abortion

mrmrsbernal · June 2014

I am so hurt . My DH was excited to tell his family about the lil peanut but he wasn't expecting this. For all his family to tell me to abort. That It's not even a Baby yet so it's not a big deal. I couldn't stop crying I still am crying. I never expected so many ppl to be so hurtful. My DH is hurt by his family. I said this is my baby and I will not kill it that is not an option! We tried we planned this baby and God obviously thought it was our time.

snooks721 · June 2014

What in the world would possess them to say such an awful thing?

If my in-laws acted that way, they would be cut out of our lives. I do believe that God gave you this blessing for a reason. Please try not to let the negative, terrible things they said affect you.

megj2013 · June 2014

::hugs::

HerHighness · June 2014

I'm so sorry you have no support in that side. If you guys are married Im very confused by their attitude.
It'd probably be the last time theyd see me.

mommy5point0 · June 2014

What fkn nasty people. I am so sorry.

blt12 · June 2014

I'm so sorry that they said that to you. This life is a gift and I'm pretty sure there's a tiny itty bitty baby in there. Just keep your head up! Will be thinking of you!

delaneykai · June 2014

That is horrible.

I can't even imagine what would make them think that is an appropriate reaction to have? I would be DONE with them if I was in the situation. You deserve to have a happy, healthy, and stress-free pregnancy.

amt0312 · June 2014

Wait a second....you're married...you planned a baby...you're pregnant....and they want you to abort? This doesn't make sense to me and your post was very vague, OP. Can you clarify why in the world his family would want you to have an abortion?

Seriously, this is not adding up.

Edit: Sorry if i'm coming off like a bitch, but this is so completely out of the range of norm. I'm not saying I don't believe you, but its such a bizarre situation. Hope his family comes around and recognizes the amazing little being growing inside of you.

Jay_Cee · June 2014

I'm so sorry. I'd also be done with them.

mrmrsbernal · June 2014

He has two kids and i have one. they told him having another baby will ruin his life that im just going to put him in debt. I have been with this man since my son was a year old he is now turning 4 in a few months. they said having a baby is a mistake that we are selfish for wanting another child. that they will not support us with this baby. i work at a law office as a receptionist and he is GM of a company and they are telling him we will be living paycheck to paycheck and we will be miserable that i will leave him and take his money. they have never been so cruel. its all out of the blue. we expected them to be happy and excited we got a completely opposite reaction and neither of us know why all of a sudden they feel this way. but i have no problem keeping them out of my childs life. i cried for a good while i have a migraine now.

mrmrsbernal · June 2014

DH is hurt but alot stronger than i am. he says no worries that i will never lose him that he loves me. but i just feel so hurt from their response.

CatLadyTX · June 2014

I am so so sorry

Nobody should ever be made to feel that way, especially be family. Lots of hugs.

Snickerdoodle24 · June 2014

I'm so sorry that you got that reaction from his family, that is just awful

kittyj25 · June 2014

I wish he would punched them in the face.

I'm so sorry! I hate them.

amt0312 · June 2014

mrmrsbernal said:
He has two kids and i have one. they told him having another baby will ruin his life that im just going to put him in debt. I have been with this man since my son was a year old he is now turning 4 in a few months. they said having a baby is a mistake that we are selfish for wanting another child. that they will not support us with this baby. i work at a law office as a receptionist and he is GM of a company and they are telling him we will be living paycheck to paycheck and we will be miserable that i will leave him and take his money. they have never been so cruel. its all out of the blue. we expected them to be happy and excited we got a completely opposite reaction and neither of us know why all of a sudden they feel this way. but i have no problem keeping them out of my childs life. i cried for a good while i have a migraine now.

Well, good on you. Fuck that bullshit (Excuse my language). Funny how families forget that their grown kids are adults and can make their own decisions. But, they are also entitled to their (stupid) opinions as well, so whatever. Cut them out of your lives and feel better knowing you don't have toxic people around you and your children.

pomegranite09 · June 2014

Wow. What makes them think they get to decide your future? Seriously, what is wrong with people? I'd definitely stay away from them. Your life, your decision, not theirs!

mkrk227 · June 2014

That is incredibly wrong. I'm so sorry you don't have the support of his family but from the looks of it you're better off! You've had a good long cry and now just rid that negativity from your life.

Congratulations on your gift from God.

Kayla*Marie · June 2014

If people would plan for when a baby was financially appropriate, there would be no children! The most money in the world does not make a person happy! Who cares if you live paycheck to paycheck, if you have a wonderful husband and children to spend each day with!
I am so sorry you have to deal with this! The baby growing inside of you is just that, a BABY! I cannot believe that awful response. You are a strong Mama! Do no let them burden you... You know what is best for you and your family and you are completely correct that you are blessed beyond imagine! God is good and has deemed you and your husband worthy to bring another precious life into this world. I pray that his family realizes that God's plan is much greater than us. I'm sorry you have to deal with these attitudes.

circe811 · June 2014

You're both employed, you're married, and you planned this baby. I'd say it doesn't get any more "storybook" than that. And here I thought my mom's reaction ("well, are you happy about that?") sucked...your ILs take the cake! AWFUL!

jovencita1224 · June 2014

Wow. Cut them out of your life. You don't need that kind of negativity in your life.

kerbear135 · June 2014

How awful, OP..I'm so sorry you had to listen to that. I would tell them if they can't be supportive, they will be cut out of your lives- your child doesn't need negative people like that in their life.

PeaceofKia · June 2014

How ridiculous for them to say that?! Babies are blessings!

biaher16 · June 2014

That is hateful for thwm to say that. That is a libing creture geowing inside you that is a part of you and your husband. Don't listen to them and ignore them thwir just ignorant.

StephanieLBerg · June 2014

I feel for you OP! My mom, when she found out she was pregnant with me, she told my dad first, and he told her he was excited and happy. But then when he got home that night, he asked her when the abortion was scheduled for. Why woukd someone think it was ok to do and say something like that? Make a woman feel like she had the support of her other half only to find out that he wasn't supportive at all, but in fact said that if she didn't abort that she was on her own. The nerve of some people! I am so sorry about your whole mess OP! If I were you, I would make sure that his family never even knows the name or gender of your baby. What you choose to do with your body is solely your.decision and no one has any right to even think they have the right to tell you what you should do with it. Shame on them!

gnjforever · June 2014

You aren't the only one! My fiances grandmother has now said that to three of us. Me his sister and his mother. Love you child with everything that you possibly can I will do the same!

wintersong139 · June 2014

OP, I'm so sorry! I echo what each PP said. How horrible. Four is certainly not a big number, and even if it was your twelfth baby it would still be out of line. It might be necessary for your DH to take a break from his parents for awhile...I can only imagine how he feels, too. :-(

How old are your other three children?

StephanieLBerg · June 2014

My goodness, that's awful! I can't even imagine what my reaction would be if I was told something like that. I am so sorry his family has ruined this for you. However, I can tell that you are a strong independent woman with the love of a wonderful man, and the love of 3 great children. You don't need them, their support, or even their money. You guys are going to be just fine and you're going to live a long, happy, and fruitful life together. Congrats on baby #4!

mrmrsbernal · June 2014

well my first sono is tomorrow and DH still wants to be proud and show his family... hoping maybe actually seeing the lil baby will change some minds but who knows.. i could care less either way their first reaction was enough for me. i still dont want them around. am i being harsh if they change their minds?

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