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(Hyopthetical) Surrogacy question

Jessi0113Jessi0113 member
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Ok, I hope I'm not over stepping any boundaries with this question, and if I am I am truly sorry, but I have found myself wondering about something lately, and I wonder if anyone else thinks about it too. If by some miracle I were to get pregnant tomorrow (not that that would be the case, just a time frame for reference), and the pregnancy and birth went smoothly with no complications, would I ever consider offering to be surrogate for a stranger going through IF? Knowing the pain and heartbreak that comes with IF first hand, I think I would be more apt. I know there would be a lot of things to consider, and it may be that I'm being naive, but I really think I would. Just something I've been pondering, helps me to survive the TWW with a little more ease lol.
Me: 27 DH :28
NTNP for 3 years 2008-2011
TTC since Nov. 2011 (BBT, Charting, OPK's)
"Actively" TTC since Feb. 2014
HSG Feb. 2014 - all clear
SA - all good
Mar. 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
Apr. 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
May 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
Learned Clomid unmonitored is a NO-NO
July RE appointment - finally!

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Re: (Hyopthetical) Surrogacy question

  • Jessi0113Jessi0113 member
    I agree that donating money does sound like a better idea. I guess I was thinking of it more like a last ditch effort kind of thing. I just think that, in my case, if after all the testing and trying, I'm still unable to achieve what it is we are all hoping for, I don't know what I would do. I would feel so blessed if someone told me they know what I'm going through, they've been there, and are willing to help in that way. I don't think I would bank everything on it, but that would still give me hope if all else failed. Again, I am probably being naive and I know there would be a lot to consider, and I'm thankful for your opinion.
    Me: 27 DH :28
    NTNP for 3 years 2008-2011
    TTC since Nov. 2011 (BBT, Charting, OPK's)
    "Actively" TTC since Feb. 2014
    HSG Feb. 2014 - all clear
    SA - all good
    Mar. 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
    Apr. 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
    May 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
    Learned Clomid unmonitored is a NO-NO
    July RE appointment - finally!

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  • TTCBabyJTTCBabyJ member
    Definitely donating money sounds like a better option for me. I'm already disappointed enough in the way my body functions or lack there of, I would hate to have the pressure of someone else's happiness riding on my "finicky" body.
    Me: +35 DH: +35
    TTC: Since January 2013 
    DX: PCOS. Severe Endometriosis, Unicornuate Uterus w/only left tube and left ovary, Pedunculated fibroid (on the outside of uterus) and Anovulation. All conditions diagnosed 8/13
    TX: Metformin
    DH DX: MFI - low morphology, low motility
    Ultrasound shows both kidneys in spite of UU. 
    HSG showed clear tube on the left side. 
    Lap Surgery performed 1/9/14 to remove fibroid and endo (Stage 3)
    • IUI# 1 June 2014 started 100 mg of Clomid - 7dpiui Progesterone: 13: BFN
    • IUI#2  July 2014 started 100 mg of Clomid - 7dpiui Progesterone: 5.75: BFN
    • Natural Cycle - so shocked to be in 2WW - 7dpo Progesterone: 15.5: BFN
    • Working with new RE starting injectables in late August.
    • IUI #3 August 2014  w/ Menopur: BFN
    • Finally ovulating on my own!!
    Waiting to start IVF hopefully
    **********All Are Welcome**************
    3T January Siggy Challenge: New Year's Resolution
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  • ky29ky29 member
    I've actually thought about it too. It depends on how many kids we want, and how old I am. But I would definitely consider it.

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    TTC since March 2012
    DX: MFI (4% motility)
    Cycle 13: Natural cycle w/ HSG test = BFP
    Identical twins! 
    Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks
    Cycle 14-16: Natural Cycles = BFN
    Cycle 17: Follistim + Trigger + IUI = BFN
    Cycle 18: Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 19: Follistim + Trigger +IUI#2
    Polyp found: SIS 11/11 - hysteroscopy 11/14
    Cycle 20: Follistim + IUI#2 = BFFN
    Cycle 21: Follistim (adj. dosage) + IUI#3 TI  = BFN
    IUI cancelled due to weather
    Cycle 22: Follistim + IUI#3.1 = BFN
    Cycle 23: treatment break, IVF consult
    Cycle 24 - 26: natural cycle w/ acupuncture + Chinese herbs = BFN
    Cycle 27: Follistim + IUI#4 = BFFN
    Natural Cycles until IVF
    Cycle 30: IVF#1 - Starting with Menopur + Follistim + Ganirelix
    17 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 5dt w/ 2 blasts, 5 frosties
    Betas:  #1-156(9dp5dt), #2-1200(13dp5) #3-6112(17dp5)
    Ultrasound #1 10/6: 1 bean!
    TEAM BLUE!
    My Chart
    ~~ALL WELCOME~~

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  • lebradfordlebradford member
    I've thought about it before. I'm not sure if I could do it. I was signed up to be an egg donor before I started TTC, so that is a way I would like to help. However, now that I know I have an ovulatory disorder, it seems extremely unlikely that I would qualify to be an egg donor. However, just because a person has an ovulatory disorder doesn't mean that their body isn't good at being pregnant, you know? I think it might be possible to be a successful surrogate, even if you're dealing with infertility, depending on your diagnosis.

    I would love to help someone in that way, but I think it would be really hard not to get attached to the baby, to have strangers ask you about "your baby," etc. I would consider it for a friend or family member, but I'm not sure about a stranger.

    This probably doesn't matter much though because I'm 29 and I'd like two kids. I'd probably be "too old" to be a surrogate by the time I'm done having and recovering from having a couple of kids. I'm assuming they want you to be under 35?
    **siggy warning**  **everyone welcome**

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    DS- 11.07.02
    DSS- 6.26.04
    Married- 6.29.13
    TTC Again- Sept. 2013
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Test Results/Diagnosis- HSG & SA totally normal
    DX: 3/2014 Prolactinoma/Hyperprolactinemia- Started cabergoline 2/2014
    5/2014 Possible mild PCOS in addition to hyperprolactinemia??
    7/2014 Adding probable tubal factor to the diagnosis list
    9/2014 And now adding hypothyroid to the list- Started synthroid 9/2014
    Cycles 1-4 - Sept.-March- All Anovulatory 
    IUI #1 March/April-  Clomid 50mg + Clomid 100mg +Trigger + IUI #1 = BFN
     IUI #2 April/May-Clomid 100mg + Clomid 150mg + Trigger + IUI #2 + Endometrin=BFN
    IUI #3- June- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3  Benched due to a 40 mm cyst. :-(
    IUI #3- July- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3 + Endometrin = BFP! on 7/25/14
    Slowly rising betas - Ectopic suspected on 8/8/14 & confirmed on 8/11/14
    Methotrexate on 8/12/14 -HCG negative on 9/2/14
    IVF #1- November- Antagonist protocol: 11/1: start stims, 200iu of Follistim; 11/12 ER 17R/14M/14F; 11/17 5 day transfer of two blasts, 2 blasts and 2 expanding morulas frozen; 11/22 BFP!! (On FRER at 5dp5dt)
    Betas: 9dp5dt 205, 11dp5dt 497, 14dp5dt 1,709
    u/s at 5w0d- 1 sac; u/s at 6w0d 1 baby with heartbeat, another sac without a heartbeat
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  • Jessi0113Jessi0113 member
    I'm happy to hear that I'm not the only one that's thought about it, it's really comforting. @lebradford, yes I totally agree, it does depend on your diagnosis. As far as age goes, I have heard of mothers of those suffering from IF that are surrogates for their daughters. I think as long as your healthy, age is not too big of a factor since it's not your own egg. And it's totally awesome that you signed up to be an egg donor, I've thought about that too.

    I'm sorry if I came off as insensitive with the initial post. I didn't exactly present my question in a well thought out manner, and apologize if I offended anyone. I think I'm really hoping that what ever the problem is with me can be corrected relatively easily and I just went off of that :/

    Me: 27 DH :28
    NTNP for 3 years 2008-2011
    TTC since Nov. 2011 (BBT, Charting, OPK's)
    "Actively" TTC since Feb. 2014
    HSG Feb. 2014 - all clear
    SA - all good
    Mar. 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
    Apr. 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
    May 2014 Clomid 50 mg days 3-7 - BFN
    Learned Clomid unmonitored is a NO-NO
    July RE appointment - finally!

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  • lebradfordlebradford member
    I don't think your post is offensive at all. I think it's really awesome that you'd consider being a surrogate. I think it's hard for people to wrap their brains around being a surrogate when they're having trouble conceiving, and to a point I feel the same way, but, again, I think there's a big difference between being able to get pregnant naturally and being able to carry a pregnancy conceived through IVF.
    **siggy warning**  **everyone welcome**

    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    DS- 11.07.02
    DSS- 6.26.04
    Married- 6.29.13
    TTC Again- Sept. 2013
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Test Results/Diagnosis- HSG & SA totally normal
    DX: 3/2014 Prolactinoma/Hyperprolactinemia- Started cabergoline 2/2014
    5/2014 Possible mild PCOS in addition to hyperprolactinemia??
    7/2014 Adding probable tubal factor to the diagnosis list
    9/2014 And now adding hypothyroid to the list- Started synthroid 9/2014
    Cycles 1-4 - Sept.-March- All Anovulatory 
    IUI #1 March/April-  Clomid 50mg + Clomid 100mg +Trigger + IUI #1 = BFN
     IUI #2 April/May-Clomid 100mg + Clomid 150mg + Trigger + IUI #2 + Endometrin=BFN
    IUI #3- June- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3  Benched due to a 40 mm cyst. :-(
    IUI #3- July- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3 + Endometrin = BFP! on 7/25/14
    Slowly rising betas - Ectopic suspected on 8/8/14 & confirmed on 8/11/14
    Methotrexate on 8/12/14 -HCG negative on 9/2/14
    IVF #1- November- Antagonist protocol: 11/1: start stims, 200iu of Follistim; 11/12 ER 17R/14M/14F; 11/17 5 day transfer of two blasts, 2 blasts and 2 expanding morulas frozen; 11/22 BFP!! (On FRER at 5dp5dt)
    Betas: 9dp5dt 205, 11dp5dt 497, 14dp5dt 1,709
    u/s at 5w0d- 1 sac; u/s at 6w0d 1 baby with heartbeat, another sac without a heartbeat
    image


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