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when it comes to custody, does this matter?

runningmama22runningmama22 member
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Hi all - I'm thinking about this far in advance, I know, but my ex just got an apartment with a guy who I know is a complete enabler of ex's drinking and drug problems. The two of them together... might as well be their 21st birthday every weekend. No joke at all.  Anyway, he now has a townhouse and I am with my parents. Does this look bad in court? My parents will be providing childcare 2 days a week, and helping with the middle of night support I will need at the beginning. I am also saving money so I can go to law school in 2 or 3 years.

Will judge think he has his shit together more than I do because he has a townhouse he's renting?

Sorry if this is stupid - I literally have no idea about any of this...
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Re: when it comes to custody, does this matter?

  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    He may have a townhouse but the judge will see that this guy doesn't have his shit together (btw, if no one has told you yet, DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT).  Just because you moved in with your parents doesn't mean you're not capable of having custody.  If that were the case, I wouldn't have DD either.  Besides, you are also planning on future endeavors to create a better life for you and your LO. He may give your BD visitation, but if he knows that the place BD is living is not suitable for a child, he's not going to let him bring your LO there.

    I have not been dragged to court because my BD is too much of a pussy to fight me on anything, but I work in a law office and occasionally hear about these things.
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  • sophia225sophia225 member
    edited June 2014
    As far as you living with your parents i dont think you have anything to worry about. The judge will see it as you and your baby being in a more stable environment, and @roxalot is right. Your trying to make a better future for yourself and your child, that will work in your favor because it shows you have goals. He on the other hand sounds like a frat boy that just worries about where the next party is. I think he will get visitation, but as far as primary custody it sounds to me like you have the upper hand. Good luck with everything! I know how stressful it can be.
    And yes Document everything! Save every text, email, fb message, everything. and give it to your atty, that will help for sure! ive even gone as far as taking a snapshot of what my BD is doing instead of taking care of his child. As soon as he posts it on FB i have it documented. again good luck!
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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    My STBXH is currently living with his parents. To be honest, I'd rather him be living there so I absolutely don't take issue with visitation and overnights occurring there. The longer he stays with them, the more comfortable I feel with him having the kids. If he were to move out, I'd have some serious worries on my hand. So no, I do not think he has the upper hand in his townhouse with his buddy. No way.
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