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March 2014 Moms
coreyeliz
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Beyond stressed out. Need to vent. **UPDATE**
coreyeliz
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I have been crying my eyes out all night. We just got a letter from our landlords telling us they're not renewing our lease which is up July 31st. I'm pretty sure it's because of the baby. My husband went and talked to our landlord tonight, and all he would say is they "want a fresh start." He admitted that wasn't the actual reason, but wouldn't say more. He said we haven't broken any rules, haven't offended them, the baby isn't loud. Nothing. It's either that they don't want a baby here it our landlady hates us for some reason. Or both. She went from being warm to being distant and cold pretty soon after we moved in. I should mention that they live downstairs.
I am so stressed out and overwhelmed. I just started back at work this week, and it's so much harder than I realized. I always worked a lot of overtime which I can't do anymore so things are piling up fast. DH has only been at his crazy job since last September and he works non stop. A lot of days he doesn't see Ellie while she's awake. I have no idea how I'm going to find a place to live, get everything packed and get us moved.
On top of it, my work screwed up my leave. Even though I told them I didn't want to use my PTO, they paid me out for it and now with all of this going on I have zero time at work.
I'm sorry this got so long. I'm just so completely overwhelmed right now, and needed to get it out. Thanks for reading this far if you did.
**UPDATE**
I'll make this quick since this was already so long. Landlady refused to budge AT ALL. DH unloaded on her on the phone and then hung up on her. I decided to approach my landlord tonight when I saw him mowing the lawn. I just wanted to talk, but burst into tears. He said we should stay another year, and he'd make landlady be alright with it. He shared some personal stressers. We're still looking cuz I don't trust it. The only thing they complained about was that we don't walk softly enough. But they never complained before. Anyway, at the very least I bought myself an additional month to find a place.
As always, you ladies are the best!
I am so stressed out and overwhelmed. I just started back at work this week, and it's so much harder than I realized. I always worked a lot of overtime which I can't do anymore so things are piling up fast. DH has only been at his crazy job since last September and he works non stop. A lot of days he doesn't see Ellie while she's awake. I have no idea how I'm going to find a place to live, get everything packed and get us moved.
On top of it, my work screwed up my leave. Even though I told them I didn't want to use my PTO, they paid me out for it and now with all of this going on I have zero time at work.
I'm sorry this got so long. I'm just so completely overwhelmed right now, and needed to get it out. Thanks for reading this far if you did.
**UPDATE**
I'll make this quick since this was already so long. Landlady refused to budge AT ALL. DH unloaded on her on the phone and then hung up on her. I decided to approach my landlord tonight when I saw him mowing the lawn. I just wanted to talk, but burst into tears. He said we should stay another year, and he'd make landlady be alright with it. He shared some personal stressers. We're still looking cuz I don't trust it. The only thing they complained about was that we don't walk softly enough. But they never complained before. Anyway, at the very least I bought myself an additional month to find a place.
As always, you ladies are the best!
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Re: Beyond stressed out. Need to vent. **UPDATE**
Or, you could look at it like who wants to live downstairs from such cold harsh people who will flip on you, apparently. Maybe it would be better to find a better situation where you and your family would feel welcomed. I'm glad you feel comfortable venting' Great place for that!
Maybe after a few days you can gain more perspective on everything and the kind of situation you would rather be in. I hope things get better!!!
Hopefully you find something better. I know you got your vaca days paid out, but could you take some days off unpaid and use the money they paid you to cover it?
@addisonsmom22 and @wildhoney4508 - It's definitely illegal for them to not renew because of the baby which is probably why they wouldn't give us a reason. I think it's weird that our landlord suggested a sit down as well. Is he thinking we'll change his wife's mind? Was he just hoping to get out of the immediate conversation with DH?
I don't really want to stay where I'm not wanted, but having one more year to get things in order would make such a difference. We started trying to see what's available last night, but I hope they relent and let us stay one more year. I'm doubtful, though.
That said, DH is an attorney and knows about MA housing law so if we can't find something by the end of the lease, I think they'll have a hard time physically evicting us.
I'm going to talk to work about my PTO, and hopefully they'll let me take days unpaid. It's crazy that you come back to work with an infant and no time in case of emergencies.
Anyway, thanks for the encouragement. I really need it to try and remind myself that life works out. I'm having a hard time looking for silver linings right now.
The current turn around is super weird to me, so I'm not fully trusting it. At this point, all it want is some flexibility to not be pushed into a subpar space just because we need a home. But I don't want to stay where I'm not wanted and it's uncomfortable.
Born 2/4/14
Weighing 6 lbs 10 oz and 20 inches long