Burned out :(

jellybean529 · June 2014

I am just beyond burned out right now to the point where I can't even pretend to be nice. I haven't slept more than 5 hours a night in almost a month. XH is kinda stressing me out. He was supposed to be coming this weekend so that I could go out and celebrate my birthday (which is tomorrow) but he changed his mind and said basically that he wanted to take DD back to his home...a thousand miles away in another state...for the 4th of July. I told him no, that I didn't feel comfortable with that until we have custody in writing.

Then I got worried because it was the first time I mentioned getting things in writing to him and started to worry that he'd start the divorce filing process first (even though he can't legally file in his state yet as he doesn't have residency). I printed out the divorce paperwork the next day. I will legally be able to file in about ten days.

I think I am just so overwhelmed with stress and worry about how things are going to go with the divorce that it's affecting my sleep. I am really, really looking forward to having it done, so it's not that I'm sad over it or anything. XH and I were on friendly terms for so long and now we don't even talk. Whenever we do he's short and distant with me. Even when he stayed at my house for DD's birthday he acted like that in person. He's probably dating someone. Not that I care about that (except that I feel sorry for whatever poor chick has to put up with him, because a cheater's always gonna be a cheater.) So I worry that he's going to fight back and things will get expensive. I'm broke as a joke...I can't afford the filing fee, much less a lawyer. I'm doing a little freelance work now to try and get the filing fee.

Not to mention, DD has been doing a lot better but after last weekend, when her cousins got to go spend Father's Day with their dad and she didn't, she got really upset, and she's been difficult ever since.

I have no PTO yet so I can't take a day off. I need a true, genuine day off...from work and from DD. I love her but I just need a break

20thirteen · June 2014

My co-worker has been dealing with that nightmare too. Her daughter is 5 and has been a terror because my co-worker's ex said he'd see his kids (5yo and 7mo) and then, on Father's Day, texted my co-worker saying he couldn't make it. No reason why, just couldn't make it. So the 5yo thinks my co-worker lied to her about her dad coming to visit. So this whole week, this little girl has been a nightmare for my co-worker because she thinks the reason why daddy isn't coming over is because mommy is keeping him from coming over. It's sad, hard to hear.

I hope things start to look up for you.

jellybean529 · June 2014

That just sucks! That's how I feel about this coming weekend, too. DD was really looking forward to her dad coming this weekend and now he's not? She even made him a Father's Day gift and was looking forward to giving it to him. And now he's not coming.

What gets me is that he said he couldn't afford to make the trip this weekend AND on the 4th to come visit (and stay here)...but he can afford to come pick her up and drive her back to his place on the 4th, and then make that same trip all over again? I call shenanigans on that. Serious red flag. Unless he was thinking I'd put my six year old on a plane to fly solo? Fuck that.

20thirteen · June 2014

I bet he was thinking of you (and eventually him) putting her on the plane solo. What an idiot.

jellybean529 · June 2014

Yeah that's so not happening. DD would be TERRIFIED.

tig594 · June 2014

Sorry thinks are sucking for you right now. Do you think your boss might let you work 4 10's or maybe make up some hours on a weekend in exchange for a little weekday time off?

jellybean529 · June 2014

I'm sure he would but it would be super hard...I'd have to get DD to summer camp by 7:30 AM in order to be able to finish work and pick her up before the place closes...and she is SO not a morning person. :-P

tig594 · June 2014

Even if you work through lunch? I feel her pain. DD and I both hate mornings that involve an alarm clock.

jellybean529 · June 2014

Haha, I always work through lunch

freeatlast2014 · June 2014

I've been up 19+ hours today and big court day tomorrow. Burned out isn't the word. On and my throat feels like there are tiny razor blades. I just finished antibiotic for strep last week

jellybean529 · June 2014

Hugs MrsLynnyD!!! I hope you feel better soon. That's a LONNNNNG day!

tig594 · June 2014

jellybean529 said:

Haha, I always work through lunch

Well, then you should take all your lunches next Friday!

MinnesotaMomma91 · June 2014

Hate to say it but there is a reason ive started smoking again. There is nothing like that ten minutes of peace where i hide out with my cigarette. After which i feel guilty and have to change and take a shower.

But i feel you, right now all i do is care for bentley and go to school. My mom said shell watch bentley a couple hours longer next friday so i can have a mommy date with a friend from school after school. Well go shopping and get a smoothie before we go back to the single parent life. I cant wait for next friday

jellybean529 · June 2014

Thanks ladies

I took the hour between the end of work and daycare pickup on Friday and went to happy hour with some coworkers. It helped me burn off a little steam...and I got a little more sleep this past weekend so I'm no longer at the end of my rope. Stressed, tired, but not completely overwhelmed anymore

@minnesotamomma91 put the cigarettes down and back away!! That's bad news!! As a former smoker though (quit 9 years ago) I can understand. XOXO

MinnesotaMomma91 · June 2014

I really need to quit again...

20thirteen · June 2014

Quitting is the hardest. Smoke-free for almost 2years.

MinnesotaMomma91 · June 2014

I was smoke free november 2012 when i found out i was pregnant im really disappointed in myself.

jellybean529 · June 2014

I've been smoke free for 9 years after being a smoker for 10. I feel your pain. Quitting is HARD!

20thirteen · June 2014

Haha! I also quit because I found out I was preggo! And I realize I said almost 2 years, I didn't realize how far away November was when I said that. Hahaha, but weird, when in November did you find out? I found out a few days after watching the turnout for the presidency on TV

MinnesotaMomma91 · June 2014

I found out the weekend before thanksgiving. I took an early detection pregnancy test before i went out drinking with friends

tig594 · June 2014

Ha! Well i bet that put a damper on the festivities.

MinnesotaMomma91 · June 2014

Yup there was no drinking that weekend

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