Community› The Bump Month Clubs› August 2014 Moms
August 2014 Moms
New Discussion

NBR: nephew was married a year ago

MandMLeonaMandMLeona member
in August 2014 Moms

So today on FB I noticed a pic of one of my nieces with a comment about a sister who's name I didn't recognize. I click on this sister and realize that it's the girl my nephew had a child with 4 years ago. Her last name now matches my nephew's. Hmmm. So I start asking around. Yep, he was married last year 6/20th...and he graduated high school last week! Ummm...congratulations, I guess. Now this is DH's side of the family...so they aren't real close...but really...you don't mention big milestones like a wedding and graduation?

All of his siblings are spread out in different states. And I've never met this nephew or his siblings. We don't send gifts every holiday, but I did send a nice gift basket when we found out he was expecting his son. So...do I send belated gifts now? Do I just ignore this? None of my options feel right.

Who does this?!?!

Report Reply to Post

Re: NBR: nephew was married a year ago

  • chase16chase16 member

    He had a baby 4 years ago? and he just graduated high school this week?? Is he older than 18? Well, kudos to him for finishing high school I guess.

    If you've never met this nephew or his siblings. and you had no idea he was married, I think it's safe to say he probably isn't expecting a wedding present. I think you're fine not sending one.
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • chase16chase16 member
    Rosebean said:
    Maybe a grad card, but honestly, if they are so young to be getting married and not bother being super loud about it, I personally wouldn't send a card/gift for that. That's weird, especially given it was a year ago.... The grad card says "hey! I still remember you and we're family and I am thinking of you"... A wedding gift would say "thanks for forgetting about me you douchebags, now I am sending you a really delayed wedding gift and now this is awkward for all of us".
    LMAO!! Yea.. What she said. Grad card is plenty.
    Report Reply
  • kaitm22kaitm22 member
    I want to hear more backstory on this kid! He had a child at 14/15?

    August 2014 January Siggy Challenge

    image


    Report Reply
  • kiley820kiley820 member
    Wait. What?! I'm not sure I'd send anything at all. Not to be a bitch but if they don't bother to include you on big life events I don't think I would go out of my way..
    BabyFetus Ticker

    Our first.. Baby BOY! EDD 8/20/14 :) 
    Report Reply
  • MandMLeonaMandMLeona member

    He was 16 when the baby was born.  She was 15. So it seems that they waited until she was 18 to get married. The baby has always split time between the grandparents' houses...now it seems that the three of them are all splitting time between the two households.

    I get that it's not an ideal situation and you don't want to make it seem cool to the younger siblings, but to totally not acknowledge it to family seems wrong to me.

    I always thought my family was pretty disconnected, but my aunts always made sure to be there for graduations and weddings.  To not even have those touch points seem to leave these kids even more adrift and it makes me sad.  Maybe I'm just being sappy.

    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"