Name Vent

MissMandyD · June 2014

Why do people feel the need to jump in and say they don't like a name you have already decided on?

We picked our girl and boy names ages ago and are really happy with them. Since we are Team Green we don't know which names we will be using but either way we are really happy with our choices. My Mom has said several times that she LOVES the girls' middle name and that she doesn't like the first name. We just decided on a nickname for the first name and I was excited to tell her because I thought she might like it better...and got an immediate "oh I don't like that." I just don't get why people say this stuff when they should know you aren't going to change your mind!

I now understand why people keep names a secret. We have only told our close friends and family and my families' reactions have been pretty lousy all around.

Also I think the name Esther Rose is very cute and unique. In case anyone is interested we just decided on Etta as the nickname.

Vent over. Enjoy some guy candy for your time!

lct2008 · June 2014

Well not that my opinion means anything but I LOVE the name Esther rose. I seriously think that is so beautiful.

pnwlover12 · June 2014

I'm totally with you on this. My BFF has no filter with her opinion on our names. Which is interesting, because she gave her daughters very unusual names (Darien and Yvaine)...but apparently if I named my son Jack, it would forever remind her of "bratty, fat little boys"

WTF?!

MissMandyD · June 2014

pnwlover12 said:

I'm totally with you on this. My BFF has no filter with her opinion on our names. Which is interesting, because she gave her daughters very unusual names (Darien and Yvaine)...but apparently if I named my son Jack, it would forever remind her of "bratty, fat little boys"

WTF?!

Jack is the middle name in our boy name! I love that name. If LO is a boy it will be Byron Jack.

ohioloveyou · June 2014

I like Esther Rose! I think it's very classic!

Heartwood0519 · June 2014

My mom told me yesterday, in a round about way, that she didn't like my top pick. But then after she realized it was my top pick, she backtracked and said she liked it.

You're going to get opinions if you share, you just have to not care and do what you want! They'll grow to love the name because they'll love your child.

bumpuser10309732 · June 2014

This is exactly why we're not saying anything. My MIL is really opinionated which is fine, but she thinks that her opinion is the right one and everyone else is wrong. Lol She said that she thinks girl names should sound feminine and that she's worried we're going to pick a name that reminds her of one of her bratty students (she's a middle school teacher) And then we'll say one we're thinking and she'll go to say something and then be like no I'll just keep my mouth shut. Mmmk that's worse than just telling me what you're going to say!

MrsL2B · June 2014

Etta is an adorable nickname.

golfingdarwinfish · June 2014

Eh, I really don't care if people tell me they don't like LO's potential name or name candidates. People dislike every name. I often appreciate the insights into why people may judge/critique a name because I know that it happens on a daily basis, especially when it comes to resume reviews, school applications, etc..

At the end of the day people will continue to voice their opinions regardless of whether or not they will be heeded.

irisheyes317 · June 2014

I'm sorry your mom is being frustrating. This is exactly why we're waiting to tell anyone until after the baby is born. I know my mom would react the same way, no matter what we pick. For now, I would try not to worry about it too much and just move forward with the names you like. My guess is that once the baby is around 6 months old or so, your mom will start to think that she couldn't imagine him/her with any other name.

p.s. I think the name is adorable!

SusieBW · June 2014

DD's middle name is Esther. It was my Nana's name. I love it. We nearly named her Esther Grace, but Tatum seemed to suit her more when she was born. I think Etta is a great nickname, too. Makes me think of Etta James, who I love.

But try not to let other people's preliminary opinions phase you. Everyone will always have an opinion, and all I can think is that they will all be biting their tongues when your adorable baby girl gets here and everyone is cooing over little Etta. Or, if you really feel like being vindictive, you could just respond with, "well that's a awful thing to say about your granddaughter, and I hope that she never hears you say that."

jesslinnn · June 2014

People are douches. Unless someone asks for opinions on a name, just keep the comments to yourself.

Btw: I love the name you chose. Esther is an awesome name.

Wino411 · June 2014

pnwlover12 said:

I'm totally with you on this. My BFF has no filter with her opinion on our names. Which is interesting, because she gave her daughters very unusual names (Darien and Yvaine)...but apparently if I named my son Jack, it would forever remind her of "bratty, fat little boys"

WTF?!

Reminds me of my friend who said one of our top picks Austin just reminded her of Autism... really?!? Guess that big ole city in TX didn't come to mind, you went straight to Autism. Mind you her son's name is ridiculously close to dreidel but I had sense enough to keep my opinion to myself.

ETA: I think Esther is a lovely name.

IrishHoney123 · June 2014

Esther Rose is a beautiful name, and Etta is adorable. I don't understand why filters are removed when it comes to pregnancy/babies/parenting and people feel like they can say ANYTHING.

MissMandyD · June 2014

IrishHoney123 said:

Esther Rose is a beautiful name, and Etta is adorable. I don't understand why filters are removed when it comes to pregnancy/babies/parenting and people feel like they can say ANYTHING.

Amen!

Saragoeswest · June 2014

pnwlover12 said:

I'm totally with you on this. My BFF has no filter with her opinion on our names. Which is interesting, because she gave her daughters very unusual names (Darien and Yvaine)...but apparently if I named my son Jack, it would forever remind her of "bratty, fat little boys"

WTF?!

The key word here is FILTER. Are people increasingly born without one or do they just lose theirs when it comes to pregnancy?

staryb · June 2014

This is why we aren't telling people our name until it's officially on the birth certificate. We came up with names years ago and we're not changing them for anything or anyone! People can be so thoughtless!

AppleGrapeMSTK · June 2014

FWIW, your name choices are gorgeous.

I ran my name choices by my sister, and she was very opinionated, too. Tough cookies, kid, those are our names. The name she liked the least is the one we decided on. When I told my mom, she tried overly hard to tell me how much she liked it- which made me believe that she doesn't actually like it. I told her that it was great, but her opinion didn't matter.

My buddy's nephew is Ak.in.seth (..for privacy). It was either made up or from a video game- no one said jack to the parents about how funky we all thought it was because it's none of our damn business.

fireflyrebirth · June 2014

Sorry your mom is being like that! Hopefully when she's cooing over her grandchild in the fall she's going to have a hard time having any kind of negative opinion

I also think your choice is lovely.

themiss · June 2014

Major bummer

But, like everyone else has said, I LOVE the name Esther! I'm Jewish and celebrated Purim growing up as a child, and loved Queen Esther from the stories.

lilmissfancy · June 2014

Yeah, pp are rude! Ester rose is a nice name. My mom tells me all the time she doesn't like the name we chose. She said she will be calling him something else. She sounds so annoying when she says his name. "You should call him Jason instead of Jaaace."

sabby2 · June 2014

Esther Rose is a beautiful name! Congrats on baby girl!

femail · June 2014

I like the name you've picked out, OP!! We were at my nephews birthday party on Sunday & my brother in laws mom (without thinking, which is normal for her) blurts out "That would be a weird name for a girl..." then someone pointed out that it was the name we picked for our little girl. It bugged me at first, but her opinion doesn't really matter, so I just let it roll off my shoulders. Her name is Zelda for crying out loud....

[Deleted User] · June 2014

This is my biggest pet peeve and the reason I'm not telling anyone our LO's "official" name until he's born. Then people usually don't voice their opinions, because it doesn't matter at that point.

My best friend (who's about 5 weeks ahead of me) is naming her son Oliver. Most everyone she tells has a negative opinion about it. We were at a wedding last weekend and she told this name to our mutual friend's mother, who crinkled up her face and replied "Ewww I don't like it. Then people are going to call him Ollie or whatever." At that point I was so sick of this that I loudly told my BFF "Sarah, you need to just stop telling people. Who cares about their opinions anyway?!" and that shut the mom up.

jusmale · June 2014

I agree with some of the other comments. We are not telling anyone the name until after it's on the birth certificate. I have told my mom a few of the names I liked after I removed them from my list. She keeps asking me if we picked a name yet and if I have any other favorites and I will continue to say "no".

MissMandyD · June 2014

noonandj04 said:

This is my biggest pet peeve and the reason I'm not telling anyone our LO's "official" name until he's born. Then people usually don't voice their opinions, because it doesn't matter at that point.

My best friend (who's about 5 weeks ahead of me) is naming her son Oliver. Most everyone she tells has a negative opinion about it. We were at a wedding last weekend and she told this name to our mutual friend's mother, who crinkled up her face and replied "Ewww I don't like it. Then people are going to call him Ollie or whatever." At that point I was so sick of this that I loudly told my BFF "Sarah, you need to just stop telling people. Who cares about their opinions anyway?!" and that shut the mom up.

I really don't get why people think saying something is a good idea!

We seriously considered the name Oliver. I love that name it is was my great grandfather's name.

miss.brittany · June 2014

I think Esther Rose is very pretty!!!

When I was pregnant with my first, I noticed people sometimes had negative reactions to DD1's name. They would try to hide it but sometimes you'd just get that funny look before they'd say something like, ohh that's unusual. lol Because of that I did ask DH how he'd feel about keeping DD2's name a secret. He's on board so (once we pick a name!!) we're not sharing until she's born. Plus it'll be more of a fun surprise that way.

Cutiecruz327 · June 2014

I love Etta! Ester is nice too, nothing to complain about!

Sockgnome78 · June 2014

I love the name you picked.

This is one reason I wanted to wait to tell people the name. We are going to tell when we reveal the gender. So we will see.

white714 · June 2014

My neighbour just named their daughter Esther. It's making a comeback! I think it's a pretty name.

AmandaJean12 · June 2014

My mom doesn't like our name choice and does a bad job of hiding it so we told family we don't have a final name decision. Our close friends know and love it, but I'm so sick of people's opinions id rather not talk about it.

Both my sister and I had super common names - like 5 girls in my graduating class had the same name. I just can't do that to my child, it made me crazy.

MissMandyD · June 2014

AmandaJean12 said:

My mom doesn't like our name choice and does a bad job of hiding it so we told family we don't have a final name decision. Our close friends know and love it, but I'm so sick of people's opinions id rather not talk about it. Both my sister and I had super common names - like 5 girls in my graduating class had the same name. I just can't do that to my child, it made me crazy.

Are you also an Amanda? I am Amanda but go by Mandy. There were 3 Mandy's in my graduating class and another 5 Amandas. Drove me crazy too!

slsl509 · June 2014

My mom is totally the same way. We're not sharing names for that reason.

archi35 · June 2014

Completely understand and sympathize - this is why we are not sharing with anyone. To tack on, I also find it incredibly rude when family thinks they have a right to know and participate. For us, when we told certain people we weren't sharing the potential name options they got very taken aback - like this is something in which they had a "right" to participate. Ridiculousness. What do you even say to people like that? I get if they felt left out, but that's disappointment on your part not insult on my part. And spoiler alert: your shitty reaction to just not being involved co-signs my thinking to exclude you completely!

OP: I love the name you chose btw

AmandaJean12 · June 2014

MissMandyD said:

AmandaJean12 said:

My mom doesn't like our name choice and does a bad job of hiding it so we told family we don't have a final name decision. Our close friends know and love it, but I'm so sick of people's opinions id rather not talk about it.

Both my sister and I had super common names - like 5 girls in my graduating class had the same name. I just can't do that to my child, it made me crazy.

Are you also an Amanda? I am Amanda but go by Mandy. There were 3 Mandy's in my graduating class and another 5 Amandas. Drove me crazy too!

Yup! We had two Mandys and 3 Amandas in a graduating class of 110.

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