivacyWanted‌ i said i only have that as something that will get me a job i can work with while being a mother, i do have a BA. israel is in the continent of asia, my friend, and maybe it's time for us both to get off of thebump dot com.

Hmmm - is this the same chick that brought up all that nonsense a month ago?

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