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My confession of the morning

KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
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I'm really glad that there is such an awareness of breast cancer, but I wish there was just as much for m/c and IF.  I wish there were the fundraisers, the walks, the programs, the support.  I wish m/c and IF weren't so secretive.  I want just as much recognition.  M/C happens in 1 in 4 pregnancies.  I believe breast cancer affects 1 in 8 women.  Heart disease is actually the most prevalent killer of women, but there isn't as much awareness.  So this is probably a silly post, but it's what is on my mind this morning for some reason.  And in no way am I suggesting that breast cancer awareness is not a good thing, it has saved many lives.
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Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle!
April 2011 CP @ 5 weeks
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  • Luckiest03Luckiest03
    I agree.  Breast Cancer awareness is a GREAT thing, but there are many other heart-breaking/deadly things that effect woman as well.  It's sad that it's almost embarassing to admit to m/c or IF.  It should be something that people are more aware of and have more support for.  It's very hard to go through it alone...
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  • mh2tmh2t
    I know what you mean.  I don't know that I necessarily want charity races for m/cs, but I would really like to be able to tell people about it without feeling that I'm revealing something shameful or too personal to talk about. 
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  • bellaciaobellaciao

    I understand what you're getting at, but aren't most miscarriages unavoidable?  Meaning that there really isn't anything that can be done to prevent them in most cases?  As such, what would the money raised be used for?

    I can definitely understand raising money to fund IF programs - I think that would be a GREAT cause, and I would whole-heartedly support it!

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  • abs711abs711 member
    I agree I wear a M/C Awareness Bracelet and everyone that see's it asks if I hava someone suffering from Breast Cancer.  Then I get a little snippy it's like can't you see the pink AND blue on the ribbon.  And I am the one suffering. 
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  • MrsGhappilyeverafterMrsGhappilyeverafter
    I feel exactly the same way.  It's crazy too because when I start talking to people about m/c, I've encountered so many women who have had one too.  My mom and her 2 sisters and my MIL all had m/c's before having their kids.  That's a lot of women in just one family.  I'm really glad breast cancer awareness has grown as much as it has (my mom and grandmother (on my dad's side) are survivors), but I wish there was that kind of awareness for m/c and IF as well.
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  • WBsLadyWBsLady

    Interesting thought.  I agree that there should be more awareness.  I hate the fact that my m/c creates such a feeling of embarrassment when I talk to anyone other than DH and you ladies. 

    I think one of the reasons why its so shunned is because its simply not talked about, so that leads to the perception that its abnormal.  I faught and still fight feelings of "my body doesn't work" because I see so many women getting pregnant accidentally.  The stories of the accidental pregancies are much more popular and embraced then our stories.

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  • KristysRedBarnKristysRedBarn
    I don't know that if they could prevent any m/c or not with further research.  But I think further research would be helpful.  If we better understood why it happens, then maybe there are things we could do to prevent it.  I don't know though. I would really like more research to be done on why chromosomes translocate, maybe it wouldn't be preventable, but it would help to understand it better.  In my limited research, I found a lot of resources that said "we just don't know why it happens".  More research for IF would be wonderful too.  I know I personally support research that is being done on Downs, because it's close to my heart, but they are severly underfunded.
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  • BeachBride72106BeachBride72106
    I agree it would be great to able to talk about it more openly.  I also wish there was more information on stillbirths.  I know no one wants to think it can happen to them but after we suffered ours I found a statistic that over 50% of women who experience stillbirths report diminished fetal movement the week before (I fall into that catagory).  If doctors emphasized kick counts or what to do if you experience diminshed kick counts maybe more babies could be saved.  But again this is something obviously close to my heart.
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  • labbie1821labbie1821

    imageabs711:
    I agree I wear a M/C Awareness Bracelet and everyone that see's it asks if I hava someone suffering from Breast Cancer.  Then I get a little snippy it's like can't you see the pink AND blue on the ribbon.  And I am the one suffering. 

    Where did you get your M/C Awareness bracelet? I would love to get one, did you buy it over the internet? 

     

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  • lelialelia member

    ahhh, a girl after my own heart. I wish I didn?t have to feel embarrassed about having m/cs and spend most of the time avoiding the subject because other people just can?t handle it or say stupid things. If there were a sticker for it, I?d put one on my car. I?m sure the Germans would be clueless, but I?d feel a little better.

     

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