I do not enjoy having intercourse I feel disgusted. Maybe it's all in my.head.

TaneeDec12 · June 2014

I feel like a horrible fiancee I do not enjoy having intercourse at all. I am only doing it to please my hunny but I feel so gross afterwards I immediately take a shower. Maybe this is all in my head but since I've become pregnant I can say I hate sex. We dont even have it that often. I don't know what to do I'm only 24 weeks and I feel like the next 16 weeks will be filled with just disgust if I continue to have intercourse. What should I do, contine pleasing him or just think about myself until the baby it's born.

MrsLaLaBug · June 2014

Don't feel bad, I think this happens to a lot of women who get pregnant. Not everyone turns into a hornball who wants to jump on the boner train every night. No advice other than to just talk it out and explain to him how you are feeling, then maybe the two of you can see if there are any other options to making sex more enjoyable for you or hold off altogether until you get to a point where you can.

cMichelle0423 · June 2014

It's pretty normal to have a decreased sex drive while pregnant. I was fine during my 1st tri but once I hit 2nd tri, sex became very painful for me. It just got better recently within the last month (I'm now 39 weeks). But even now if we have sex for too long, it starts to hurt.

Hopefully it gets better for you. Don't be afraid to say no if you don't want to have sex! You're making a human, so it's completely understandable not to feel comfortable whether it's a mental of physical thing.

beccalee721 · June 2014

Just remember, this is a very short period in your long lives together in the future. You need to be honest with your fiancee. And, every pregnancy is different. With my first I had no issues, but this with one (24 weeks now) I have no interest. I apologize to my husband all the time and we joke about it because he understands that this is something my body's going through and it's causing me to feel a certain way. He'll survive and you can count down til you're medically cleared after the baby is born together

You never know, you might feel differently in a month, but you shouldn't feel miserable and forced.

mrsH1112 · June 2014

I wouldnt feel horrible if I were you. Not everyone is into it. Your hormones change, your body changes etc.

I like it, and yet we tried the other day and I just wasnt into it, I couldnt get there, I was uncomfortable etc. DH asked me if I wanted to just hold off till after the baby is born (Im 24 weeks) and I told him not yet, that Id keep trying but if I wasnt into it Id let him know before hand.

I think if you have an honest conversation with him and just tell him it has nothing to do with him, but you just cant get into it, he should understand.

Not to be forward..but would you consider possibly doing other things besides intercourse? This would please him and let him know you are obviously into him, but take some pressure off of you a bit. You never know you might get into it.

PrimRoseMama · June 2014

I am never a fan of continuing to do something that makes you feel awful before during or after. Talk to your partner. There are other ways to be intimate that do not always involve penetration.

Get creative.

Also, there is no sex at all 6 weeks after baby arrives. So, at some point it's not recommended.

Lastly, when you get towards 39 weeks you can always have a sex fest. The prostaglandins in sperm can help ripen your cervix & orgasm can help move your body towards labor when it's ready. If you do alternatives to intercourse until around 39 weeks then you can compromise-- sex frequency can increase until delivery. Would that be a reasonable compromise?

BlckRoses · June 2014

Most of the 1st tri and pretty much all of my 2nd tri, every time we tried to have sex I would cry uncontrollably. Eventually we stopped trying because it was difficult for me and DH didn't really enjoy making me cry like that, even though I told him that it wasn't anything he did, it was just the hormones. He survived not having sex. Just recently I went through a week where I was jumping him every chance I got. Now, I'm back to my pre-pregnancy sex drive.

The point of this is, that things change, you're going through some hormonal changes and it'll effect your libido. If you don't want to have sex for awhile to let things sort out, you should talk to your SO about it and take a break. It might help you get into the mood if you go without for awhile, just a suggestion.

Cat&S · June 2014

We haven't done it since the beginning of second tri. I have no sex drive and it just feels awkward and...unsexy. DH is surviving. So will yours.

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mrs_sheddy · June 2014

Don't let it bother you. I have awesome sex dreams, but then when it comes time to do the deed in real life.. It's just not there for me!

TaneeDec12 · June 2014

Thanks ladies because everyone looks at me like I am crazy. Everyone is like I should be extra horny because I'm pregnant and should want it all the time. Granted foreplay is ok but intercourse is yuccck. So I will have the talk with him.

TheaRae · June 2014

Its really important to put yourself and baby to be first when it comes to "how you feel" however these are very special moments in a relationship, you may not feel in the mood but on occasion you should try to be, are you thinking about your body image during intercourse or the fact that there is technically another person in the room? I find that clearing my head of all thoughts really helps me to get in the mood with my guy.. I mean our bodies are changing. But all in all it is important to take care of your partner and not neglect their needs if your feeling like you don't want to have intercourse specifically there are tons of alternatives to that (if you to your local sex shop) they have many classy options for women to use for their partners to still be intimate but take away the act of intercourse per-se... Guys need affection just as we women do, and its important to make sure your partner feels affection in various levels throughout this growing experience.