I expected everything to be a lot easier. I was NOT expecting the aches and pains, crazy swollen feet and 'pregnancy rage' (I consider myself normally even tempered, but cut me off in traffic now and I will go bat s*** crazy). In short, I wasn't expecting to be Elizabeth Banks from 'What to Expect...' but I so am.
@jessa8907 , that was a good strategy :-). I should have expected pregnancy to be much harder, then at least I wouldn't have been so shocked when EVERYTHING in my body went haywire.
I was expecting it to be easier. I expected the aches and pains, but I did not expect to be admitted to the hospital 5 different times for PTL. I learned a lot about my body during this pregnancy and I realized that it may be more difficult than I anticipated having the size family that I want. We may have to re-evaluate how many kids we try to have based on how the next pregnancy goes. I also have to wait longer now, so that means changing my plans for NFP because an "oops" is not OK anymore. It is a little depressing but better to be informed!
I expected both to be more difficult than either have been. I have noticed differences between the two pregnancies that I wouldn't have known other wise without being pregnant again. DS was breech and we didn't know it. I didn't have anything to compare it too. Looking back, that explains a lot of why the end of my pregnancy last time seemed much easier. This time, it's still pretty easy for me, but I definitely am feeling more pressure and weight down low which makes sense because the baby is head down and actually going where it's supposed to.
I expected to be on top of everything. Four kids right? I should have this down. Nope. I was pretty much in control in the beginning. I knew what I was doing and I had things planned out. For the example, the nursery. We still need to put his crib together and move the decorations in. I should have done this by now! Now I'm panicking on how I'm going to care for a newborn, a 1 year old and still give my older kids the attention they need. I've been trying to stay on top of things now that I'm home all day and I can go as far as morning breakfast and activities but after that, I'm done. Mama needs a nap. Like a four hour nap. So basically, I'm a mess and I thought I wouldn't be.
I expected it to be a lot easier the second time around. Actually, maybe easier isn't the right word. I expected to be more prepared because I did this not too long ago.
I underestimated just how much feeling like shit while chasing around a toddler would take a toll on me. I'm exhausted, and over it.
In my earlier days on TB, wishing that your LO would come any time before their due date was pretty flammable.
But if I have a health 37-weeker, I'll be doing jumping jacks to get this kid out.
My decision to be done after 2 is completely reaffirmed. I was really hoping to be able to enjoy my last pregnancy more, but it is just not happening.
STM here. I thought I'd be obsessive about this pregnancy like I was with my first. Turns out I've been totally laid back about it. I will go all day sometimes without even thinking about my pregnancy. I was sick my whole first pregnancy and only had a little sickness this time, so that was a pleasant surprise!
I definitely thought it would be harder than it's been--I've been very fortunate to have a relatively easy pregnancy so far. I also thought that I would be hoping time would slow down at the end because I figured I would feel entirely unprepared (FTM, never even changed a diaper before) but I find myself feeling more prepared than I thought and more eager for my due date to arrive.
TTC History
Me: 35 DH: 34 Married 07/2012 DD born 07/2014 DD2 born 10/2018 DS born 10/2022
IF history: TTC #2 since January 2016 June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018 FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
I am a first time mom. Let me preface this with until I became pregnant, I had never been around pregnant women, didn't know what happens, and to this day I still have not seen anything ever born. I am adopted so my mother never went through pregnancy either.
I honestly just thought we got fat and a baby was born after 9 months. I was not prepared for all of the nausea, aches, pains, constipation, fatigue, movement of the lo inside me or anything. This has been a rather eye-opening experience. I hear birth is painful but I also there are drugs to help with that, so we shall see what the end game has in store for me.
I'm a STM. DD never engaged in my pelvis and I was induced. I never had a single contraction before the induction, and now I have them all the time. In addition, I have so much pressure. It feels like there's a bowling ball on my cervix and it's almost too much pressure to be able to pee. I thought I would feel more...practiced this time around. But it feels like I'm doing it for the first time.
My first pregnancy was a walk in the park compared to this one. I expected to get through the difficult days the same way I did with DS. I expected my bad morning sickness to pass by 16/17 weeks. It didn't this time. I expected worse though after I was diagnosed with hyperemesis because of how bad it was when my mom had it. I did not expect to still be getting sick at 36 weeks though. I'm probably much more emotional and hot-tempered this time around which is surprising. A lot aches and pains than I anticipated and I'm much more tired as well but have a much harder time sleeping this time. Overall some things are harder than I expected and some things are much easier.
Like pp said, after this pregnancy I am really reevaluating if and when we will try for another child as hubs wants a bigger family but I don't know if I can risk another bout of hyperemesis for it.Heck, I don't even know how I was able to make through the school year teaching like this! Women are troopers!
I can only hope my expectation for labor, delivery, and recovery are spot on... *crossing fingers*
I expected to have our shit together more - i.e. wouldn't be staring at a messy house with less than 6 weeks to go. Other than that, it's been pretty cool.
I expected to be a hormonal crazy! It was the one major thing that made me never want to give birth. Although I definitely go off it's more once a month rather than daily like anticipated.
I expected to connect with LO during pregnancy like people talk about. I am not really connected at all.
I expected to become extremely overweight due to my family history of obesity/weight problems, diabetes and my mom always telling me her weight problem is because of giving birth. None of this came into play and although I am a size bigger in the torso, I haven't gained anything in legs, arms or face.
I expected DH to love the way I look and want tons of sexy time since he always loved pregnant chicks prepregnancy. Instead he lost his sex drive completely and just wants the pregnancy over (I think this has a ton to do with bed rest leaving a ton of stress/pressure on him).
I am in a lot more pain than I had expected. I thought I would be awkward and big, but not like, in actual pain. Every part of me feels broken. On a positive note, I am a lot more emotionally stable that I thought I would be. You watch all these movies about pregnant women being crazy and irrational, but I don't find myself to be much different than normal. I had my moments in first tri, but I think my husband would agree, we both expected a lot more tears and stuff.
I thought this time around I would know what is going on with my body, but not the case. I find myself having random aches and pains I don't remember the first time around and this insane pregnancy rage I don't remember having the first time. I also knew I would be tired caring for a 2 year old and working, but didn't realize the epic proportions of tired that I would encounter.
I also had to have my appendix out at 13 weeks so that has totally changed things. Recovering from the surgery was really rough and I was finally getting my energy back but took too much advantage of all that energy and basically exhausted myself which culminated in a trip to L&D to get fluids and being told to rest more.
This pregnancy has sucked more than I expected based on my other two. I definitely was not expecting to feel nauseous for four months straight, or to feel this shitty in the third trimester. At least the end is in sight!
Big sister {September 2008} Sweet boy {April 2011} Fuzzy Bundle {ETA July 2014}
I think this time has been easier because I was more distracted and there was an 'end date' much earlier. My symptoms were worse, but I am far more fearful of life with 2u2 than life while being pregnant and caring for a toddler.
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STM here. I was really worried after a loss and a preemie that I would not make it this far (36w3d). Once I made it past 30 weeks (when DS was born) I thought the rest would be a piece of cake. While his surprise birth was fast and scary, that pregnancy really was no problems and easy until the last week. Now this pregnancy has been a lot less smoother than last time. I didn't realize how hot I would get, how hard it would be to keep up with a toddler, how even when I thought I was in the "safe zone" things could change quickly (GD and now possibly pre-e rearing it's ugly head again).
I expected Pregnancy to be a lot worse than it has been. I have had back problems since I was a child and was told I would probably be on bed rest most of my pregnancy, but it hasn't been so bad. I'm still active somewhat at this point even though DH would rather I wasn't.
Although I had bouts of nausea I was never sick which I was shocked by and that means I gained mucho weight the first trimester, which was also surprising to me since I'm accustomed to a very healthy and weigh conscience lifestyle.
Like @chrinikki1 I was hoping for the fabulous sexy time pregnancy that I hear so much about but DH is not into it and to be honest sex had been uncomfortable and at times downright painful so I guess it's for the best.
After struggling with IF I thought once I was ACTUALLY pregnant things would be "normal." I knew I would be high risk with the lupus but things have been much more complicated than I expected.
I never expected a fetal echogenic bowel and all of the stress and worry and monitoring it came with.
I didn't expect baby to be missing a kidney.
I expected DH to be more "connected" to the pregnancy and to attend more appointments.
I didn't expect to be diagnosed with hyperemesis.
I didn't expect to make trips to L&D- especially for contractions and dehydration following a stomach bug!
I thought I would be able to exercise more but first tri hyperemesis messed with that plan big time.
On the good side----------------------------------------
I didn't expect to love feeling the baby move as much as I do
I didn't expect him to be so "interactive" - responding to stimuli etc
I didn't expect a boy! --- I'm really excited to be a boy mom
I didn't expect the outpouring of support from friends and colleagues
Married since June 2008
Systemic Lupus Erythematosus TTC Post Chemotherapy Unexplained Infertility
DH- SA Normal, Lap on 8/8/13 BFP! 11/7/13 EDD 07/15/14 changed to 07/23/14 after first u/s
I expected the morning sickness, some aches and pains, and the hormones to just be crazy. Well, I got the sickness, wasn't expecting it to last until almost 20 weeks though. The aches and pains have been worse than expected! Had no idea your body could produce too much Relaxin and cause awful pelvic pain! My hormones have been surprisingly normal. I've had a few meltdowns over absolutely nothing, but who hasn't!?
Was not expecting to have a cyst that they've had to monitor throughout the pregnancy, and I'll have to have surgery to remove it after the baby is born. Just hoping that no complications come from the cyst, and that going forward I'll be able to have normal pregnancies!
STM- I didn't expect to go past 37w4d (when I delivered DS) with this LO, as I heard that many women go earlier with their second. I will be 38 weeks tomorrow, and she feels "late." I'm ready for baby to be on the outside!
I didn't expect to go into labor at 29 weeks! I expected a lot more pain. I also didn't expect my hips to be out of wack for so long after birth, especially given that Alexander was only 3lbs.
FTM here. I think I just expected more complications due to
my family’s history. My mom had three tubal pregnancies, severe eclampsia with
me… my grandma had several miscarriages. My aunts all had complications. I have
been very fortunate in that while I feel like I’ve had every symptom in the
book, my pregnancy has been a healthy one and baby boy is doing great.
Also, I did not expect the negativity that I’ve gotten from
some people, and the overwhelming urge after hearing their comments to either
throat punch them or burst into tears (I’m normally NOT emotional at all).
I expected to gain the suggested 25-35 pounds and not an ounce more (HAHAHAHAHAH AT MYSELF).
I expected to be more miserable and more emotionally unstable.
I expected that as I gained weight I'd be all "whateva, I'm pregnant, my body is a temple and I'm gorgeous" instead of just feeling huge.
Obviously, I only have a 50/50 shot of guessing correctly but I expected that even though I was so sure that LO was a boy early on that I would find out at the ultrasound that we were having a girl.
It has been both way harder and way easier than expected for me. For the harder parts, I was not expecting all-day nausea for several months in the beginning, and I was not expecting how completely exhausted I would feel virtually all of the time. I never got that second trimester energy boost that people talk about. And the bathroom situation... I was not prepared at all for the trouble pooping + crazy amounts of gas I've had this entire pregnancy. The gas is getting worse now too... Like when I'm out walking I often let out these squeaker toots and I can't control it. So embarrassing :-/
For the easier parts, I expected to gain a lot more weight (I bought a lot of very roomy maternity tops to make sure they'd last me through the end of the pregnancy.. 38 weeks now and they're still too big and just make me look overweight rather than pregnant), I expected to be a lot more emotional (I've generally been my normal self.. no pregnant lady crying at commercials type stuff here), and I expected that I would have a lot more pain/difficulty moving around than I have. My long torso + wide hips + jumbo bones have done me some major favors. I do have some discomfort, but I definitely don't feel miserable/uncomfortable all of the time, I generally don't have to waddle, and I don't have any trouble sleeping... at least not due to discomfort (but I do have to get up to pee multiple times during the night and have frequent bouts of insomnia). Also, so far (*knock on wood*), no new tiger stripes across my belly! I think I may have a few new ones on my hips but I already had a ton there so I can't really tell a difference.
Expected: GD again. Reality: no GD. In fact, I passed my 1-hour screen with flying colors
Expected: More weight gain. Reality: Same as last time
Expected: This pregnancy would fly by. Reality: It has.
Expected: I will have to be induced again, since I didn't even have one real contraction on my own. I had BH, but no real, crampy contractions. Reality: I've been having real contractions starting late yesterday. Nothing big or regular, but it gives me hope my body can get it done on its own this time. I also hope this baby comes on or before my due date.
Third timer here/third pregnancy in five years. First, I didn't expect to get pregnant again and went through all of DS2's baby milestones thinking it would be the last time. So I didn't expect to be so grateful to get to go through an infancy again. I didn't expect to gain so much more weight this time. And I definitely didn't expect to find out this baby is a girl. I never thought I'd have a daughter and was totally loving being a boy mom, but I am sooooo excited to have a little girl. Physically/symptom wise, though, this pregnancy has been about what I expected it would be. (Edited for spelling)
Overall it has been pretty close to my expectations. I was surprised by how even keeled I've been emotionally. I tend to be an emotional train wreck on a good day (anxiety and depression) so being better than ever during pregnancy? Shocker. I also didn't expect the exhaustion or how difficult that has been.i don't slow down well and I've really been irritated by feeling so exhausted for no tangible reason. Also I was not expecting to have so little control over my weight and what my body does. I have gained too much weight but no matter what I do it just keeps on being steady. I have always had body image problems and really focused on weight and such so letting go of that control was harder than expected.
While this wasn't my first rodeo, I certainly was very surprised with a few things. First and the absolute biggest, I did not expect twins. The shock from that discovery hasn't worn off yet. Second, I didn't expect to be as sore/uncomfortable as early as I was. The whole pelvis feeling like it's shattering every time I move has not been fun. Third, I am amazed how much DH has stepped up for me and our boys while I have been laid up on the couch feeling useless.
*Knocking on wood* I didn't expect pregnancy to be as easy and enjoyable as it's been.
I didn't expect to feel such an overwhelming amount of love and tenderness for the babe within me. (Definitely not prepared if that grows exponentially after he gets here)
I didn't expect to be sad that pregnancy is almost over.
I did expect to LOVE my baby bump and I do.
I did expect to be utterly exhausted at all times and for the most part that's been true.
Overall, I was hoping pregnancy would be a magical unicorn time for me and honestly it pretty much has been...
Now labor and delivery I'm pretty much scared sh!tless about...
First pregnancy, I expected it to be all shiny and magical like in the movies (BAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA). I did not expect 7 months of morning noon and night sickness OR the joint pain OR the fiery drill to the chest that was heartburn OR the sheer incompetence of the medical team who delivered my baby (long story, very rant-y). Did expect to gain weight but actually lost weight and ended up being monitored because I weighed about the same as a large housecat after delivery. Was very much not expecting to almost bleed to death but that happened during/after labor and wasn't fun so I'd rather avoid that this time.
*loss men't briefly in first line*
This time: Expected this pregnancy to fail like the previous 2 and was very surprised every time I had an appointment that still showed a heartbeat. Expected all the pains, nausea, exhaustion, weight loss and another incompetent medical team. Actually got a lot less joint pain this time around, less nausea less often, same amount of heartburn but the meds for it in this country SUCK compared to back home which really took me by surprise as most meds over here (now in the US) are better, I've actually put on half my body weight again which is awesome and my medical team (birth centre with midwives) are brilliant so far although we'll have to see how the birth goes as for whether that opinion stands.
I'm expecting the birth to go better than last time because, quite honestly, there isn't much that could make it worse. Expecting it to hurt but not more than I can deal with and possibly for there to be excessive blood loss again but the hospital will be informed as soon as the birth center know I'm coming in so will be aware in case they need to deal with that. Was not expecting to be as relaxed as I am about the prospect of a med-free birth but that could be because I had a bad reaction to pain meds last time around that really messed with me.
I'm a FTM, and for the most part up until this weekend my only "issue" was getting up in the middle of the night to pee. However, now that the summer heat is on and I am in the last few weeks of pregnancy and apparently must get miserable to want to push him out: I miss being able to wipe myself completely without the help of two different types of wipes, I miss wearing several different pairs of shoes (only one pair of flops fits now), I miss being able to shave my legs and lady parts (finally noticed the massive new hair there this morning), and I miss being able to wear cute underwear without the marathon that it takes to put them on in the morning.
I'm absolutely terrified of the birthing process. Everyone and their brother has made it a point to tell me some sort of delivery room horror story. So I'm guessing that I am ready for the worst case scenario and maybe I will be pleasantly surprised. Anyone else a little panicky that they are going to the hospital and leaving with a tiny human???
I thought I'd be more emotionally imbalanced. I had my moments, but nothing like what the movies and other women led me to believe (I'm a FTM)
I thought I'd skip over that whole feet swelling/extreme achey pain at night thing. ) SILLY GIRL!
I thought I'd sleep WAY more. I napped maybe 1 time during the day the whole pregnancy.
I'm sad I won't feel LittleDude doing his 9PM shuffle in my belly in another month, very very sad but he will be in my arms instead. Which, of course is amazing, but I love knowing he is in the safest possible place right now with no worries. He is fully functioning and self sustaining when with me.
Emotionally imbalanced- I totally expected to be absolutely bat s crazy, but so far, I've really only broken down into crazy tears maybe four times- dancing with the stars and the memory episode of all things, facebook rescue dog story, the preview of "If I Stay", and the day I needed to go and buy h. wipes :-(
I had no idea that my feet could get so large :-(
I'm gonna miss the daily pushes and nudges he gives me esp when I eat ice. Though I know having him actually here will be absolutely amazing- I'll have to actually share him with others and that makes me a little sad.
So, I actually waited till my mid-30s to try to get pregnant, because I was honestly scared of pregnancy and all it meant. I thought it had to be pure misery for 9 months, then 18 years of goodbye to my normal life. In short, I saw it was a gilded cage that would destroy my life.
Pregnancy has been better than I expected. I think my baby and body have been very good to me, overall. But here are the things that went differently than I thought...
Morning Sickness. I didn't know that the simple act of attempting to brush your teeth could bring it on. Pretty counter-productive, if you ask me. And my body didn't ask me. It just reacted and hated brushing my teeth for 16 weeks or so. My dentist will be pleased to know that I can currently brush my teeth without feeling like upchucking on my new pearly whites.
Potty trips. I knew I'd have to pee a lot, that's well known and goes with the territory. I didn't know that #2 would become a Herculean task, and that cleaning up affected areas after would be like joining Cirque du Soleil. Because there's this giant belly in the way, and I already had back problems.
Protective. While I don't feel fully connected to the little guy yet, I feel fiercely protective of him. Like full on Mama Bear protective. I worry for him when I haven't spent time trying to feel him move and I'm not sure how he is. I feel on edge if I accidentally bump my belly on something. And if anyone threatened him/me, they'd possibly get mauled.
I'm hoping since the pregnancy has gone differently than I imagined it would go, that raising a kiddo will go better, too.
I definitely thought I'd enjoy pregnancy more. My mum was a midwife, and it always seemed so magical. It hasn't been for me. 4 months of nausea, feeling totally out of control of my emotions (I cried because DH wanted to watch basketball), and not having my usual energy have all made me pretty miserable. I do love the baby kicks and the progress, but it's not the amazing experience I always thought it would be. Part of it may be because I don't have my mum to chat with about it...that makes it all a little bittersweet too. I'm WAY more excited to have an outside baby, so I'm hoping my last few weeks fly by.
I definitely thought I'd enjoy pregnancy more. My mum was a midwife, and it always seemed so magical. It hasn't been for me. 4 months of nausea, feeling totally out of control of my emotions (I cried because DH wanted to watch basketball), and not having my usual energy have all made me pretty miserable. I do love the baby kicks and the progress, but it's not the amazing experience I always thought it would be. Part of it may be because I don't have my mum to chat with about it...that makes it all a little bittersweet too. I'm WAY more excited to have an outside baby, so I'm hoping my last few weeks fly by.
Don't feel bad. I feel the same way. People in my life have basically said how horrible it is that I'm not enjoying pregnancy like they think I should be (and have insinuated that because I'm not enjoying it, I'm not going to be a good mom). I've learned to accept that everyone has a different experience. Good luck on your last few weeks!
I expected things to go similar to last time: The 1st and 2nd trimesters were uneventful followed by the last 6 weeks going to hell in a handbasket.
I could not have been more wrong. 1st AND 2nd trimesters sucked ass and were neverending bouts of awful.
However, since the start of 3rd trimester things have gotten progressively BETTER, my bp has remained low, I have not had crazy weight gain and my energy only continues to increase.
But I have not forgotten 1st and 2nd tri and know that there is no way that I could reasonably handle another pregnancy and continue to function as a productive member of society.
Mine was sort of what I expected, sort of not. I think the first 30 weeks or so were pretty much what I expected - same as last time, pretty easy, not a lot of aches and pains. More tired in the evenings, but having a preschooler can do that to you.
The last 6 weeks have been a little more miserable than I expected. Exercising and keeping active is taking much more of a toll on my body than the first time around. On the days when I am running and/or getting my 10K steps, my body HURTS in the evenings - not anything "baby" related, just like I have arthritis or something.
I am also a bit more torn this time - the first time I was desperate to get to 40w because I wanted to meet baby so badly. This time, I want to meet her, but I know that in some ways, babies are a lot easier on the inside than the outside, so I'm a bit happier to just wait out these last four weeks patiently.
Re: Pregnancy: expectations VS reality
In short, I wasn't expecting to be Elizabeth Banks from 'What to Expect...' but I so am.
*gives you more wood to Knock on*
Lol don't think I didn't notice the oh so adorable puppy you've morphed into
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
I honestly just thought we got fat and a baby was born after 9 months. I was not prepared for all of the nausea, aches, pains, constipation, fatigue, movement of the lo inside me or anything. This has been a rather eye-opening experience. I hear birth is painful but I also there are drugs to help with that, so we shall see what the end game has in store for me.
Like pp said, after this pregnancy I am really reevaluating if and when we will try for another child as hubs wants a bigger family but I don't know if I can risk another bout of hyperemesis for it.Heck, I don't even know how I was able to make through the school year teaching like this! Women are troopers!
I can only hope my expectation for labor, delivery, and recovery are spot on... *crossing fingers*
I expected to connect with LO during pregnancy like people talk about. I am not really connected at all.
I expected to become extremely overweight due to my family history of obesity/weight problems, diabetes and my mom always telling me her weight problem is because of giving birth. None of this came into play and although I am a size bigger in the torso, I haven't gained anything in legs, arms or face.
I expected DH to love the way I look and want tons of sexy time since he always loved pregnant chicks prepregnancy. Instead he lost his sex drive completely and just wants the pregnancy over (I think this has a ton to do with bed rest leaving a ton of stress/pressure on him).
Mom to one beautiful July '14 little girl
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Although I had bouts of nausea I was never sick which I was shocked by and that means I gained mucho weight the first trimester, which was also surprising to me since I'm accustomed to a very healthy and weigh conscience lifestyle.
Like @chrinikki1 I was hoping for the fabulous sexy time pregnancy that I hear so much about but DH is not into it and to be honest sex had been uncomfortable and at times downright painful so I guess it's for the best.
I never expected a fetal echogenic bowel and all of the stress and worry and monitoring it came with.
I didn't expect baby to be missing a kidney.
I expected DH to be more "connected" to the pregnancy and to attend more appointments.
I didn't expect to be diagnosed with hyperemesis.
I didn't expect to make trips to L&D- especially for contractions and dehydration following a stomach bug!
I thought I would be able to exercise more but first tri hyperemesis messed with that plan big time.
On the good side----------------------------------------
I didn't expect to love feeling the baby move as much as I do
I didn't expect him to be so "interactive" - responding to stimuli etc
I didn't expect a boy! --- I'm really excited to be a boy mom
I didn't expect the outpouring of support from friends and colleagues
Systemic Lupus Erythematosus
TTC Post Chemotherapy
Unexplained Infertility
DH- SA Normal, Lap on 8/8/13
BFP! 11/7/13 EDD 07/15/14 changed to 07/23/14 after first u/s
My Ovulation Chart
Was not expecting to have a cyst that they've had to monitor throughout the pregnancy, and I'll have to have surgery to remove it after the baby is born. Just hoping that no complications come from the cyst, and that going forward I'll be able to have normal pregnancies!
Mommy to R (8.23.11) and K (6.21.14).
FTM here. I think I just expected more complications due to my family’s history. My mom had three tubal pregnancies, severe eclampsia with me… my grandma had several miscarriages. My aunts all had complications. I have been very fortunate in that while I feel like I’ve had every symptom in the book, my pregnancy has been a healthy one and baby boy is doing great.
Also, I did not expect the negativity that I’ve gotten from some people, and the overwhelming urge after hearing their comments to either throat punch them or burst into tears (I’m normally NOT emotional at all).
This being my second pregnancy, here are a few:
Expected: GD again. Reality: no GD. In fact, I passed my 1-hour screen with flying colors
Expected: More weight gain. Reality: Same as last time
Expected: This pregnancy would fly by. Reality: It has.
Expected: I will have to be induced again, since I didn't even have one real contraction on my own. I had BH, but no real, crampy contractions. Reality: I've been having real contractions starting late yesterday. Nothing big or regular, but it gives me hope my body can get it done on its own this time. I also hope this baby comes on or before my due date.
I didn't expect to feel such an overwhelming amount of love and tenderness for the babe within me. (Definitely not prepared if that grows exponentially after he gets here)
I didn't expect to be sad that pregnancy is almost over.
I did expect to LOVE my baby bump and I do.
I did expect to be utterly exhausted at all times and for the most part that's been true.
Overall, I was hoping pregnancy would be a magical unicorn time for me and honestly it pretty much has been...
Now labor and delivery I'm pretty much scared sh!tless about...
However, since the start of 3rd trimester things have gotten progressively BETTER, my bp has remained low, I have not had crazy weight gain and my energy only continues to increase.
But I have not forgotten 1st and 2nd tri and know that there is no way that I could reasonably handle another pregnancy and continue to function as a productive member of society.
The last 6 weeks have been a little more miserable than I expected. Exercising and keeping active is taking much more of a toll on my body than the first time around. On the days when I am running and/or getting my 10K steps, my body HURTS in the evenings - not anything "baby" related, just like I have arthritis or something.
I am also a bit more torn this time - the first time I was desperate to get to 40w because I wanted to meet baby so badly. This time, I want to meet her, but I know that in some ways, babies are a lot easier on the inside than the outside, so I'm a bit happier to just wait out these last four weeks patiently.