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Depression/Anxiety Check-In *6/13/14*

Re: Depression/Anxiety Check-In *6/13/14*

  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    Still feeling down about being so exhausted all the time.
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  • pashedmotatoespashedmotatoes member
    Yesterday and today I have been doing good. Earlier in the week was horrible! 10 more days til my appointment.
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  • Jen4033Jen4033 member

    First time joining this thread. I have dealt with depression for a really long time. Runs in the family. I had been doing fine with no meds for years, but lately, since having DS2 and going back to work, I'm finding I am having a really hard time handling the stress. Big mood swings have me snapping at DS1 & then I just feel guilty about it. DH is working 5am-9pm this past week & so it is like I never get any rest period to release the tension that builds up. I'm up 4:30am-10/11pm most weeknights & by the time the week comes to a close, I am just spent.

    Today is the first day in a few weeks that I am working from home & the kids are not home with me. This is the closest I am getting to a break & am hoping to have some good 'me' time today. :)

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  • ameegeeameegee member
    I started Zoloft earlier this week, so hopefully that helps with the anxiety. I'm almost done with my biochem class but the last week is going to be awful and stressful. I want to finish so I don't have to take it again
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  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    @kittyteatime‌ glad things are better, you can do it!

    @MommyLovesLogan‌ so excited for you!! I guess it's too much to ask for the ILs to come around, but I'm so happy everything else is finally falling into place! Way to keep at it!

    Welcome @Jen4033‌. that sounds exhausting for anyone, let alone having depression issues. I hope your H isn't working as long next week so he can help you out a little, and so you can get some more rest!

    @ameegee‌ best of luck on your class! The end is in sight.
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  • pashedmotatoespashedmotatoes member
    Does anyone know how to help a person who doesn't believe this stuff is real understand what its like? DH keeps mentioning he thinks I'm acting like I'm leaving him. I tell him no but he just doesn't understand how horrible I feel inside my brain.
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  • pashedmotatoespashedmotatoes member
    mrsashleyk said:

    kittyteatime said:

    Does anyone know how to help a person who doesn't believe this stuff is real understand what its like? DH keeps mentioning he thinks I'm acting like I'm leaving him. I tell him no but he just doesn't understand how horrible I feel inside my brain.

    Ugh that sucks, I'm so sorry. If I remember correctly you are on medication and doing counseling right? Is there any way you can get him to attend a counseling session with you? Even a doctors appointment? Hearing from a professional that it isn't his fault (or yours!) might help.
    No counseling or meds yet. I have to see my OB on the 23rd and hope if he gives me a referal (sp?) to any other drs my insurance will cover it.
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  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    @kittyteatime‌ I have heard of exercises where people will wear headphones for a day that have a constantly running voice telling them to kill them self or that they're worthless or that people are out to get them, meant to simulate some of what people go through who have schizophrenia or depression or are hearing voices.

    It is very difficult for someone to understand what mental illness is like who has not experienced it them self. When I was going through the worst of my depression it took a toll on my H because all he saw was that I was constantly unhappy, no matter what he did.

    It took constant reassurance from me that this is a debilitating illness that has nothing to do with him and even then it was still hard. I had to keep telling him that he WAS helping me by being there for me and supporting me. That my unhappiness was caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain that could not be fixed by anything he or anyone else could do or say, but with medication and medical/psychiatric treatment.

    I wish I had a magic solution to help him understand. But he doesn't have to understand as long as he knows that he did not cause this in any way, and that you love him and are getting yourself help. My best advice is to constantly assure him of that, and to thank him for his support, for being someone who can help you through this by just being there for you.
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  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    @MommyLovesLogan‌ you are such an awesome mom, wife, and DIL!
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  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    @kittyteatime‌ I would recommend trying to get an appointment even sooner than the 23 if you can, if not with your ob then with your PCP. It takes a while to go through the process of finding the right Dr. and/or the right medication, and then most medications take awhile to kick in. The sooner you can get this process started the better since you have already been suffering. GL to you!
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  • pashedmotatoespashedmotatoes member
    sventurarn said:

    @kittyteatime‌ I have heard of exercises where people will wear headphones for a day that have a constantly running voice telling them to kill them self or that they're worthless or that people are out to get them, meant to simulate some of what people go through who have schizophrenia or depression or are hearing voices.

    It is very difficult for someone to understand what mental illness is like who has not experienced it them self. When I was going through the worst of my depression it took a toll on my H because all he saw was that I was constantly unhappy, no matter what he did.

    It took constant reassurance from me that this is a debilitating illness that has nothing to do with him and even then it was still hard. I had to keep telling him that he WAS helping me by being there for me and supporting me. That my unhappiness was caused by a chemical imbalance in my brain that could not be fixed by anything he or anyone else could do or say, but with medication and medical/psychiatric treatment.

    I wish I had a magic solution to help him understand. But he doesn't have to understand as long as he knows that he did not cause this in any way, and that you love him and are getting yourself help. My best advice is to constantly assure him of that, and to thank him for his support, for being someone who can help you through this by just being there for you.

    I love this. All of it. It made me cry (good tears) because it is exaxtly true.

    I'm happy to report that I have gone the last 2 nights without panic attacks thinking I was going to be murdered. And DH gets home before dark today and tomorrow, so I bet I don't have them tonight/tomorrow either! YAY!
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  • pashedmotatoespashedmotatoes member
    @sventurarn‌ I had to go for DHs next day off work. We only have 1 car and 1-2 days a month off. It's awful. But 1 week to go.
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  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    kittyteatime said:

    @sventurarn‌ I had to go for DHs next day off work. We only have 1 car and 1-2 days a month off. It's awful. But 1 week to go.

    You can do it!! Keep on truckin
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  • pashedmotatoespashedmotatoes member
    edited June 2014
    I thought it was gone. I had 2 good days last Thurs and Fri. Then DH was off work before dark Sat and Sun Mon and Tues so still good. So I actually forgot how crazy I had become. Yet again I cower in my home like a child because I am so afraid of EVERYTHING. I feel like something is lurking in the darkness just out of my vision. It's plotting my death...

    At least the kids are asleep and oblivious to their mom going nuts and DH is on his way home.
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  • notthecheatnotthecheat member
    kittyteatime said:
    I thought it was gone. I had 2 good days last Thurs and Fri. Then DH was off work before dark Sat and Sun Mon and Tues so still good. So I actually forgot how crazy I had become. Yet again I cower in my home like a child because I am so afraid of EVERYTHING. I feel like something is lurking in the darkness just out of my vision. It's plotting my death... At least the kids are asleep and oblivious to their mom going nuts and DH is on his way home.
    I'm so sorry! :( 4 more days!
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