Finding myself so irritated at dumb pregnancy comments

BackseatDriver · June 2014

Maybe this belongs in the symptoms thread because I'm sure I'm being overly moody. Either way I keep finding myself super annoyed.

Lately it's mostly been my dad. He keeps referring to and asking about my DS's "little sister". I know he is hoping for a girl, but enough already. He also always asks me how "she" is doing as if I have any clue. Your guess is as good as mine, Dad. Then this morning he asked "Is DS's little sister acting up?" Meaning morning sickness. Why must he phrase it like that?! I told him today that it annoys me, but he acted like I was being overly sensitive. Whatever I just hope it stops.

What's been irritating you lately?

Jamie02Lee · June 2014

That would totally irritate me too.. he means well but like come on... everyone keeps telling me I'm having a girl cuz of morning sickness I'm like u can not know that.. some ppl have it no matter the sex n they're like nope ur deff having a girl.. I'm like ok so I guess u should b my OB since I haven't even heard the heart beat yet u know what sex it is.. awesome..

kaybeeknits · June 2014

As anxious as I am to tell friends an family, I am not looking forward to this part.

Beckyboo71 · June 2014

OMG! When I was pregnant w/ DD, everyone insisted I was having a boy. From "how low or high my belly was", to the lack of symptoms...whatever it was, it was so annoying! Just yesterday, a co-worker (that irritated me enough into making me tell her I am pregnant-long story!) told me that she "knew" something was up because my hips and butt were bigger. Really? No. How about I got married, "celebrated" a little too much with food, got pregnant last year, had a m/c, fed my depression with more food, and ultimately have gained 20 lbs since last June? People can be so annoying sometimes! Oh, and with my pregnancy with DD, a different co-worker kept telling me about all these horrible things that would happen during my pregnancy....food aversions, smells that would bother me, etc. I had nothing, besides sore boobs at the beginning and a little heartburn at the end. Other than that, and the growing belly, I would've never even thought I was pregnant. It's just amazing how women that have been pregnant before know exactly what will happen to YOU. LOL

jaxx723 · June 2014

My boss has been making cracks about keeping a bucket at my desk in case I get morning sickness. I believe the last thing a queasy pregnant woman wants to hear is some type of joke about throwing up. Ugh!

Lanatir · June 2014

I'm on modified bed rest. It's driving me insane. Standing and trying to do dishes makes me crampy, but DH hasn't washed any of DD's sippy cups since they needed to be washed on WEDNESDAY. And I have reminded him every day since. I spent this morning puking and am now crampy just from running the water and trying to get one washed.

His response to that was to yell at me for doing stuff I know would make me sick and apparently his solution is I should give DD (who is 2) a regular glass. Like GLASS glass with no top. WTF?

Also, seeing that m/s means a girl makes me stabby. (I had none with DD.) Really, m/s should be an indicator of boys. Only a man is capable of incapacitating so many people just by existing...

End rant... Hopefully...

VolMomma · June 2014

My rant has been at people telling me my cats will kill my baby..really? Get a life.
And after a strong heartbeat and great appointment a week and a half ago I posted our news on FB and now I get stupid questions like don't you think it's too soon? You're still not out of the woods and one whiny friend who yes has had a miscarriage YEARS AGO, posted a sad "why do people post preggo stuff feel sorry for me status". Ughhhhh!!
Kinda why I've been MIA, I took social media break.
People are just stupid.

JMcBick · June 2014

Beckyboo71 said:
How about I got married, "celebrated" a little too much with food, got pregnant last year, had a m/c, fed my depression with more food, and ultimately have gained 20 lbs since last June?

@Beckyboo71‌ This is my life story.

Vanval10 · June 2014

I've been getting super annoyed when my friends talk about the baby because they all think it's a girl. So they say things like "little princess" and "baby girl" and I'm just here getting mad because we don't know what it is yet. So they shouldn't be calling the baby anything. I'm not sure if it's because I feel like it's a boy, or if it's just hormones, but its getting soooo annoying!

peggels24 · June 2014

VolMomma said:

My rant has been at people telling me my cats will kill my baby..really? Get a life. And after a strong heartbeat and great appointment a week and a half ago I posted our news on FB and now I get stupid questions like don't you think it's too soon? You're still not out of the woods and one whiny friend who yes has had a miscarriage YEARS AGO, posted a sad "why do people post preggo stuff feel sorry for me status". Ughhhhh!! Kinda why I've been MIA, I took social media break. People are just stupid.

I'm sorry that people posted "stupid questions" on your FB announcement - that is not right. They should have either congratulated you or kept quiet. However, I have to say that your next sentence really didn't sit well with me - why does it matter how long ago your friend lost her baby? Is she not allowed to feel the same way whether she lost her baby years ago or days ago? I am sure you did not mean it that way but it just doesn't sit well.

lavet22 · June 2014

I'm reading some of these threads and thinking "STFU" at some of the comments. Like if someone is annoyed all the "Be happy it could be so much worse." STFU. In other words, I'm totally with you on being annoyed at everything. HAHA

Other things that piss me off about this pregnancy:

The response "AGAIN???" when we tell them we are having another baby

"So, do you think you can be done NOW?" or "How many children are you going to have???"

Anyone calling me preggers, preggo or anything of the sort. I do, however, accept pregosaurus since I have 3 boys and they all love dinosaurs.

"Are you STILL sick?" No, I'm throwing up just to throw you off.

"I bet you are hoping for a girl?" or "Trying for that girl, huh?" Listen, a daughter would be great, but so would another boy. And since I was on the pill and not trying to get pregnant, no, we were not trying for anything. Thanks tho.

That is all for now.

richardson0911 · June 2014

lavet22 said:

Anyone calling me preggers, preggo or anything of the sort. I do, however, accept pregosaurus since I have 3 boys and they all love dinosaurs.

I agree with preggers and preggo, but can I just say pregosaurus is the freaking cutest thing?

I'm tired of people telling me that my symptoms are "nothing" and that women have done this for many years with far less. That's nice and all, but please don't minimize my journey. I don't complain much, only when my in-laws ask why I'm not eating, or why I have to go lay down after standing all day.
But the worst is when we tell someone, and then the next thing out of their mouth is, "you know, when I saw you, I thought you looked a little puffy. I wasn't going to say anything, but now I know why." I told DH the next one who says it, I'm gonna deck them and say "you know, when you first started talking, I thought I might hit you. I wasn't going to, but now I know why...."

ImJessesGirl · June 2014

I've been getting irritated for the same thing. Everyone assumes that this is a boy... and don't get me wrong, I hope it is. But I am scared that if this is a girl, no one but me and my MIL will be happy about it. We only want one more, so this is it. This is DH's only chance for a son, and mine as well, but it will be whatever it will be.

EllenMA · June 2014

I have told 3 people at work. I am dreading telling the rest of my staff. There is a running joke there that you drink the water and get KU. When I told one of the 3, that was his response. I wish it was as simple as just drinking the water and catching to contagious pregnancy flu. It would have saved us thousands and a lot of heart ache.

mom2case · June 2014

@ImJessesGirl That was us the first time around. We decided to be team green so people kept guessing til the birth. Everyone thought it would be a boy. I mean, EVERYONE. We were worried that if it was a girl, people wouldn't be as excited. When SHE was born, DH's dad was so excited that the baby came a day early that he wasn't even listening and... posted on facebook that we had a BOY! Omg. Anyway, people love her very much regardless of gender.

Second successful pregnancy was a boy and that concerned me. DH is the last in the line so the last name dies with him unless we have a boy. I was worried that Case would be the favorite and DD would get the shaft since she was a girl. So when our son died, I felt like we had let everyone down. There was the boy to carry on the name, and he died. Other people's expectations can make any situation worse. I wish they would just stfu.

Sorry about that whole rant! Anyway, what irritates me the most is people who complain all. the. freaking. time. I don't want to hear about all the "bad things" about late pregnancy when I would have given anything to still have my son inside. I unfriended quite a few complainers after he died.

KJsbabe · June 2014

peggels24 said:

VolMomma said:

My rant has been at people telling me my cats will kill my baby..really? Get a life. And after a strong heartbeat and great appointment a week and a half ago I posted our news on FB and now I get stupid questions like don't you think it's too soon? You're still not out of the woods and one whiny friend who yes has had a miscarriage YEARS AGO, posted a sad "why do people post preggo stuff feel sorry for me status". Ughhhhh!! Kinda why I've been MIA, I took social media break. People are just stupid.

I'm sorry that people posted "stupid questions" on your FB announcement - that is not right. They should have either congratulated you or kept quiet. However, I have to say that your next sentence really didn't sit well with me - why does it matter how long ago your friend lost her baby? Is she not allowed to feel the same way whether she lost her baby years ago or days ago? I am sure you did not mean it that way but it just doesn't sit well.

I agree. It shouldn't mater how long ago her loss was. A loss is a loss. My MC's were four years ago now, but they still effect me. I still think about and miss those babies. I still get nervous when people I know announce really early in their pregnancies because I know that +HPT =/= baby in 9 months. And I'm still nervous that this LO will not come home with us in January. Time doesn't change that. Sorry that your friend projected her fears on your announcement.

VolMomma · June 2014

KJsbabe said:

peggels24 said:

VolMomma said:

My rant has been at people telling me my cats will kill my baby..really? Get a life.
And after a strong heartbeat and great appointment a week and a half ago I posted our news on FB and now I get stupid questions like don't you think it's too soon? You're still not out of the woods and one whiny friend who yes has had a miscarriage YEARS AGO, posted a sad "why do people post preggo stuff feel sorry for me status". Ughhhhh!!
Kinda why I've been MIA, I took social media break.
People are just stupid.

I'm sorry that people posted "stupid questions" on your FB announcement - that is not right. They should have either congratulated you or kept quiet. However, I have to say that your next sentence really didn't sit well with me - why does it matter how long ago your friend lost her baby? Is she not allowed to feel the same way whether she lost her baby years ago or days ago? I am sure you did not mean it that way but it just doesn't sit well.

I agree. It shouldn't mater how long ago her loss was. A loss is a loss. My MC's were four years ago now, but they still effect me. I still think about and miss those babies. I still get nervous when people I know announce really early in their pregnancies because I know that +HPT =/= baby in 9 months. And I'm still nervous that this LO will not come home with us in January. Time doesn't change that.

Sorry that your friend projected her fears on your announcement.

Time doesn't change, I remember my first and my 7th and the hours. But I'm happy for my close knit group of girls that have struggled. Every FB post I post, Is followed by a sad I'm here in tears post from her. I guess I'm more stubborn I didn't take no from dr's and found ones that were gonna help me.
This could easily not be my take home baby, but damn let me enjoy it without whiny girl drama right now...

VolMomma · June 2014

Here's one of my baby killers..she looks dangerous don't she?

longcat07 · June 2014

i had someone tell me when i was pregnant with DS that i'd either have to get rid of my cats or make them outdoor cats because "cats and babies don't mix", followed by how the cats are going to lay on his face because he smells like milk. obviously, i completely ignored her. i didn't let my cats into his nursery until he was about 18m, but that was purely for ease of cleaning and because i wasn't sure how allergies were going to work out (none in my family and his father didn't have any, but many people in his father's family do). he slept in plenty of places outside of his nursery and never did a cat ever attempt to lay on his face for any reason. actually, they didn't really want to have anything to do with him. lol

VolMomma · June 2014

The biggest loud mouth had been my SIL, my dr is fine with it, and so far they are very protective of me. DH does litter duty and they are declawed. My kitties are here to stay. I call them my first babies. Without them I woulda lost my mind.

mellie86041 · June 2014

Ugh. That reminds me of my MIL when I was pregnant with DD. She would call all the time asking how her grandson was doing. Even after we had the u/s showing DD was a girl. She was convinced it was wrong and that we knew it deep down too because we were giving her a "boy" name (Avery).

She's already started doing that again with this LO. She ekes saying she's kind of psychic and knows these things. As much as DH and I would like a boy, I secretly hope it's another girl just to shut her up!

Lanatir · June 2014

@mellie86041-- Same here. I'd be fine with a boy, but after MiL announced my pregnancy on facebook and added on the FB announcement that we're hoping for a boy (false), I REALLY want 2.0 to turn into DD 2.0 instead of just LO 2.0. hahaha

Roxycc55 · June 2014

@VolMomma‌ I'm really irked by you but I'm just going to leave it at that since I cannot find myself calming down enough to state something as mature as the other ladies did on here.

VolMomma · June 2014

And I'm supposed to care why?

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