I'm totally jumping the gun with this question, I know that, I would just like to hear others' stories. A quick recap, I've had an early miscarriage, infertility, a 22 week loss and our rainbow was born in March. She's amazing, I'm so in love, but like most new parents we've gotten the "when you have another...." comments. Right now I am completely undecided as to whether to have more children, and that's fine for now. But I worry that when the time comes to try or not try, I'll still be undecided.
In a perfect world I would like another child....I love being a mom and I always pictured having at least two. It would also be nice to have a boy (but another girl would be A-ok). But, MH and I are both 35, so we'd be going on 36 when and if we decide to try again. No clue if we'll have the IF issue again and how long that could take. With our angel I had an incompetent cervix...or so they think. It also could have been due to chorio. If it is IC, I am comfortable with another pregnancy because my cervix held up beautifully with my rainbow and a cerclage. But what if it was chorio? I don't know if I could handle another loss, and I know the chances of another infection are slim, but in my mind, it happened once, why wouldn't it again?
After our losses, all I wanted in the world is my rainbow baby. Well now I have her and I couldn't be happier, so a part of me feels like I should count my blessings and be happy with what we have. Like I said, I know I am rambling and unncessearily worrying about something that shouldn't even be an issue yet. But I'm just wondering...after your loss/rainbows, did you just know you wanted more? Did you struggle with whether or not to have more?
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
Re: more kids after rainbow?
BFP #2, 12/12/11, m/c 12/25/11
BFP #3, 3/09/12, CP 3/10/12
BFP #4, 7/22/12, DD#2 born 4/2013
For us, we wanted to try and see if it happened. If it did, great! If not, that would be fine, too (or at least I'd like to think we would have been fine). People always told me that I wouldn't regret having a second, but I would regret not trying. Now, I can't imagine life without her.
Now for round 3!
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BFP 7.7.09 - CVS 9.10.09 (Girl) - 9.24.09 Severe Fatal Malformation - D&E 10.7.09 @ 17wks
BFP 6.1.10 - 6.10.10 Ectopic M/C @ 5wks
BFP 10.26.10 - 10.29.10 CP
BFP 1.30.11 - CVS 3.28.11 (Girl) - EDD 10.11.11 - Born 10.6.11
BFP 12.18.12 - 12.20.12 CP
BFP 3.18.13 - CVS 5.21.13 (Girl) - EDD 12.2.13 - Born 11.24.13
BFP 6.10.14 - CVS 7.2.14 (Girl) - EDD 1.12.15 - Born sleeping 8.6.14 @ 17w5d
Clomid 50mg,100mg,150mg | Injectables + IUI#1 & IUI#2= BFN
IVF#1~ 8/2012~ 13 frosties~ BFP! OHSS
12/4/12 Luke & Kyle born @ 18 weeks
SHG+ Hysteroscopy+ FET= BFP | Cerclage+ Lovenox+ 5m Bed Rest
~Our wee guy is here! 11/27/13~
So many things run through my head, as do yours, I'm sure. I think in the end, time will help with decisions. I wish you the best of luck in making yours!
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TTC #1 since 7/2011
ME: 37 DH: 38
SA-12/28/11-normal
HSG-1/16/12-possible blocked left tube
BFP#1---CP 7/9/12
Hysteroscopy-8/9/12-blocked left tube for sure, proceeding with IUI#1
IUI#1 (Gonal-F + trigger)=BFP#2 m/c @ 19w1d D&E 1/23/13
IUI #2 (Gonal F + trigger)=BFP#3 EDD 1/6/14 TWINS!!!
Identical girls born 11/17/13
BFP#4 EDD 8/27/15 MMC at 7w6d
BFP#5 m/c at 6w
BFP#6 EDD 10/5/16 Going Strong! It's a Girl!
I say just follow your heart. Any pregnancy after loss is difficult and unfortunately we have all had our "plans" broken. If your heart is open to the up's and down's of being PgAL again then you will figure out what you want to do. Good luck. I hope you don't struggle too much with this.
TTC since 11/2009; Lap/HSG/Hysteroscopy: 5/2011 (endometriosis - removed; endocervical polyp - removed; high pressure in bilateral tubes - cleared)
BFP #1: 8/4/11; DS1 born sleeping on 11/16/11 at 19w1d
BFP # 2: 5/7/12, EDD 1/10/13, DS2 born 1/4/13
BFP # 3: 11/8/13, EDD 7/17/14, mmc 10wks
BFP # 4: 5/16/14, EDD 1/15/15, praying for our 2nd rainbow baby
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
If your family feels complete, then it's perfectly fine to be one and done. But if you truly do want another and then don't try for it, you'll always wonder about that would-have-been baby.
BFP #2 11/3/10; BO at u/s 10w6d 12/16/10; Natural MC 1/7/11; D&C 4/21/11
BFP #3 10/27/11 Please stick, LO!! 2/6/12 It's a Girl! Alexis Grace born 6/29/12
BFP#4 4/27/14 Stick, stick, stick!! 8/11/14 It's a Boy! Evan Wesley born 1/8/15
"Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow, that is patience." Let it Be (blog) ♥ My BFP Charts
This time I'm not leaving without you.
BFP Apr 2012, EDD Dec 19 2012 * twin h/b at 6wk, 9wk scan * Baby A lost at 12wks
Baby B was my rainbow born at 36wks on Nov 27 2012
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
We always knew we wanted more than one kid, so after DS we went the NTNP route. Got another BFP a few days after his first bday. Unfortunately, that pregnancy ended up being my second loss...a mmc. It took from December until August of trying again to get pregnant with DD. Not a good time. Not only were were we TTCAL longer than we'd have liked, but DS's autism was coming to light and with my being AMA and DH about to deploy...it felt like time was running out and my world was crashing down. It all ended up working out TTC-wise...though I will say that going through the second half of the pregnancy (DH was gone from weeks 16-35, I delivered at 38w) with a toddler who has some big developmental delays was a helluva challenge.
In hindsight, both the second loss and the longer TTC time (all my previous pregnancies happened within a few cycles of having a shot) were par for the course for my age. I was nearly 35 when I delivered DS. 36 for the mmc and the TTCALx2 time and I was 37 when I delivered DD. The chances for m/c and for it to take a little longer to get pregnant increase with age...but I'm sure you knew that.
Good luck with whatever you decide! Enjoy that rainbow!
BFP#2 2.5.11 (EDD 10.15.11) DS born 9.28.11
BFP#4 8.27.13 (EDD 5.6.14) DD born 4.23.14
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This was me, my pregnancy was really stressful, and for the first two to three weeks I was terrified something would happen to our rainbow. I've relaxed a lot now, but right now the idea of worrying about another pregnancy just doesn't sound appealing.
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
BFP#1 1/31/12, EDD 10/6/12 Harrison Gray born sleeping @ 18w6d. You changed our lives little guy.
BFP#2 EDD 10/29/13, C/P 2/25/13, Bye little Ish, we barely got to know you.
BFP#3 EDD 12/21/13, Baby Boots born 11/23/13 My rainbow baby!
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