new here... maybe going crazy?

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

First of all, let me just say that this is my first month TTC, and I'm contemplating whether or not I'll be insane by the time I get pregnant someday.

I haven't learned all the lingo yet but I'm slowly catching on by lurking on the message boards. Basically... my husband and I are "geo-bachelors" so we try to time up our visits every month to my fertile days. Last month was the first month we were able to do "it" at the right time.

Tuesday 24 June is the day of my next expected period. I've taken.. ugh I'm embarrassed to admit it.. 5 pregnancy tests in the last five days. It's like I can't control myself. I have bookmarked all of the fancy calculators, to tell me estimates of what my hCG is (it could be, apparently, anywhere between 10-100 until Tuesday... so why am I testing??? ugh). I know it increases every 2-3 days, I know a rational person would wait to test.

Usually I get crampy in the 3 days before my period... hasn't happened. Usually I have wicked acne, hasn't happened. Usually I get some spotting 3-4 days before my period, hasn't happened. Boobs are kind of sore, but I think I'm imagining it, or trying to will myself into being pregnant.

I have had these "twinges" in my pelvic area that I never recall having before getting my period in the past. Like, weird little pings, all over, not on one side more than the other or anything like that. I've also had a few times what felt like contractions of my cervix or something. Like kind of a pressure? Or like a pulling? But then it always pops in my head... you're imaging all of these things because you want to be pregnant, let it go.

I use Ovia and iPeriod to track things. My periods are super predictable, like clockwork. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 14 (26 now) but personally believe it was a misdiagnoses, or that being very overweight as a teenager led them to diagnose me... I have issues with facial hair but the fact that my periods are always like clockwork and I'm in a healthy weight leads me to believe I'm good. I haven't had a cyst (I can feel them, which is what led me to ask my mom to take me to the doctor initially) since I was 14.

Anyways, I think I'm going nuts! I'm going to get on this board a lot more and learn from you all!!!

spiltmilkz · June 2014

Welcome to the board, I recommend reading the Newbie Blog and checking out Fertility Friend.

TTC can be exciting and overwheming, good luck.

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

thank you so much!!! i wish i would have had this link a few days ago... the testing chart is a lot more conservative than what my test box says.

so much good information. i really appreciate it.

PuppyLove84 · June 2014

Welcome! All I can say is to try and occupy your mind with something else for a few days... thinking about TTC constantly will drive you insane! Maybe read a good book or find a good tv show!

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

Thank you!!!! I have zero friends where I live right now... so I've GOT to get some hobbies or something!!!! Work occupies me during the week but weekends are rough for sure.

I appreciate your advice for sure!!!!

ginger1228 · June 2014

Welcome and good luck!

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

Thank you ginger1228

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

Wow, that was a pretty condescending post. Thanks for the information.

- the apps aren't "useless" - they give a lot of good information, especially given my clockwork cycles, as this is only my first month. i have tracked my bbt in the past, but because this is our first month that we've been able to be in the same place at the same time (deployed, mil to mil) i haven't had time to establish patterns.

- i'm only twelve days past ovulation, so it's very possible to get a false negative right now. i haven't given up hope just because i've taken the tests and they've been negative.

- in the past, my cysts have always been accompanied by pain. i would go in for ultrasounds every month, and the months that had no pain, had no cysts. i've also lost about 72lbs since that time in my life, which can greatly affect PCOS-esque symptoms.

- i meant "it" as in "be at the same place at the same time for an extended period of time while i'm leading up to ovulation and have sex" not just "sex". i know that i'm an adult. thanks for the reminder.

- so sorry for not following the rigid instruction. i didn't realize i would be admonished by the internet police. i'll be sure to keep myself in line.

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

OMG... is this message board one that could be observed in support of deindividuation theory?

I'm just trying to talk to other women who are new at trying to get pregnant, and read about their experiences. i literally introduced myself less than an hour ago and it only took a few minutes for someone to compile a dissertation on what i'm doing wrong and tell me i'm bad at following instructions.

Knottie42853389 · June 2014

I said that my cycles are like clockwork because I have tracked them every month for the last two years, and I have exactly a 29 day cycle. I know the night that I'm getting it, between 9pm and 9am.

I haven't used BC in the last two years. We used condoms up until this point.

I'm not asking any one to blow smoke up anyone's ass... LOL!

urani · June 2014

Knottie42853389 said:

First of all, let me just say that this is my first month TTC, and I'm contemplating whether or not I'll be insane by the time I get pregnant someday.

I haven't learned all the lingo yet but I'm slowly catching on by lurking on the message boards. Basically... my husband and I are "geo-bachelors" so we try to time up our visits every month to my fertile days. Last month was the first month we were able to do "it" at the right time.

Tuesday 24 June is the day of my next expected period. I've taken.. ugh I'm embarrassed to admit it.. 5 pregnancy tests in the last five days. It's like I can't control myself. I have bookmarked all of the fancy calculators, to tell me estimates of what my hCG is (it could be, apparently, anywhere between 10-100 until Tuesday... so why am I testing??? ugh). I know it increases every 2-3 days, I know a rational person would wait to test.

Usually I get crampy in the 3 days before my period... hasn't happened. Usually I have wicked acne, hasn't happened. Usually I get some spotting 3-4 days before my period, hasn't happened. Boobs are kind of sore, but I think I'm imagining it, or trying to will myself into being pregnant.

I have had these "twinges" in my pelvic area that I never recall having before getting my period in the past. Like, weird little pings, all over, not on one side more than the other or anything like that. I've also had a few times what felt like contractions of my cervix or something. Like kind of a pressure? Or like a pulling? But then it always pops in my head... you're imaging all of these things because you want to be pregnant, let it go.

I use Ovia and iPeriod to track things. My periods are super predictable, like clockwork. I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was 14 (26 now) but personally believe it was a misdiagnoses, or that being very overweight as a teenager led them to diagnose me... I have issues with facial hair but the fact that my periods are always like clockwork and I'm in a healthy weight leads me to believe I'm good. I haven't had a cyst (I can feel them, which is what led me to ask my mom to take me to the doctor initially) since I was 14.

Anyways, I think I'm going nuts! I'm going to get on this board a lot more and learn from you all!!!

You're hilarious.

KatzKiss · June 2014

You say in your post that you are being irrational and looking into your symptoms too much and when we agree with you, you get angry? I don't get it. Keep in mind that we have seen hundreds of these posts with people saying the same thing and having the same experiences. Therefore, we know those apps won't help you. We know no woman's body works like clockwork and we know that if you're far along enough to have symptoms then you're far along enough to turn a test positive. You can go to another site that tells you everything you say and do is right and you're probably KU or you can stay here, learn and actually get the best information to help you get pregnant. It's up to you.

Catcherryesux · June 2014

This is definitely a site where you want to lurk for awhile or maybe respond to other posts before starting your own post. I've been lurking for about a month and have found that posting a variation of "I'm getting negative pregnancy tests but having crazy symptoms" will get you about the same response as going to the myfitnesspal boards and complaining that weight lifting made you bulky- that is you will get run out of there by no less than 50 other posters.

If you truly ovulated 12 days ago, it is possible you could be pregnant this cycle and still get a negative test. But if that's the case your symptoms are not related to pregnancy then. If there enough hormones to give you symptoms there's enough for a positive test.

If you get lucky and get pregnant this cycle or in the near future it won't matter as much, but if it takes you 6-12 cycles or more you will drive yourself insane 10 days each month searching for evidence that you're pregnant.

JNCPro3130 · June 2014

First of all, welcome and good luck with your TTC journey. This is also my first month TTC and it can be a crazy mind game. The ladies here are great! Try the 2WW because everyone there is feeling the same way you are. They are very supportive.

I have been charting my BBT for 4 cycles now. I have a relatively "regular" 29 or 30 day cycle; however, I haven't ovulated on the same day yet. If I were using an app to help me, I would most likely miss my window. That is what the ladies are trying to tell you. They are trying to help you during this crazy time. These ladies know what they are taking about!

klax4 · June 2014

Knottie42853389 said:
OMG... is this message board one that could be observed in support of deindividuation theory?

I'm just trying to talk to other women who are new at trying to get pregnant, and read about their experiences. i literally introduced myself less than an hour ago and it only took a few minutes for someone to compile a dissertation on what i'm doing wrong and tell me i'm bad at following instructions.

Your referral to deindividuation theory is laughable. I'm new too but I learned through lurking that these ladies are, in fact, very self-aware. They would (and do) readily share their individual thoughts. The reason everyone's reaction is the same is because the newbie blog covers all your questions. Well, that and you can't argue with science.

TTC is stressful. I'm learning that sucking up as much knowledge as possible helps to keep you from losing your marbles.

SpartanChick88 · June 2014

@Knottie42853389‌ you said, you are looking to talk to other women who are new to TTC - a lot of these women know more than most docs about how the female reproductive system works. Listen to them, don't argue when they tell you something doesn't work.

I have one child already and feel like it was pure dumb luck that we made her considering how little I really knew. Now I'm paying much closer attention.

listen, learn, don't argue and you will go far

epidemic · June 2014

@Knottie42853389‌ Yeah, not going to touch the other bits of the post bc the other ladies have covered it, but I did hone in on you saying you're mil-mil. My husband and I are too, Air Force. What branch are y'all in? Maybe you could intro yourself a bit more? Edit: Words are hard. And I've had a glass of wine..or two

janda426 · June 2014

LMAO that FDL is condescending. She is the only one of us who puts up with the crap around here! She gave you incredibly useful information. You're being incredibly rude by throwing that back in her face.

Also FFS your cycles have been "clockwork" because you were on a hormonal pill that was MAKING them clockwork. Does it not compute with you that once you stop the hormone your body might act wonky for a while?

And I'll repeat the others: yes those apps are useless. They assume you, me, and the lady down the street all have the same uterus and ovulate on cycle day 14. Fertility friend and charting your BBT gives you YOUR personal data and confirms YOUR ovulation. Unless you do that you are simply assuming when you ovulated.

Go read that newbie blog and lurk for a while. Feel free to apologize to FDL and maybe thank her for the info she gave you. You haven't jumped off the deep end yet so there's hope for you still. I suggest you step back and think that maybe some of us who have been here for a long time know what were talking about.

Trampslikeus · June 2014

I have such a hard time wrapping my head around the logic of these posts.

What could possibly have been posted here that would have been a satisfactory answer for you?

No, those random symptoms aren't gas and wishful thinking, because we snuck in to your house this afternoon, stole your pee, tested it, and confirmed you ARE in fact pregnant!!! Now let's help you design your jungle theme nursery!! Congratulations!!!

I mean, really...

rayschicky · June 2014

Knottie42853389 Proof that those apps are useless: I too, have always had 27-29 day cycles. Check out my chart. I'm on CD 29 and haven't even ovulated yet. The only reason I know this is because I temp. If I didn't I'd probably be going SQUEEEEE I'm PREGNANT! since I don't have my period. (okay I probably still wouldn't squee lol) At this rate I'm probably looking to have a 40-45 day+ cycle - out of nowhere. Please, please, save yourself some sanity and start charting - its actually pretty easy and FF has great tutorials. I feel much more in control and less stressed now.

Catcherryesux · June 2014

"What could possibly have been posted here that would be satisfactory to you?"

Well I can't really speak for the OP, but if I had to guess, I'd say the million dollar answer would be, "my mom/sister/friend/cousin had all those same symptoms, and she didn't get a positive test until the day she went into labor." That anecdote is pretty popular on other sites when someone brings up pregnancy symptoms and negative tests.

BillyHorrible · June 2014

I had my first period in 1992. From 1992-2009 I had a 28 day cycle. Every.Month. In 2009, I started temping and guess what - I rarely ovulated on the same day every month. Which means having a 28 day cycle for 12 years meant nothing in predicting ovulation. I had a more than clockwork cycle, I had the textbook cycle - the one everyone assumes you have. But I didn't ovulate on day 14, like I should have if I was a textbook. In reality, your arguments just make it more and more clear that you don't understand how a woman's cycle works. Which isn't your fault, since they don't teach it in school. The problem is, that when more educated persons point that out, you argue, instead of realizing that maybe you're wrong.

As my dad used to say - if 7 people tell you you're drunk, lay down.

notthefather · June 2014

Am I the only one who has no idea what "geo-bachelors" are??

notthefather · June 2014

bibliothecary said:

notthefather said:

Am I the only one who has no idea what "geo-bachelors" are??

Geo-bachelor (n.)- geographic bachelor; (1) a service member who is stationed in one locations, whose family resides in another location; (2) the spouse of a service member who chooses not to move to a new duty station.

Thanks. For some reason I was afraid to google. Such terms as "two girls, one cup" and "blue waffle" also sound innocuous. You never know!

Anyway, that situation sucks.

Knottie42853389 · October 2014

So, we weren't able to have sex regularly for June/July/August but we were finally in the same place together for 30 days straight in September. And guess what! I only used an iPhone app to track my periods and bam... BFP last week. I know this is an old thread, but I felt legitimately downtrodden by all of the responses to my initial post on this thread back in June. So, if anyone is reading this out there who is new to this world, don't let anyone tell you your business! And don't take medical advice from these people. They'd like you to believe they are OB/GYNs, but they're just women with 13,000 posts in an online forum.

Ant&Al2825 · October 2014

Seriously OP. You got lucky, it had nothing to do with your app. GTFO.

yaassgaga · October 2014

Cool story bro. Can I go back to eating my snack pack pudding now?

MrsC0617 · October 2014

I really don't need this right now. At all.

ayo82 · October 2014

Knottie42853389 said:

So, we weren't able to have sex regularly for June/July/August but we were finally in the same place together for 30 days straight in September. And guess what! I only used an iPhone app to track my periods and bam... BFP last week. I know this is an old thread, but I felt legitimately downtrodden by all of the responses to my initial post on this thread back in June. So, if anyone is reading this out there who is new to this world, don't let anyone tell you your business! And don't take medical advice from these people. They'd like you to believe they are OB/GYNs, but they're just women with 13,000 posts in an online forum.

ramaholic · October 2014

Hugs @MrsC0617

icaughtfire · October 2014

You've been stewing about responses you received on the interwebz since JUNE?! How sad is your life?

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