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Seriously FI?! (Rant, NBR)

JaymeeLHJaymeeLH member
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I asked him to do ONE THING this afternoon since he got off work at 1:30 and my shift started at 2. All I wanted was for the laundry to get done, I made sure everything at the apartment was cleaned and taken care of so he wouldn't have to worry about it, and since he can't tear himself away from his moms he was going over there anyway while I was at work. Well fast forward to 10:30 when I got home from work only to find all of the laundry just shoved in the basket left right in front of my dresser. Wet. Like most of my shirts felt like he never even bothered to put them in the dryer. SERIOUSLY?! So now that I'm home and all I want to do is go to bed, instead I had to fold what little laundry was actually dry, and shake out and hang up all of my now wrinkled and still wet tshirts. And to boot when I finally did get around to crawling into bed, he was passed out on my side and had the AUDACITY to give me a dirty look and roll his eyes at me when I told him to move the f*ck over. Really asshole? Because I just finished THE ONE DAMN THING YOU HAD TO DO TONIGHT. I swear I could kill him.

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Re: Seriously FI?! (Rant, NBR)

  • desireearieldesireeariel member
    What a jerk! but at the same time I can't help but laugh because I deal with the same thing. My SO can't even decide what to feed himself without my help. I clean and do EVERYTHING. He attempted to do our laundry the other day and oh lord just move aside so I can do it! and if I ever do not feel like getting up to get him something I get "wow ok thanks". Not that I have problem getting him stuff I love doing anything I can to make him happy but I need a break and for him to hold the attitude too ;)
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  • Cheekers2010Cheekers2010 member
    @summersunshine916‌ - totally valid. For me it's less about the specific task and more about he general idea that my time and effort are worth less than his.
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    summersunshine916 said:

    I totally understand and if SO wasn't so helpful I would probably get mad. He does so much for me. Brings me food and such LOL!
    Cheekers2010 said:
    @summersunshine916‌ - totally valid. For me it's less about the specific task and more about he general idea that my time and effort are worth less than his.


    Aw! That's sweet! I get it.
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  • AbsolutelyAyriannaAbsolutelyAyrianna member
    I have similar problems but they're only problems because I shouldn't have to teach a grown ass man how to be a grown ass man. Its all a matter of respect. I asked you to not leave your 5 different cups for the same drink on table so DD doesn't get to them. I expect you to respect my wishes and just get them to the sink. Dishes are my worst enemy now.
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    mamalavender said:
    Trust me, I have been married for almost 8 years... Pick your battles and don't let the little things bother you. And yes this is very minuscule in the scheme of things. Even if they really piss you off in the heat of the moment. Tomorrow you may not be mad anymore, but you may have done damage. Just my opinion. ETA: words are hard.
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  • JaymeeLHJaymeeLH member
    I didn't say anything last night, waking him up is pointless. I'll probably mention today that I didn't appreciate coming home to still wet laundry. It's just the fact that he couldn't follow through on the only thing he needed to do yesterday, and I had to come home late and finish for him. I vented here but I very rarely say anything in the heat of the moment, I'm more of a suffer in silence type and wait til I mull it over and come up with something constructive to say instead of blowing up

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  • krystrist2014krystrist2014 member
    JaymeeLH said:
    I didn't say anything last night, waking him up is pointless. I'll probably mention today that I didn't appreciate coming home to still wet laundry. It's just the fact that he couldn't follow through on the only thing he needed to do yesterday, and I had to come home late and finish for him. I vented here but I very rarely say anything in the heat of the moment, I'm more of a suffer in silence type and wait til I mull it over and come up with something constructive to say instead of blowing up
    In my opinion, you did the smart thing. :) This would have pissed me off too... but whenever I let my emotions take over, I wind up being a completely irrational stubborn bitch! Lol. So I usually wait till the next day or a few hours later to cool off too.
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  • ABurriesABurries member
    DH is amazing at helping out, but only if I lay out very specifically what I need him to do. I asked him to throw a load of laundry in the other day. About 2 seconds later after he got up to do it, I hear him yell, "Hey, how do you turn this thing on?" I couldn't help but laugh. Let's just say, I am in charge of the laundry.
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