Babies on the Brain
jessicalynn416
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jessicalynn416
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Hi! I've been lurking around for awhile and just wanted to finally introduce myself. I'm 26 and my DH is (next week) 27. We got married a year ago and will have been together for 7 years this September. We both have baby fever and almost started TTC this summer. However, we decided we have a few things that would be easier to accomplish without kids including a new truck for him, redoing our kitchen and floors, and a cruise with our friends. Most importantly, we want to accomplish that prior to TTC so we can then save for baby stuff and maternity leave. I'd like to have enough of my salary saved that I can take the full 16 weeks my company offers (6 pd, 10 unpaid). This means we'll probably start next summer as we want to be youngish when we have kids.
A lot of our friends have toddlers or babies, including my 3 1/2 niece and our friend's 6 week old baby. Every time we hold them or watch them we both want a baby. It doesn't help that half (literally) of the girls I work with either just had a baby or are pregnant. Intellectually we both now we should wait until next year but it gets so hard! I am actively preventing with the pill but have said if it did happen we would be excited. I also get nervous because after 8 years on the pill, I don't know what a normal cycle looks like and I have constant fears of having problems conceiving or not conceiving. None of my non-pregnant friends IRL understand because they're not at the point where they're even thinking about having kids and all of my pregnant/parent friends say just go for it (most were unplanned pregnancies tbh). I feel like we're floating in the middle where we're seriously thinking about it but not ready yet. And neither of us are going to just go for it without thinking about everything that goes into a baby.
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US (with RE) 3/24/2014 (two healthy HB), US (with OB) 3/31/2014 (three healthy heartbeats)
BFP#2: 10/22/14 | (beta #1 75, beta # 2 219) | EDD 7/3/15 ~*Please be our RAINBOW*~
MANY of my friends are either pregnant, TTC, or JUST had a baby (many of them were unplanned pregnancies.) Whenever I'm around those friends and their babies, I go temporarily BSC. I'm like WE.NEED.TO.HAVE.BABIES.NOW...IN FACT, TAKE OFF YOUR PANTS. It's hilarious. DH and I have decided to pull the goalie as early as December, but are considering waiting as long as September 2015.
It's always such a tricky balance...because we always want to do more things, travel, have nicer things for the house, have more money saved, get a promotion, etc. Eventually, we will just have to do it...especially because with my severe PCOS and IR, my doctor encourages that I try sooner rather than later.
So, we'll hold out for at least another 6 months... until then, DH and I are going to Tahiti, Moorea, Bora Bora, Huahine, & Rangiroa in September, and then I'll be going to Fiji in December. Hooray for vacation!