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March 2014 Moms
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Working moms check in
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Good morning ladies!
We're coming up to the halfway point in June, so we've probably got some more M14 mamas returning to work in the next couple months. I returned the day after Memorial Day and I was dreading it! Things have gotten MUCH better though, so I thought it might be nice to have a working mom check in to see how things are improving (I hope that they are!) to maybe make the transition easier for our end of the month moms!
DS was most definitely not on a schedule when I went back to work. Although he's not 100% consistent, he's at least starting to sleep until 7 AM every day which helps me get ready in the mornings. He had a GREAT weekend where he slept 7 PM - 7 AM and only woke twice to eat (although it didn't last, it was an amazing glimpse of my future).
I'm also getting back into the swing of things at work. It's really nice to be able to eat my lunch with both hands and talk to other grown ups (albeit mostly about DS). I love coming home at night to hang out with him and I think he's enjoying his time with his sitter. I was super worried about him forgetting me but I can safely say that hasn't happened haha!
We're coming up to the halfway point in June, so we've probably got some more M14 mamas returning to work in the next couple months. I returned the day after Memorial Day and I was dreading it! Things have gotten MUCH better though, so I thought it might be nice to have a working mom check in to see how things are improving (I hope that they are!) to maybe make the transition easier for our end of the month moms!
DS was most definitely not on a schedule when I went back to work. Although he's not 100% consistent, he's at least starting to sleep until 7 AM every day which helps me get ready in the mornings. He had a GREAT weekend where he slept 7 PM - 7 AM and only woke twice to eat (although it didn't last, it was an amazing glimpse of my future).
I'm also getting back into the swing of things at work. It's really nice to be able to eat my lunch with both hands and talk to other grown ups (albeit mostly about DS). I love coming home at night to hang out with him and I think he's enjoying his time with his sitter. I was super worried about him forgetting me but I can safely say that hasn't happened haha!
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I'm trying to convince my H to let me stay home bc I want to be more involved in Will's therapies. He's my husband and my boss so it's difficult. He has to restructure our personal finances and the office set up. Things aren't currently progressing on that front.
I'm getting the bare minimum done each day at home and I feel like my older son is not getting enough of my attention
I'm hoping the fall will be a little easier. This lo will be 6 months when next school year starts, so hopefully she'll be a pretty set routine at that point.
We are doing a complete kitchen remodel this summer. I'm hoping having a dishwasher eliminates some of the stress of needing to get bottles and pump parts washed for the next day.
I went back to work the day after memorial day. It wasn't as bad as I thought. How ever its gotten worse. I miss her so much and its like when I pick her up from my moms she wants to go right back to sleep . Then doesn't wake up until its time for a bottle and bed. So I maybe get a total of an hour a day wake time.
We've pretty much gotten a routine down for morning times which is good. I work 7-3:30 so I get up at 5 with her . Feed her, get her dressed, pack my lunch then get myself ready. DH drop hers off and I pick her up. The afternoon's are usually difficult because works been so busy I've been working 9+ hours a day , then coming home and cooking cleaning etc. Its just overwhelming. I had a breakdown Tuesday because I just feel like I'm failing and I'm missing out on so much in her life. This working mom thing is super tough !
Married : ** 09/09/2011 ** BFP : 07-18-13 ** Baby #1 is a GIRL , Born 03/12/14 **
** BFP 2 : 01- 05-15 ** EDD 09-11-15 **
Today is my fifth day back to work. The leaving part has gotten easier, I still don't like it but it's not as hard as the first day. But I very much dislike working. The routine is nice, wearing real clothes and eating in peace is nice, but I would gladly give that all up to stay home.
LO is sleeping great at night, but I still can't get much sleep because she gets a last bottle at 11:30 so I don't get to bed until at least midnight, and then I have to get up at 5:30 or 6. It doesn't make sense to go to bed earlier and get back up to feed her, or skip that bottle and get up at 3 or 4 for a bottle.
LO isn't napping well at grandpa's, she gets maybe a couple 15-30 minute naps and then is crabby most nights because she is so tired, or she falls asleep super early so I barely get any awake time with her. I just hate how robotic I feel.....wake up, feed the baby, get her ready, get myself ready, drop her off, work all day, pick her up, make dinner, clean up dinner and put her to bed. It sucks. I get barely any time to do anything I want to do and even when I do get a chance, I am too tired to do it. I feel like I am a mediocre worker, a mediocre wife (the housework and dinner making is seriously lacking) and a mediocre mom just because I get to spend so little time with her. But staying home is not an option, at least not right now anyway.
I'm so grateful to my dad for being able and willing to watch her every day, but I want to be with my baby. Mom should spend the majority of time with her and see her firsts, not grandpa
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
I went back to work 2 days last week, 3 days this week and then I'm back full time starting Monday. There is definitely a learning curve. Things I thought would be hard aren't so bad (there were tears dropping him off the first day, not after that) and things I thought would be easier are unexpectedly difficult (getting us both ready and out the door). I was working 10-12hr days, plus emails and texts at home - my first text this morning was at 0538, last email last night was at 10:11 - I refuse to work that many hours, especially actually at work, so I'm waiting to see how that goes for me. What is most overwhelming is the ebf/pumping for daycare.... It is utterly consuming! I'm constantly thinking about timing, nursing, pumping, how many ounces do I have, how many do I need, making time to pump at work, getting up to pump MOTN, washing parts, packing them to and from work..... On and on and on. DH is wonderful and I've been terribly snippy with him lately. We sat down yesterday and I tried to explain what is like and he tried really hard to understand, he validated my feelings and agreed that that is more than he realized till I broke it down and said he's going to try to help, so that helped me feel slightly less overwhelmed by it all.
The transition hasn't been too hard, since I did it gradually. The days I worked at both my internship and job sucked bc I barely saw DD. I don't really have a routine bc my work schedule varies, so I just get stuff done around the house as I can. DH is home for the summer now which helps me out a lot.
My suggestion to everyone: use your days off/weekends to enjoy your LO's, not worrying abou cooking or cleaning. Once I did this, I found going to work a lot easier bc I got a lot of time with her on my days off.
Born 2/4/14
Weighing 6 lbs 10 oz and 20 inches long
Leaving actually wasn't bad. While I know that she's going to have more 'firsts' with her auntie beans it doesn't really bother me so much. It's a little sad but I think of it more as her accomplishments for herself rather than for me. Make sense? Like I'm proud of her for rolling because that's hard work and she's awesome. I'm not sad I didn't see it because in the end she still *did it* on her own.
I went back to work when DD was 9 weeks old. It was so hard at first and we had a horrendous daycare (a national chain one) - once we found a great lady who has a home daycare we've done so much better!
The best parts of my day are snuggling in the morning before getting ready and picking her up after work. It also gives me an excuse to leave work on time
One thing we have done is keep her bedtime around 10, this way my husband and I have more time with her after work.
AMA & SAIF. TTC #1 since Oct. 2010. DX: Unexplained. BFP on break after 32 months trying and 2 med cycles. Baby girl born at 40w0d!
jbelle
DS is STTN so that is a plus. I am trying to enjoy my last week or so home and on mornings DD is with the sitter in the AM or days she is spending with my mom or MIL, I am getting in lots of cuddles.
I am also working hard to get the house in as best of order as I can. Living room is done, dining room is a mess and in the midst of renovation so not sure how good I'll get that together, but focusing on getting my clothes in order. (Mainly dresses in the summer which is nice) but I am also putting together outfits so I can pretty much grab and go when getting dressed in the morning.