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eg214
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Alright so I have court tomorrow at 1:30 EST. I will update this thread when we get finished.
Court Tomorrow (***UPDATED***)
eg214
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Hey y'all. SOOOO hearing is over. He wasn't there and his attorney wasn't there to start, so I thought we'd be getting off/what we wanted. His atty ended up coming about 5 minutes after we started. Basic clusterfuck with PPW, issues they were talking about that I had no idea about really. None the less, we set trial for the end of October. Requested discovery...blah blah. The judge and both attys said they believe it can be settled out of court, so I'm hoping MC gets a dose of reality when he realized how much litigation will cost him and settle out of court. I have to wait on CS until I go next month to the SS office. Once that happens, my atty said we can put in for a temp order based on that. I really hope I start getting something soon. As it stands, I can't pay my car note this month...sooo....I've managed to do this for 6 months (not working, 4.5 months with her), I don't know how much longer I can go.
BUT...I feel a tremendous weight off my shoulders and feel I can be a mom now...at least for a few months until this crap may start all over. This has been hanging over my head since I was about 3 months pregnant....so almost a year. I feel like I can love on my girl without fear of her being "taken" from me, etc. I mean, obviously I was loving on her before but it just feels different. Like I can really be her mom and enjoy this 
Thanks for all the T's & P's. Keep em coming for a possible settlement out of court, really for him to just throw his hands up and be done....
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I met with my atty today and she basically said it should be NBD, no reason to stress, regardless of the antics his atty is trying to pull. She said she thought the judge would not be entertaining of that...so we'll see. My Yahoo mail was being a POS and would not print out the entire threads of our emails so it would chop them up and omit some and blah blah, so we got some but not all or near the most important. Should be interesting to figure that out for trial.
Anyway, she did say that I should still update him on her progress, send pics, etc. I completely disagree and although I know she is the professional and I've taken her advice in the past, I think this is one thing I'm simply not going to agree with/do. He's shown ZERO interest in her, never asks about her, doesn't refer to her as his, etc. I sent pics for the first week after she was born and he didn't respond, so I stopped giving a shit and sending them. I mean, I'm sick of coddling this guy and doing all this work for him when he sits back on his ass and pretends I don't do shit and am dragging ass. He's 28, has two legs and two arms, and is just as capable as me on half this shit. What do you all think? If he cared or gave a shit, or wanted a picture for that matter, he can ask for one.
Anyway, CS looks like a no go bc of the SS issue. I have to wait until that appt next month to get this shit figured out. So another at least 2-3 months before I see a dime. FUCKING AWESOME.
PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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Re: Court Tomorrow (***UPDATED***)
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