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Can't be the only one that wonders this

mjcbwlbabymjcbwlbaby member
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Sometimes I just wonder and fantasize what it would be like to be one of the women who just decides to TTC and then nonchalantly gets her BFP without even trying. Every woman deserves to be a mother if that's what she wants, and everyone's time is different. But still sometimes I like to imagine I'm one of those ladies. Anyone else? Lol
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  • StacyLH24StacyLH24 member
    @BunnyBerry - I do this now too! I look at other people with kids and wonder what it took for them to bring them into the world.

    Me: 30  DW (aka C): 29

    Together since 2/15/11 ~ Legally married in NY on 9/29/12

    ***CP mentioned***

    We've been working on baby #1 since July 2013 using Open ID donor sperm.  8 IUI attempts with 5 actual IUIs and one chemical pregnancy.  We have one fresh IVF cycle under our belts as well as a FET.  I have endometriosis and a uterine septum that was corrected via surgery in November 2013. 

    11/14/14 -  Second HSG shows that tubes are still clear and ute is looking good. 

    12/6/14 - Started BCPs in prep for IVF #2

    12/22/14 - Saline u/s and endometrial scratch (All was clear and OUCH!)

    1/2/15 - Began stimming for IVF #2

     ****All Welcome!****

    We are Mommas to four fur babies - 3 dogs and 1 cat.

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  • gsanchogsancho member
    I did fantasize about it...before we started TTC and realized we had issues.  womp womp....


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
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  • Amazing817Amazing817 member
    Sometimes I just let me mind wonder when we aren't trying a medicated cycle that maybe this would be the month that a miracle was born without having to go the IVF route....  back to reality!

    **June Celebrity Crush**
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    ~*~*~ ALL ARE WELCOME & GREATLY APPRECIATED~*~*~

    TTC since October 2012

    Went to OBGYN in August 2013-Referred us to UCONN RE in September 2013

    Me (31):  Blood / Ultrasound / HSG / SIS- All Great  -  DH (32): SA is very low

    DH met with Urologist nothing is "wrong" just very low count and low mobility

    RE 1st Consult October 31, 2013 - Male Infertility Dx.

    RE Appointment on 1/15/14-Decided on 1st IUI

    IUI Cycle #1-Clomid 50mg 2/14-BFN

    We decided to take a break for 3/14-4/14

    IUI Cycle #2-Clomid 50 mg 5/9-BFN

    IUI Cycle #3-(RE Office called us in for a back to back IUI for another SA) 5/12-BFN

    *Husband's count is still very low post wash however after 4+ months on supplements, vitamins, and a healthy lifestyle (aka no beer)  his mobility has doubled! I am very happy for him, small victories!

    May 2014-RE wants us to progress to IVF as 3 failed IUI's.

    IVF Seminar meeting on 6/12 & then meeting with RE on 7/9 to come up with our plan for our miracle baby!

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  • brazenbibliobrazenbiblio member
    @Amazing817‌ I'm doing the same thing on this natural cycle. I keep thinking it would be nice if it could just happen. No drugs, no money, no IUI. Oh well, by any means.

    Me-36
    DH -35
    Married in 2008
    Started TTC in 2011
    Began testing May 2014
    Test Results
    HSG- clear
    Hysteroscopy- clear
    SA- 11 mil count
    45% motility
    Diagnosis: MFI
    July 2014: Femera 5mg CD 4-8, Trigger, IUI = BFN
    August 2015: Femera 5mg CD 4-8, Trigger, IUI = BFN
    September 2015: Femera 5mg CD 4-8, Trigger, IUI = BFN
    May 2018 after long period of not trying, starting adoption process with family friend's newborn
    November 2018 Adoption complete!


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  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    I second @gsancho‌. It's like once you start having trouble you're surrounded by pregnant women everywhere you go, too!
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  • TTCBabyJTTCBabyJ member
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    I always think about this I am actually jealous of these women. I have never been the jealous type at all. But when my body doesn't do what it was meant to do, I feel less of a woman. I was just reading about Kim Zolciak from RHOA and she just had twins in November...she has basically popped out like 4 babies in the last 5 years...ugh! Gone are my dreams of having 3 kids if I could just have 1 at this point I would be content.
    Me: +35 DH: +35
    TTC: Since January 2013 
    DX: PCOS. Severe Endometriosis, Unicornuate Uterus w/only left tube and left ovary, Pedunculated fibroid (on the outside of uterus) and Anovulation. All conditions diagnosed 8/13
    TX: Metformin
    DH DX: MFI - low morphology, low motility
    Ultrasound shows both kidneys in spite of UU. 
    HSG showed clear tube on the left side. 
    Lap Surgery performed 1/9/14 to remove fibroid and endo (Stage 3)
    • IUI# 1 June 2014 started 100 mg of Clomid - 7dpiui Progesterone: 13: BFN
    • IUI#2  July 2014 started 100 mg of Clomid - 7dpiui Progesterone: 5.75: BFN
    • Natural Cycle - so shocked to be in 2WW - 7dpo Progesterone: 15.5: BFN
    • Working with new RE starting injectables in late August.
    • IUI #3 August 2014  w/ Menopur: BFN
    • Finally ovulating on my own!!
    Waiting to start IVF hopefully
    **********All Are Welcome**************
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  • wanderlust508wanderlust508 member
    I do what Bunny Berry does with strangers I see.  I imagine that they've tried so hard and for so long ... and it finally happened for them!  When it comes to close friends/family members though, unfortunately I can't do that!  My good friend who I see every day at work (who looks amazing at 5 months pregnant) got pregnant her first month trying.  So did my SIL.  It's hard sometimes not to resent them for that! ....Although I love them and wish them the best of course.  But it's frustrating when I compare myself to that.  
    **Formerly EastBayBride508**

    Me 34   Him 33

    Me - Left salpingo-oophorectomy at 19 due to large cyst/torsion  and 2 large uterine fibroids found at age 30
    Him - Borderline low sperm count (correcting through Fertility Blend supplement)

    Married 8/20/2011
    TTC #1 since Jan 2013
    First appointment with RE 10/2013.  
    April 2014 - Clomid 100mg CD3-7.  HCG shot CD10 IUI #1 done on 4/12/14 (CD12) ....BFN
    May 2014 - Break cycle to repeat saline sonogram and re-group.  Travel to Kauai 5/7-5/12 (Yay!!)
    June 2014 - Clomid 150mg CD4-8.  HCG shot CD14.  IUI#2 done on 6/9 and 6/10 (CD15-16) w/ Prometrium suppositories during TWW .... BFN
    July 2014 - Clomid 150mg CD3-7.  Ultrasound CD12 - 4 mature follies! HCG trigger shot CD12 AM.  IUI#3 on CD13 w/ Prometrium suppositories during TWW ....BFN
    July 2014 - Repeat ultrasound done to measure size of fibroid - 8x9cm (the size of a grapefruit!) Surgery referral made.
    August 2014 - MRI done which revealed 2 fibroids: a 13x15cm fibroid as well as an 8x7cm one.  Super freak out mode over surgery plan.  OB-GYN/surgeon said surgery would most likely have to be a laparotomy (open abdominal surgery)
    August 2014 - After a 2nd opinion, plan to take Lupron x 2 months to shrink fibroids then laparoscopic/robotic myomectomy.  Surgery date is set for Nov 21st!  
    November 2014 - Robotic myomectomy done (2 large fibroids removed, mild endo found).  Benched x 3 months

    PAIF/SAIF welcome
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  • ebliss444ebliss444 member
    Totally! 

    I also think about how lucky they are to be in control of their own life plan, you know? Ready to be a mother and (or for a second, third..) and it just happens for them! So many of us on their board are stuck wondering if/when we'll be able to have just one!
    Tried for two years, finally a BFP!
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  • mjcbwlbabymjcbwlbaby member
    ****preg mentioned




    I am not exaggerating or lying when I tell you all this, but I literally find out that someone I know is pregnant AT LEAST once a week. Sometimes more than that. 5 minutes ago I just found out my aunt is pregnant.... With her 4th..... While her oldest is still in diapers.... Which means that she will have 4 babies in diapers. I just don't get it. It's like some kind of sick joke
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  • Amazing817Amazing817 member
    AlaskaDee23 said:
    Amazing817 said:
    Sometimes I just let me mind wonder when we aren't trying a medicated cycle that maybe this would be the month that a miracle was born without having to go the IVF route....  back to reality!

    This is me!  I very much struggle with being hopeful and realistic.  I want to think that a miracle can happen and I'll beat that 2% chance....but month after month, it just hurts and I hate it! My therapist and I have talked in-depth though  about being hopeful without necessarily being optimistic.  I just don't want to every give up hope that it could happen naturally...does that make sense? 

    @AlaskaDee23, interesting statement about being hopeful without necessarily being optimistic. I have thought about something in that way. Does your therapist have any strategies that you care to share?!? My husband is always optimistic about everything, to be honest it drove me crazy when we first started dating, I think I have just grown up knowing that life isn't fair after my father passed away when I was 5yrs. old, my mom raised the four of us kids to be very strong but also to be honest with ourselves when things aren't working out the way we want.

    So fast forward to our world of IF and I think that we struggle more so some days because he is so optimistic and I wouldn't say I'm pessimistic rather just honest/realistic about our shitty situation, I don't try to sugar coat it because in the long run I am not making the situation any better. I just try to move forward and pray that in the end it will have been worth it!

    I am finding it very hard to be hopeful because I am afraid to let me guard down. But deep down I do secretly hope that maybe I got my timing off and that AF won't show up or that maybe a miracle truly will happen. So I totally get what your saying!

    Thanks sharing this new concept, I may need to explore this a bit more!

    **June Celebrity Crush**
    imageimage

    ~*~*~ ALL ARE WELCOME & GREATLY APPRECIATED~*~*~

    TTC since October 2012

    Went to OBGYN in August 2013-Referred us to UCONN RE in September 2013

    Me (31):  Blood / Ultrasound / HSG / SIS- All Great  -  DH (32): SA is very low

    DH met with Urologist nothing is "wrong" just very low count and low mobility

    RE 1st Consult October 31, 2013 - Male Infertility Dx.

    RE Appointment on 1/15/14-Decided on 1st IUI

    IUI Cycle #1-Clomid 50mg 2/14-BFN

    We decided to take a break for 3/14-4/14

    IUI Cycle #2-Clomid 50 mg 5/9-BFN

    IUI Cycle #3-(RE Office called us in for a back to back IUI for another SA) 5/12-BFN

    *Husband's count is still very low post wash however after 4+ months on supplements, vitamins, and a healthy lifestyle (aka no beer)  his mobility has doubled! I am very happy for him, small victories!

    May 2014-RE wants us to progress to IVF as 3 failed IUI's.

    IVF Seminar meeting on 6/12 & then meeting with RE on 7/9 to come up with our plan for our miracle baby!

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  • BunnyBerryBunnyBerry member
    @alaskadee23 @amazing817 I love the way you two think about this! I got pretty upset just before IUI this morning because DH was so annoyingly optimistic and he even chided me for being "negative." I feel realistic, and ,maybe it will be easier to communicate with him as we see ourselves as sharing something by both being "hopeful." :)
    January 3T Siggy Challenge - New Year's Resolutions
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    Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
    MFI (low everything) | Endo Stage 1 & Stenotic Cervix (treated) | PCO
    Married - July 2008 | Started TTC - Jan 2009 | RE Visit #1 - Mar 2014 
    IUI #1 ICI #1 - June | IUI #1.1 Laparoscopy - Aug
    IUIs #1.2, 2, 3 - Sept, Oct, Nov (Letrozole) - BFNs 
    IUI #4 - Dec (Bravelle) | IUI #5 - Dec/Jan (Bravelle) - 5 follies + TI - BFNs
    IUI #5.1 - Jan (Bravelle) Cancelled 
    Planning to start IVF in March!
    ***All Welcome***
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  • Tiko99Tiko99 member
    Not only do I think about this, but I think about all the years I was on birth control and clearly didn't need the pill! 

    Me: 33, DH: 32

    TTC: 2 years
    Fertility blood tests all normal
    Tilted uterus
    3 day ultrasound 17 follicles
    HSG: 11/13/13- tubes open
    DH SA: SUPER sperm (145 million, 84% motility, 22% morphology)
    All infection disease and immunity blood tests NORMAL
    FIRST IUI May 2014: 100 mg Clomid days 5-9, third ultrasound CD 13 revealed four follicles 27, 24 and 20 and 13mm. Trigger shot May 28 with IUI May 29 and 30 (fingers crossed) - BFN started spotting 11DPO :(

    IUI #2 B2B 6/23 and 6/24, three mature eggs and 130 million sperm! FX this is the month!  BFN 7/8

    3rd cycle benched due to cysts - TI with OPK tests -  BFN

    3rd mediated cycle: Clomid+Trigger+TI  (three follies left side, one on right as usual....what the hell right ovary get it together and produce some damn follicles!) 7DPO progesterone level 43 with NO suppositories YAY for a natural strong ovulation. Beta canceled started spotting 13DPO - Third time is not a CHARM! 14 day cycle WTF! Everything looks normal - RE wants to start injectables next cycle so this cycle I'm benched

    Officially benched until March....but still plan on trying the baking soda douche due to my excessive and thick CM

    JANUARY SIGGY CHALLENGE...This is so me!

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    Love this man....he was so before his time in his thoughts and ideas about the world....been obsessed about him lately bringing it back to the early 90s.

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  • borntorun17borntorun17 member
    Ugh @Tiko99‌ I just had the same conversation with DH. And I am definitely just jealous of everyone else still... It seems like Facebook is just there to announce other peoples pregnancies on a weekly basis
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  • lebradfordlebradford member
    Tiko99 said:

    Not only do I think about this, but I think about all the years I was on birth control and clearly didn't need the pill! 

    I'm on birth control pills for my benched cycle, and I joked last night, "oh, don't want to forget to take my birth control pills. I wouldn't want to get pregnant." :-P

    It's funny, but it isn't, you know? To think of all of the money I wasted on the NuvaRing....
    **siggy warning**  **everyone welcome**

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    DS- 11.07.02
    DSS- 6.26.04
    Married- 6.29.13
    TTC Again- Sept. 2013
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    Test Results/Diagnosis- HSG & SA totally normal
    DX: 3/2014 Prolactinoma/Hyperprolactinemia- Started cabergoline 2/2014
    5/2014 Possible mild PCOS in addition to hyperprolactinemia??
    7/2014 Adding probable tubal factor to the diagnosis list
    9/2014 And now adding hypothyroid to the list- Started synthroid 9/2014
    Cycles 1-4 - Sept.-March- All Anovulatory 
    IUI #1 March/April-  Clomid 50mg + Clomid 100mg +Trigger + IUI #1 = BFN
     IUI #2 April/May-Clomid 100mg + Clomid 150mg + Trigger + IUI #2 + Endometrin=BFN
    IUI #3- June- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3  Benched due to a 40 mm cyst. :-(
    IUI #3- July- Follistim 75iu + Trigger + IUI #3 + Endometrin = BFP! on 7/25/14
    Slowly rising betas - Ectopic suspected on 8/8/14 & confirmed on 8/11/14
    Methotrexate on 8/12/14 -HCG negative on 9/2/14
    IVF #1- November- Antagonist protocol: 11/1: start stims, 200iu of Follistim; 11/12 ER 17R/14M/14F; 11/17 5 day transfer of two blasts, 2 blasts and 2 expanding morulas frozen; 11/22 BFP!! (On FRER at 5dp5dt)
    Betas: 9dp5dt 205, 11dp5dt 497, 14dp5dt 1,709
    u/s at 5w0d- 1 sac; u/s at 6w0d 1 baby with heartbeat, another sac without a heartbeat
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