I need to vent
Because once I do, I'll feel better. So just ignore me if you wanna.
Sometimes I really can't stand kids. I've realized this since my DD started school. Kids can be so effing mean.
My daughter has been growing her hair out (it's always been a short pixie cut, HER choice).. and this past weekend she asked for a hair cut. She said it was annoying her, and in her words "I love when I have short hair! I want it like that again".. so, we chopped it short again.
Today at the bus stop a kid 2 years older says "why did you cut your hair? You look like a boy!!!! If you wore all blue, you could totally be a BOY today". Jerks have called her a boy before, but it has NEVER EVER bothered her. Apparently, she's now at an age where it does. I saw her turn a massive shade of red.... and my heart just broke. He kept at it.. "you're a boy, you're a boy!!"... I swear I wanted to punch him. I calmly said "girls can have short hair, I have short hair. Girls can wear blue. Boys can wear pink! It's not nice to make fun of someone..." and I pulled my daughter aside and said "please don't listen, you are such a beautiful girl" ... but she just shrugged her shoulders. Then her bus came and she left.
I came home and cried. I know it's such a silly thing to cry over, people will always make fun of her for something. But it upset me that it upset her this time. And I realized I need to have a talk with her- she needed to SAY something. Stick up for herself. It was like she expected me to. But, I won't always be there.
My kid would never make fun of anyone like that. I know she wouldn't! Last week someone was making fun of someone at the playground for their weight (UGH) and she approached me "why are they doing that? That isn't nice.." she knows everyone is different. She knows it's not nice. And my kid doesn't have a mean bone in her body.
I HATE that kids are so mean sometimes. I know they will be. But when it's your own kid, and you see them turn a shade of red.. even if it's just hair,it's such a crappy feeling as a parent. I wish I could hug her right now, and put her in a bubble. I know it's life. But life sucks sometimes.
.... and now I feel a little better, so thank you
(+ hers and his, ages 13 & 8)