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Horrible Dreams

KaylaK1987KaylaK1987 member
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I've been noticing that the week before my OB appts I've been having a few horrid dreams about miscarriage to the point that I wake up crying to my husband and running to the bathroom to check etc. The only thing that ends up making them subside is when I get to the doctor and he reports the baby is looking good and healthy so far. (finally got to see the heartbeat too and that felt like a weight had been lifted from me) once the appt is over the dreams subside. Personally, I think it's more subconscious worry over my baby and that I'm scared the doctor is going to deliver bad news, thankfully that hasn't happened, but it's still very upsetting and I doubt there's a way for me to control it- it is after all while I'm asleep. I'm sure this is the start of a constant state of worry I'm sure all parents and soon to be parents have once you have a life you have to care for added to the mix, but it is not pleasant. Have any of you experienced anything like this?
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  • richardson0911richardson0911 member
    Earlier on, yes. I was having horrible dreams and I was always in the bathroom, and half the time was just to wipe. But honestly, the only thing that helped me was to repeat the mantra that some of the women who had gone through a loss before kept mentioning on threads similar to this one was "I am pregnant today", "I am pregnant until told otherwise" "Today I will take care of myself and my baby"
    I would repeat these to myself at night before bed and rub my belly(where I assumed baby would be) and it helped with the nightmares and constant panic attacks I was having.
    These things happen, and its hard because you're already in a position to go from 0-60 in 2.5 seconds, but it was my experience that as soon as a thought started creeping, and before bed and when I woke up, I reminded myself that today I am pregnant, and will be until my dr says otherwise.
    Certainly easier said than done, and there were times when it didn't help and I just had to cry it out, and after an allotted time(I know I'm a strange one) then I would distract myself with activities and people.
    Good luck, I hope this helps some. I'm not sure how far along you are, but my guess is most of us January's are halfway through the first tri. Deep breaths, love. Feel better.
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    richardson0911 said:
    Earlier on, yes. I was having horrible dreams and I was always in the bathroom, and half the time was just to wipe. But honestly, the only thing that helped me was to repeat the mantra that some of the women who had gone through a loss before kept mentioning on threads similar to this one was "I am pregnant today", "I am pregnant until told otherwise" "Today I will take care of myself and my baby"
    I would repeat these to myself at night before bed and rub my belly(where I assumed baby would be) and it helped with the nightmares and constant panic attacks I was having.
    These things happen, and its hard because you're already in a position to go from 0-60 in 2.5 seconds, but it was my experience that as soon as a thought started creeping, and before bed and when I woke up, I reminded myself that today I am pregnant, and will be until my dr says otherwise.
    Certainly easier said than done, and there were times when it didn't help and I just had to cry it out, and after an allotted time(I know I'm a strange one) then I would distract myself with activities and people.
    Good luck, I hope this helps some. I'm not sure how far along you are, but my guess is most of us January's are halfway through the first tri. Deep breaths, love. Feel better.
    Thanks! Yeah I feel better after my appt yesterday (got to take home the picture of my little bean) it's just so frustrating. before I was pregnant I always thought it would be a breeze not a constant state of worry you know? lol. I'm 9 weeks tomorrow so yes, I'm a little past the halfway point of first tri- I'm hoping once I get through this trimester it'll level out a bit since I'll no the highest miscarriage risk will have passed.
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  • kayham12kayham12 member
    I have the same thing but mine starts 2 weeks before my appointments, right between appointments. I had a horrible dream a few nights ago and couldn't even go back to sleep. I have a constant fear that something is wrong even though the doctor says "everything's great"
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  • KaylaK1987KaylaK1987 member
    kayham12 said:
    I have the same thing but mine starts 2 weeks before my appointments, right between appointments. I had a horrible dream a few nights ago and couldn't even go back to sleep. I have a constant fear that something is wrong even though the doctor says "everything's great"
    Me too. I suppose it's just the soon to be mother in us. I never understood why my mom always worried so much about us but even this little hint helps put it in perspective. The worst part is my dreams always start happy and exciting and then flip turn for the worse.
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    My problems is mine are so clear/vivid and happen in places I go everyday! I have never had this before pregnancy. Pre pregnancy my dream were really strange and didn't make any sense, now they are so realistic it's creepy
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    kayham12 said:
    My problems is mine are so clear/vivid and happen in places I go everyday! I have never had this before pregnancy. Pre pregnancy my dream were really strange and didn't make any sense, now they are so realistic it's creepy
    Pre-Pregnancy I never dreamed that often but when I did they were vivid. The thing is, I don't recall having any other dreams so far during pregnancy except for these bad ones, which are vivid. So for the most part, my dreaming hasn't changed, it's just the dreams I do have have become upsetting.
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  • thompniathompnia member
    That must be so scary! I've been having dreams about cuddling and nursing my baby. Are you high risk? I haven't seen my OB yet. A week from Monday at 13 weeks 2 days is my first appointment, save the viability u/s (only with an u/s tech) at 7 weeks 2 days
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    All of mine are either actually losing the baby, telling people I've lost the baby or my doctor telling me I lost the baby. I really have no reason to worry, but it's pretty rough. I have endometriosis but was told that would not affect my baby, it only affects getting pregnant. My doctor even told me at 8 weeks, "you made it through the hard part, you got pregnant!" Even that was not reassuring. I have 8 days until my next appointment :-S
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    thompnia said:
    That must be so scary! I've been having dreams about cuddling and nursing my baby. Are you high risk? I haven't seen my OB yet. A week from Monday at 13 weeks 2 days is my first appointment, save the viability u/s (only with an u/s tech) at 7 weeks 2 days
    Nope not high risk at all thank God. But yes, it's super scary. I feel better after doctor told me Thursday everything was looking good and he gave me the picture to take home.
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    kayham12 said:
    All of mine are either actually losing the baby, telling people I've lost the baby or my doctor telling me I lost the baby. I really have no reason to worry, but it's pretty rough. I have endometriosis but was told that would not affect my baby, it only affects getting pregnant. My doctor even told me at 8 weeks, "you made it through the hard part, you got pregnant!" Even that was not reassuring. I have 8 days until my next appointment :-S
    Yeah not reassuring, but you deserve a congrats anyway! I've heard it's very hard to get pregnant with endometriosis so that's very exciting! Crossing fingers the next 8 days goes by without any bad dreams.
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