Hi folks - this may have been asked and answered and if so I apologize for not seeing the earlier post. I switched practices when I found out I was pregnant. Long story short, my former practice was fine, but I was less than confident with my doctor after she recommended I use
misoprostol when I had a missed miscarriage and didn't properly warn me of the "pain" I would be in and recommended simple over the counter advil. I had all the side effects and ended up in the ER. Anyways, I realized after all those bad vibes of the miscarriage, etc...I wanted to start fresh.
I really like my new practice and while I don't love love my new doctor to death, I like her andI think she's competent and I feel confident with her. Here's the thing. There are 6 doctors in this practice and 3 midwives and any of them can deliver you. So after seeing my doctor for my 1st two appts. (12 weeks and 16 weeks) I've been recommended to see a different doctor for each subsequent appt. to try and meet all of them. I met with one of the midwives at my 20 week appt and she was really great. This week I meet with one of the other OB's and then another midwife on week 28 and so on and so forth.
On the one hand - I think its good for me to meet everyone and I may find I like one of the other doctors in the practice better than my own (re: find one I really connect with and love, love) I can then perhaps then switch (if not for the birth, at least for my long term Ob/Gyn care) - but on the other hand I worry that this is not allowing for as much consistency of treatment. I read someone else talking about how they chose a doctor available for their birth month and this practice isn't like that at all. With a 1 in 9 chance of my doctor delivering me, I'd say its probably good I'm meeting everyone else but again, I also wonder if things will be missed if I'm meeting with a different person every appointment. All the nurses assure me when I call that this is normal practice and I shouldn't be concerned and they have said I can try to meet with just my doctor for each appt, but they encourage meeting with everyone because of the chance of someone else delivering me. I believe thoughts on natural childbirth, C-sections, etc... are consistent through the practice, but not completely sure. I was going to talk with the doctor I'm meeting this Friday about all of this and get an idea of their practices. I will of course be meeting her for the first time.
Is anyone else experiencing this? Any non-first time Mom's dealt with this on their first pregnancies? Appreciate any thoughts and advice.
Re: Question on OB's and Larger Practices
Overall though, in my experience, it really wouldn't have mattered which doctor delivered my son. He came in once to break my water (I was fully dilated, but my water hadn't broken) and then again when it was time to "catch".
Ironically I liked her best but really all the nurses do the work in labor.
They are your encouragers, your hand holder , your dilation checker and your advocates. ob's are great but your nurse is the one you rely on once in labor.
Yep, for most women it is the luck of the draw. I know that my ob does everything she can to be there for her patients that are in labor but I think it is fairly common to deliver with another doctor since babies don't come on a schedule (at least most of the time).
From what I gather, you doctor will not be with you a whole bunch anyway and that you mainly are relying on the l&d nurses. If you are truly worried about not having the right support you may want to look into doulas. They are there the whole time.
eta: wrong there
I'm more concerned with meshing with my nurse, as a nurse myself.
mrscjmb9410 - wow 10 days of post partum visits - that's very cool. I don't think we get that here. My mom wants me to hire a nurse for the week after we get home from the hospital and even offered to pay but I know DH would hate that and I feel like I want to learn how to do everything on my own with DH's help of course.
lrobi13 - I hear ya on the Doula - I looked into one and thought about it but DH feels like a Doula will displace him and he really doesn't want anyone else in the delivery room but he, I and medical staff. I can kind of understand that and I know he'll do whatever he can to support me.
I will see the first of a meet and greet of the first doctor. So I think this is my opportunity to get to know them a hit better. Ask those questions to find out. I also believe that they are in communication with your OB.
So yes ask questions and get know their thoughts. Just like you interview for a doctor for yourself or your LO.
30 dx with PCOS 2010 treating with metformin
DS1 12-29-11 DS2 11-4-14
BFP 10/19/13 missed mc at 5 weeks d&c 11/18/13
BFP 2/16/14 Please stick baby! ! EDD 10/31/14
DX with septate uterus 3/1/14
I agree with PP that the L&D nurses do most of the work when it comes to delivery. My OB almost didnt make it.
Also, its nice because my OB does all our post partum check ups for a year. Me and baby.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Disclaimer: Didn't get through all the replies just wanted to give my perspective.
I belong to a large practice. There are 6 OB's that deliver and I go to one of the branch offices so I only have the chance of seeing 4 of those 6 doctors. I ended up getting one of the doctors who I never met deliver my son. I didn't care one bit. The nurses at the hospital were more important to me than the doctor. He literally showed up the last 20 minutes after I was already pushing for 10-15 minutes. (he was in a surgery, baby wasn't waiting... it got exciting for awhile because they didn't think the doc would even make it before baby was here) The nurses coached me through most of my labor and the doctor just checked my cervix every couple of hours.
My "regular" or "favorite" OB visited me twice during labor because he was in the above mentioned surgery. It was great seeing him but I would have been okay without seeing him.
In the end you have to decide what you like. I'm a very laid back person and had a very easy pregnancy and delivery so the doctor wasn't *that* important to me. I don't need that personal connection to feel comfortable. I just need people I trust and I trust this practice so I put my trust in all the doctors. I was more worried about whether I'd have to share a room postpartum but we'll save those horrible details for another day.
DS #1 Born: 11/29/12
LO #2 EDD: 10/20/14