January 2014 Moms

Paranoia

I am paranoid that the ceiling fan is going to fall on Patrick while he's on his playmat.

I have no basis for this worry. It wobbles the normal amount and no ceiling fan has ever fallen around me. But there ya go.

What is your baby paranoia?
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Re: Paranoia

  • I was actually very paranoid the other day about this tall bookshelf we have in our front room falling over on the baby while she is playing on the floor. It's very stable and not going anywhere unless pushed over, but I'm still having my husband screw it into a stud so nothing happens. 
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  • peanutmusepeanutmuse member
    edited June 2014
    I am unnaturally worried about having a fire and not being able to go down our stairs. Our bedrooms are pretty high up and I feel like I wouldn't be able to jump out of the window while holding the baby. So I bought an escape ladder.

    ETA: One of my husband's college friends recently lost his mother in a house fire, while he was living with his parents temporarily. He suffered 3rd degree burns on his back while trying to rescue her and needed skin grafts. So it's not completely out of left field.  :(
  • Sudden suffocation, we are careful and don't leave him places or with things he could choke or suffocate but I still feel worried about it. He does choke while eating sometimes and I had a friend who recently lost her baby this way at my lo's current age so I just feel like it's always on my mind.
  • Choking and drowning. I had the same fears with DS. I didn't let anyone else bathe him until he was 1, maybe older.
     
  • Suffocation or going in to check on him and he doesn't wake up. Someone kidnapping him and/or hurting him as well.
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  • I should not have opened this thread. Now I have all new paranoias to add to my already growing list...

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    I was just thinking that!
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  • I am paranoid about everything! DH and father "jokes" that I worry about worrying if there is nothing else to worry about. Now reading this thread, I too, have new things to worry about. Before Abby was born and I was just paranoid over our pets, I asked dh if we could get a sign for the door, on the inside that states something like, if you are robbing the house, please close the door so my pets don't escape. Believe or not, MH said no. I'm back on my zolaft to try and help my anxiety!

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  • I'm always worried that I am going to somehow trip and drop him or that he will slip out of my arms.
    My newest is that he will choke and I can't do anything about it. He started choking on his milk the other day and I started patting him on the back (even though I know I've been told that it doesn't work and it wasn't) because his little face was turning red and he was gasping and I didn't know what else to do. He was fine after 15 super long seconds but it's so scary seeing his face like that.
  • I am unnaturally worried about having a fire and not being able to go down our stairs. Our bedrooms are pretty high up and I feel like I wouldn't be able to jump out of the window while holding the baby. So I bought an escape ladder.

    ETA: One of my husband's college friends recently lost his mother in a house fire, while he was living with his parents temporarily. He suffered 3rd degree burns on his back while trying to rescue her and needed skin grafts. So it's not completely out of left field.  :(
    How awful :( I think that's a pretty rational fear to have given someone relatively close to your family had this happen.

    My paranoia is kind of similar. H and I were recently house hunting as we're moving to a new city. I'm afraid of having DD's bedroom on a different floor of the house from ours, mostly in case there's a fire and I can't get up or down the stairs to get to her. I was also resistant to a house that would have her bedroom right beside the side entrance to the house, while our bedroom would be tucked further into the house, because I thought if an intruder was to break in her bedroom would be the first one they would reach.
  • I'm paranoid about driving with and without DS. I'm always afraid of being in an accident and not being there for him or him being hurt.
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  • km_mdkm_md member
    All the things. It is getting ridiculous. I'm planning on going back to my therapist to work through some things and maybe trying a BF safe anxiety medication since I can't take my old one anymore.


  • km_md said:

    All the things. It is getting ridiculous. I'm planning on going back to my therapist to work through some things and maybe trying a BF safe anxiety medication since I can't take my old one anymore.

    @km_md‌
    I had my pedi, internal med, and Obgyn look into the safety of Zolaft. One of the few there have been tested during pregnancy as well. The pedi had a book and it said it has been tested up to 125mg and was found to not go into breastmilk. I'm on 25 mg now and may go up to 50mg. I was on 100mg when I found out I was pregnant. Dropped to 50mg for first trimester and 25mg for second. With permission from my doc, I stopped for third. As I was getting ready to go back to work, I went back on (and I was starting to have my horrific nightmares that I have when my anxiety builds up). Just wanted to share that. Hope you find what works well for you. I always hate going on them, it is an internal battle of if I need them but once on them , I feel "normal" again!

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    TTC since 8/2010 (off BCP since 8/2009) 
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    8/2011, 1/2012, 3/2012 IUI #1-3 BFN 
    6/2012 IVF#1 BFN, 8/2012 IVF#2 FET BFN, 11/2012 IVF#3 BFP
    12/10/2012 U/S #1 6w4d - heartbeat  EDD 8/1/13 
    12/26/2012 U/S #2 8w6d - No more heartbeat, MMC; D&C; Chromosome testing normal; male :( RPL testing normal 
    4/3/2013 DX Asherman's Syndrome caused by D&C, hysteroscopy done
    June 2013 IVF #4 planned 
    5/12/2013 SURPRISE BFP! Natural cycle 
    7/11/2013 Panorama results Normal!!! Team Pink, partial previa moved up in 2nd tri9/5/13 (19w) AS scan shows short cervix, 2.5 cm 9/19 (21w)  Cervix is worse 1.87cm, bed rest 10/26 & 10/27 steroid shots 12/19 (35w) DX: SGA Baby went from 57% percentile to 18th percentile in 6 weeks. Weekly BPP and NST until she is here. 1/17/18 Growth scan puts Abby below 10th percent in size, low amniotic fluid, and less movement. Time to induce!
    1/18/14 2:11am Abigial Morgan is here! 5lbs 14oz and 18 inches of pure cuteness!!!

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  • My DH gets very frustrated with what he calls my "irrational" paranoia. My main one being someone will break in during the night and kidnap my kids. We live in a safe area it's just I have all these terrible imaginings of what an attacker would do to my kids. I hate reading the news bc there are so many child abuse cases. I seriously hate the shows like CSI SVU. When DH works third shift I sleep in my room with both DS and dd with my door locked. Lucky for us DS has no issues sleeping in my bed or his otherwise I would probably have to sleep on floor in his room to feel he was safe.
  • km_mdkm_md member
    edited June 2014
    All the things. It is getting ridiculous. I'm planning on going back to my therapist to work through some things and maybe trying a BF safe anxiety medication since I can't take my old one anymore.
    @km_md‌ I had my pedi, internal med, and Obgyn look into the safety of Zolaft. One of the few there have been tested during pregnancy as well. The pedi had a book and it said it has been tested up to 125mg and was found to not go into breastmilk. I'm on 25 mg now and may go up to 50mg. I was on 100mg when I found out I was pregnant. Dropped to 50mg for first trimester and 25mg for second. With permission from my doc, I stopped for third. As I was getting ready to go back to work, I went back on (and I was starting to have my horrific nightmares that I have when my anxiety builds up). Just wanted to share that. Hope you find what works well for you. I always hate going on them, it is an internal battle of if I need them but once on them , I feel "normal" again!
    Thank you for that info! I wish that I didn't need it, but I really do. I just hate that I finally found a medication that works well for me and it isn't pregnancy or breastfeeding safe. I've never been on Zoloft before though, so hopefully it will help me at least a little until I can get back on my other meds. 



  • My MIL's house has these really slick, winding wooden steps in her house. Every time I got up or down the steps I hold on to LO for (his) dear life. I don't think this is so much a paranoia as a precaution, though, since those steps are pretty dangerous. 

    While walking with the stroller I always stop waaaaaayy before the corner, go AROUND the stroller, and look left and right about 500 times before crossing the street. I'm super paranoid I'm going to push the stroller out into the road and some idiot is going to come whipping around the corner and hit the baby. 
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  • I should not have opened this thread. Now I have all new paranoias to add to my already growing list...

    :-SS

    I so 2nd this!!!
    But I'm really paranoid about the whole choking thing too. I actually know a family who lost their 3 year old cause he choked on a piece of hotdog and didn't know what to do besides call 911, it was too late. :(. Sad. I'm glad I renew my CPR etc. with work every 2 years, refresh my memory. It's a good thing to know.
  • we will be staying at a beach condo next month with a balcony. I had a terrible nightmare of someone dropping her over the railing so now I highly doubt I will even let anyone walk out there holding her.
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  • ac1259ac1259 member
    I'm overly paranoid about everything...typically the major ones for each of my kids are these: 

    My toddler- me forgetting to put up the gate at the top of the stairs and her falling down the stairs onto the flagstone at the bottom. My brain usually conjures up the worst possible injuries having to do with this even though she is fairly decent at the stairs. 

    my infant- my toddler accidentally tripping and falling on her head. Or my 90 lb golden retriever crushing her. Or one of ten million other things that can happen to smaller more fragile babies:( 

    Sometimes having experience as a peds nurse is a major disadvantage..I've seen too many bad things:(




  • @km_md‌ another Zoloft user here. Took 50mg entire pregnancy, up to 100mg within days of delivery and just dropped back down to 50mg. I had bad PPD/A with DS and my OB and I worked together to try to avoid it this time. I've enjoyed DD being an infant so much more than I did DS.
     
  • I'm another one paranoid about dropping LO, especially when going up and down the stairs.
  • The thought choking is a fear of mine and the other big thing I really worry about in the future is when LO can move around and possibly grab our dogs fur. I'm terrified she will react and bite. She is a very loving dog and has never done anythibg like that in the past but I'm scared for something like that to happen as I know it can! My brother was bit on his chest pretty bad in an attack when he was 3 years old by our family friends dog and they ended up putting the dog down. Our dog is our other baby so I get nervous thinking about that possibility. Right now they are the cutest together , they lay beside each other and I can tell our dog loves LO but it's still a fear!
  • jeslillynjeslillyn member
    edited June 2014
    My sons room is closer to the front of our house....im always worried a driver will go crazy and wreck through our cars and into his bedroom.
  • I don't think I worry about much, but I have become a light sleeper. LO sleeps in the PnP in our room, and last night I barely slept because he was restlessly tossing and turning. Whenever he moves I wake up. If he is too still I check to see if he is breathing! I think I would watch him sleep all night if my own tiredness did not take over.

    DH wants to start using a high school aged daughter of a friend to babysit DS. I don't know how to politely tell him there is no way in hell I would leave my infant with a teenager! Even if she was CPR trained I wouldn't. So far my mom and his godmother have been the only ones to watch him.

    Same here about the light sleeping! We start him in the pack-n-play but always end up bringing him in bed with us so I can rest!

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