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Late Term and Child Loss
jocie28
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My 41 week loss
jocie28
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** Living child mentioned**
I'm glad I found this board. I was a lurker on Dec '13 but never officially signed up for the Bump until now. My story is probably going to be a long one...I'm 33 & have been married for 10 years, we also have a 3 year old daughter named Etta. We live in MN. The day after Christmas I was 9 days overdue & I went into labor. We went to the hospital, I labored for 2 hours - the baby was kicking the entire time & nurses were monitoring for the heartbeat. There were no problems then or during my pregnancy. I pushed for 20 minutes, the baby came out, they put her on my chest, we didn't know the gender so we were focusing on finding out. We were so excited. We swore she was a boy so we were shocked when we saw it was a girl. My other daughter didn't cry when she was born so I wasn't concernd when she wasn't screaming. I held her for about one minute until the midwife said they wanted to look at her. They took her to the warming area in the room. A code blue & code red was called. About 20 doctors & nurses flooded the room. They worked on her for 30 minutes. They tried everything. Finally the pediatrician said "I'm sorry she didn't make it." The worst moment of my life. We were all in shock.
Mae Grace, 8lbs 4.5 oz, 21 in long.
We decided not to do an autopsy so we will never know what happened. We have never met anyone or talked to any doctors who have experienced death during delivery like this. We assume she had a stroke but will never know.
I feel like I walked around like a mummy for about 4 months. I'm starting to finally come out of the fog & live life again. I recently attended a newborn grief group. I felt lighter when I left. It was nice to talk to people who are experiencing the same emotions. My husband & I are lucky to have a strong support circle in our friends & family. But even with that everyday is tough. We focus on parenting our other daughter but we miss Mae every day. We are not ready to discuss another baby. I'm struggling with how we are going to survive Christmas this year.
Its hard to believe she's been gone almost 6 months.
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Re: My 41 week loss
Me 32 (Stage IV Endometriosis, short luteal phase) DH 38
Married 5/2010
January 2014- DS born healthy at 35.4 weeks
February 2014- DS passed away due to complications from adenovirus
February 2015- Rainbow baby DD born at 36.3 weeks
My chart: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/42fd32
NTNP 2009-2012 TTC since 2012:
Jack has handpicked his sibling up there
My blog about IF and loss ... Kate's IF Blog
Asher born February 5, 2011.
Baby #2 born sleeping at 20 weeks. May 6, 2014.
8/12-Suprise BFP- Sweet Bunny Born Sleeping 11/21/12 (19 weeks)
-5/7/13- MMC (8 Weeks)
11/6/13- BO discovered at 7 weeks- natural MC 11/25/13
8/14- Surpise IF dx...low AMH (.24)- moving on to IVF
IVF #1- 11/14- 6R5M4F=2 perfect frosties
12/19/14- FET of 2 embabies = BFP!!! One Little Bean EDD: 9/3/15
Everyone Welcome.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your beautiful baby girl. I hope sharing with the ladies here helps you find comfort and peace.
My Blog
BFP# 1 7/7/12 Beautiful DD born still at 36 weeks 5 days on 3/2/13
Diagnosed with PCOS in 2005. Started Metformin July 2013
Please be our rainbow!!
**All AL Welcome**
TTC since 10/2010
IUIs # 1-5 = BFFN
IVF # 1(July 2012) = BFN
IVF # 2 (November 2012) = BFP (MIssed MC D&C @ 8w3d on 1/10/13)
Oh! I'm so sorry. It is unthinkable, it should never happen. I'm glad you found us. Here you will be surrounded by women who have lived it as well, you are not alone. I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Mae Grace will be honored here, something I find comforting as well and something your baby girl deserves. Big hugs.
PS I'm so glad you're feeling lighter. I lost my daughter less than 2 weeks ago after 4 days with her. I just need reassurance that I'll be happy again. Your post broke my heart but also gave me hope that it does get better.
3rd pregnancy -- 1st baby -- praying for a rainbow
#1 EDD 5/2014 -- MMC 10weeks ~~ #2 EDD 10/2014 -- Our baby girl, born sleeping 17weeks ~~ #3 EDD 8/2015
Brooke Elizabeth born Feb 17, 2013 grew wings May 9, 2013 @ 11 weeks & 4 days old from SIDS
DS1 - 7/2011, DD 12/2012, DS2 - 4/2014, MMC - 12/2015
I'm sending you lots if positive energy and strength. Please feel free to PM me if you ever want to talk more.