Feeling defeated!! (just venting)

Erika101076 · June 2014

So since becoming pregnant I have finished my full time internship (this wk) and my graduate class so I have officially obtained my masters. Along with school, I am still going to the gym to lift weights and walking my dog at least 4-5 times a week. As accomplished as I feel, I am started to feel like the air in my will to do so much is being depleted. I feel like I don’t want to let my body win and that I still have more in me, that I can do all that I am doing without being so exhausted or becoming emotionally exhausted.

It’s hard to come to the realization that it’s time to slow down, I feel defeated in a sense. My husband is so proud of me for juggling all that I do and still working out that I feel like I am letting him down if I slow it down a lot or almost stop (which I know he wouldn’t be). I know this isn’t the case. He’s been great through this whole pregnancy and today he called me and I tried telling him how tired I was and how I don’t know how much longer I can keep doing so much (after I went to work, walked the dog, went to the gym, and grocery shopped) and he just changed the subject like nothing. I didn’t get mad but I got emotional and said I had to go. Now I am sitting at my computer crying just feeling so overwhelmed.

I know this is just hormones and emotions but sometimes getting it out is the best way to deal with things, so thanks for just letting me go on and on about nothing in particular

abnelsen22 · June 2014

I had a similar experience a few weeks ago. I realized I couldn't do everything I used to do. It was very demoralizing and I had a mini-breakdown.

But I realized my body/mind was speaking very clearly about what I could and could not handle. And when I ignored it, I suffered more.

I talked with my husband about it and he is super supportive of me, so that wasn't an issue. It's more I have to give myself permission to rest and take it easy. It's hard for me to do mentally, but it's just what I need to do.

Erika101076 · June 2014

I will talk to my husband about it I am just dreading it. I know he is going to be beyond SUPPORTIVE but I feel like I am letting him down (even though I know I am not). We were so active before I got pregnant I am trying with everything I have to stay active with him so he doesn’t have a crummy summer because of me. He thrives off of playing sports, lifting, and what not and I feel like admitting that I can’t keep up I am giving up in a sense.

I totally know this is just a mental battle at this point, and I need to slow down and I need to talk to my husband but as you said accepting the realization of things is a lot harder to do.

But thanks ladies!

Allison7 · June 2014

I agree with pp about having this talk with your husband in person, but what is more important is that you don't beat yourself up about it. You can probably do many of the things that you used to, but you won't be able to do all of them in one day anymore. There is no harm in changing up your schedule a bit...maybe keep walking the dog before work - walking is great for pregnancy. Then go to work (it sounds like you have some sitting time there) and go to the grocery store after. Save the gym for days that you don't have work. Or try a prenatal yoga DVD in your house - the stretching should be beneficial for labor.

Just because your husband goes to the gym every morning at 6 doesn't mean you have to as well! You are growing another person and that alone is exhausting. Your husband might not get that - some of them just don't understand until the baby is here, but it is not worth running yourself ragged or risking the baby's health so you can continue to impress your husband. And slowing down it is not giving up or losing either - it is simply doing what your body tells you it needs.

evaf82014 · June 2014

Thanks for creating this thread! I am so relieved to know I'm not alone in this Third trimester challenge. I have made a point to remain active and exercise regularly throughout my pregnancy and was just given the direction last Thursday to "slow it down". My doctor told me I could continue to exercise but to be cautious as my "cervix is short" and I need to reduce pressure, ie. stay off my feet throughout the next few weeks. She advised I am basically in a "data bubble" being over 30 weeks pregnant and not having any other symptoms (contractions, spotting, leaking) so her best advice is to take it easy and call them if symptoms appear. I'm worried about doing anything that may result in the baby's early arrival.

My husband is very concerned (understandably so) as is my family and work friends. This translates in to = EVERYONE telling me to sit, rest, do nothing! This is my first pregnancy and I am being extremely cautious while trying to keep my sanity. Exercise = Sanity. Always has for me. I, too, am dreaming ahead for when our baby girl arrives and I create some semblance of a workout schedule. I'm fortunate that my mother lives close by and will be able to help a LOT in the early months of the baby's arrival. Just hoping to have enough energy to do everything I'm dreaming of already (heck - hoping to have enough energy to SHOWER daily!)

Thinking about doing some very low key yoga. I think lots of deep breathing could definitely help! Thanks again ladies, best to you all.

Erika101076 · June 2014

Thanks ladies. You all have a valid point and I love the idea of making the gym day a day on it’s own when I know I don’t have to do 100 things but I still get the satisfaction of knowing I am doing it. It’s crazy how we let our own mind games get the best of us huh? I also get that “you’re lazy” self talk when in all reality I am working out every day by walking around with an added 35lbs attached to me

. I registered for prenatal yoga for the month of July so if anything I know I will be doing that.

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