Sleep Over - Mommy not ready?!?!?!

hbrockman01 · June 2014

So my mom keeps my daughter through the week to cover the overlap in mine and my husband's work schedules. This Friday (tomorrow) we are going to a baseball game after I get off work and my mom is again watching her until I get home (hubby will need to go in later). Last night she called to offer to keep her overnight, since I have to bring her over Saturday morning for an hour or so (husband won't be home from work yet and I have a doctor's appointment). While I appreciate the offer to keep her, I just don't think I'm ready for that yet.

I was just wondering have any of you had your little one's sleep over at grandma's house, and what age were they? How did you get over your initial worry if there was any? I'm just looking for advice on how to prepare myself since I originally told her no, but my hubby thinks it would be a good idea.

smg2302 · June 2014

We did this the first time at 11 months. It was nerve wracking but dd had so much fun and didn't even want to come home.

My biggest struggle was worrying that my mil wouldn't do things the way we do. Dh said she successfully raised him and grandparents are supposed to spoil babies; one day of spoiling won't set her on a bad path.

pnutg · June 2014

My son has spent 3 overnights with my parents. There aren't many people I would trust but I had no issues with them. And C was just fine.

c-elizabethf · June 2014

Dd has slept over at my in laws a couple of times since she was a little over a month old. I trust them. I guess for me the nerve racking feeling has never completely gone away, we have a date night once every couple of months and my in laws will keep her and I always get nervous and can't relax at the beginning but after a while I feel better. (Usually a phone call and dh reassuring me helps lol) And they are wonderful parents and grandparents so I know she's in great hands, I'm glad they offer to watch her. I know my parents want to have her sleep over but I'm not ready for that just yet, they are good parents but there is a whole other story to that.

That's nice of your mom to offer, you should take her up on it, since you said she was going in the morning? It gets better each time you let her, but it's completely understandable to be nervous about it.

blush64 · June 2014

I have not left A overnight yet. I rented from my parents when my sons were young so it wasn't quite the same but I believe they were near 2 when I left them for the first time. (it was a while ago so hard to remember sometimes) Edit All that being said there is nothing wrong with either decision.

Karicomo · June 2014

Both boys slept over at grandmas somewhere between 5 months and a year. They slept through the night and love my mom so i didnt have a ton of worries. I say do it! It will be easier for you guys and you're going to have to have a first time at some point:)

john5111 · June 2014

You can do it! shell be jus fine!! We have left our Lo a few times overnight..its nervewracking at first but its get better after some time. we are leaving my Lo for the whole weekend with my in laws for the weekend and I am nervous but Ill get over it.. Its harder on you then them and gives them time with their grandparents

MAdams728 · June 2014

I have not, I am not ready, and there really isn't any reason for her to be away overnight, yet.

However, in your situation, it does make sense, since you would be bringing her right back in the morning. If she stays with your mom during the week, then she is used to being there and grandma is used to caring for her.

HZ2012 · June 2014

My LOs first sleepover at Grandma and Grandpas was when he was 2 1/2 months or somewhere around there. I'm all for it for a few reasons: gets LO used to sleeping out, gets me and DH out and free to do what we want and not have to wake up at 7 am, and it gives the Grandparents the quality time with LO that they want.

I wasn't really too worried - they raised me and my brother and we turned out ok

as far as following my directions, she did her best, and if she really needed me for something she'd call or text. I figure it's one night - if LO is a tad off schedule/routine, it's not the end of the world.

That all being said, if you're not ready you're not ready and that's ok. But if you and DH have full trust in your Mom and don't have any other worry than just leaving LO for the first time, I'd say give it a whirl - you'll enjoy a little free time

and if you hate it, then you'll know you're really not ready.

snowgirl427 · June 2014

J hasn't had an overnight. I'm not ready. I have no worries about the care he'd receive with my parents, but.... I'm just not ready.

MamaMD · June 2014

I haven't left LO overnight, I'm definitely not ready. We don't have any family living close by though so it's more of a hypothetical for me. However, I haven't even left her with someone else to put her to bed yet (not even DH). We still BF so that's my "excuse." I freely admit I might be just a little bit of a control freak!

CNJ4EVA · June 2014

DD has slept at MIL's once and FIL's once. My mom is not well enough to care for her longer than an hour or so.

We have a wedding in TN in August, not sure if we're staying 2 or 3 nights yet. DD will be staying with FIL and I know she'll be absolutely fine. I'm worried that I'M going to fall apart being away from her that long.

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Blueyed228 · June 2014

I'm not ready.

AimeeSue02 · June 2014

LO spent their first night at my ILs when she was 6 weeks old so my H and I could celebrate our anniversary out of town. It was just one night, and it was hard, but she did just fine! Since then, she has stayed over there another 2-3 times? She sleeps through the night and we are over at their house fairly often so I know she is comfortable there. My nephew practically lives there…my SIL has him stay the night 2 nights a week (she's 30 going on 21….but I digress).

The last time she was there she had a bad night though, she woke up several times crying. I hope it was just teething or something. She is staying with them again on Thursday night because we are going to a baseball game too! :-)

beatlechicksteph · June 2014

LO hasn't had any overnight stays yet, and I don't plan on ever letting him have an overnight any time soon. Maybe if he's old enough to ask, but I don't even like him being babysat. I can't stand to be without him for more than 30 minutes. But that's just me.

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