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Need advice--would you go?

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edited June 2014 in April 2014 Moms
My twin sister's bachelorette party is this weekend. It's 2 nights in a cabin 3 hours away. I would only go for one night.

I mostly BF so I can't help but look at how much work it's going to be for me to be gone (pumping every 3-4 hours and I suck at pumping, so baby would have to take formula while I'm gone. He usually has a couple ounces of formula a day while I'm at work because of my pumping issues, so it's not like he has never had formula but I have never given it to him for a full day before.) My baby has a cold right now and is getting shots today so I just feel really bad about being away from, not to mention I have this cold too and have laryngitis right now. All in all, I really don't feel like going.

But....it's my twin sister's bachelorette. I would hate to miss out. DH has offered for me to go and that he and DS will be fine. (I feel like he's really only so supportive because he wants to go to a 2 day bachelor party in July) I haven't had more than an hour or two away from baby (well besides work!) since he was born and it might be nice to do something for myself.

I know DH and DS would be fine, but I can't help but dred going (and then be sad that I'm not going at the same time? Lol) what would you do?
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Re: Need advice--would you go?

  • AmberLiz99AmberLiz99 member
    I would go for one night. It would be hard, but for my sibbling I would do it. And it's only 3 hours away
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  • Jenn06L80Jenn06L80 member
    I would go. There is no way I would miss my sister's bachelorette party. Especially if you are only going for one night.

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  • hordolhordol member
    edited June 2014
    Thanks for your perspectives. My sister is really pressuring me to go. I feel bad cause she did a lot for my wedding and because of the baby I just haven't been there the same way for her. My cousin is throwing this party in my place because we all agreed with a baby that there's not much I can commit to. But she still really wants me to go. I tried to think about it from the perspective of which I would regret more instead of which I want to do more...I think I would regret staying home more than I would regret going.

    Eta if it were anyone else other than my sister I wouldn't even entertain the idea of going
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  • nursewinnienursewinnie member
    It sounds like you would regret not going. I've done about 3 things late night since LO has been born and always sort of reluctantly went, then had a blast!! It seems daunting to make all the details come together but it will all work out smoothly and you'll be glad you went.
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  • Laroo0220Laroo0220 member
    I would go of it was my sister. I think it would be tough but I would make it work. I haven't done an overnight away yet with this LO but did for my best friends bridal shower with ds and was glad I went.
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  • pleasantsargpleasantsarg member
    I would drop in with the baby to show support but i wouldn't stay overnight without the baby at his age.

    If it isn't possible to drop in, I would just skype or something.

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  • LaNorteLaNorte member
    You said it was 2 nights, so maybe instead of going up for a night you could go up for the day instead? I know it's far, but maybe spending the day would be less stressful than an overnight trip. But if your LO has rough nights then that would be pretty tough on you. For my sister, I would go. If you feel you can't, then I would plan something really special for the two of you later on.
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  • KatieGummowKatieGummow member
    I went to my best friend/soon to Be SILs bachelorette and I am really glad I did. I went two nights (it was nice to be out and feel normal) and left the boys with my in laws. Pumping was a bitch though. At one restaurant they couldn't accommodate me and I ended up across the street with it plugged into a hallway outlet and sitting on a gross bathroom floor. Then at a winery there was only one bathroom and four people came to the door as I was hooking up (so I let them cut), then I only pumped for 10 instead of 20 because someone else knocked.

    I was glad I didn't miss it though. I am the matron of honor and I would have felt so guilty.
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