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2nd Time Moms ... Advice Needed

kanela13kanela13 member
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DS1 is 3.5 and DS2 is 9 weeks and DS1 sometimes (most days) cannot leave DS2 alone; he'll touch him, put his finger in his mouth (like a paci), try to pick him up, etc.  Has anyone else gone through this and if so, what did you do? I usually let DS1 spend supervised time with DS2 and once DS2 responds I'll step in and when I feel that DS1 is being too rough I'll step in, but it seems like I am always saying "be gentle", "too rough", "Please let him be", etc. Any advice would be much appreciated.
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Re: 2nd Time Moms ... Advice Needed

  • momofmanyinthemittenmomofmanyinthemitten member
    I think it just takes time. DS is 16 mos and he's gotten much gentler, but he just doesn't understand his strength yet. He head butts everyone when he snuggled, so baby is no exception. DD picked her up once and I freaked out enough (on purpose) to keep her from doing it again. There's a space in our living room that's blocked off by a gate and we call it her safety cubicle.
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  • NoodleMNoodleM member
    We are going through this right now, my daughter is almost 2 and a half and her baby brother is 5 days old. She has temper tantrums about wanting to pick him up and sometimes gets a little aggressive.

    I don't have much advice other than we don't leave the two of them alone together. We also use a lot of reminding to let her know to be gentle with him. We let her hold him in her lap once in awhile while we supervise closely and that seems to help with the urge to interact with him.
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  • tbmadeamistaketbmadeamistake member
    Our two year old responds really well to positive reinforcement for good behavior, and discipline for poor behavior she pays almost no attention to. I make sure when she is gentle I shower her with praise and kisses. She's been awesome with him lately, though still can get overly excited when shes tired.

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  • Smores730Smores730 member
    My 3.5 year old does the same. I say please leave her be about a million times a day ;) One thing worth doing is showing (over and over again) what he CAN do. Teach him where he can touch, how to touch gently, etc. Sometimes they don't understand what being too rough means.
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  • Jefrina79Jefrina79 member
    My daughter is about to be 4 and baby is one week old and we have the same issue.
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