Stress? Tiredness? Causes of infertility

greenbean79 · June 2014

Hi Ladies

Just wondering what you think....I get told all the time by people to 'relax and it will happen'. I'm not sure I believe that fully though. I'm not that anxious of a person; however, I AM tired a lot due to having a soon-to-be 3 year old, full time job, etc.

How much do you think stress and/or tiredness actually has something to do with not being able to get pregnant? I have had some fertility tests done and so far everything has come back normal. We are still in the process of testing and will be meeting with the RE next week.

iheartsippycups · June 2014

People who tell you "relax, it will happen" are people who have never dealt with infertility.

Bananappeal145 · June 2014

^ This. If stress caused infertility there would be no babies in war zones. I think it might be a contributing factor but by no means the biggest. I think you would have to be EXTREMELY stressed out to the point where you were not getting your cycle.

Jodee37 · June 2014

People who impose that asinine piece of "advice" on you should be told in response to "relax, this hopefully will hurt like a bitch" as you throat punch them.

Clearly they've never had to deal with ANY IF problems not know anyone who did. People say the dumbest shit. Is that to say stress on the body plays no role? Of course not. There is a shitload of research out there proving how stress is only positive in a fight or flight situation and that long term stress is harmful to all 9183715273 cells of your godforsaken sterile womb. And sure, minimizing that stress can only help. But back in the medieval times bitches were getting KTFU all damn day while they starved, drank straight ethyl alcohol and had all sorts of diseases known to fuck up a pregnancy. So take it with a grain of salt.

my rant is simple. Throat punch and tell them to STFU it's none of their damn business. Asshats.

GraceyandTroy · June 2014

Ok, obviously, there are some angry mommas here! I agree that people who tell you ''relax and it will happen" have no idea what they're talking about. I also believe, however, that you are most likely to get pregnant when you are at your healthiest and that stress plays a role in that healthy state. So, depending on the reason for the IF, maybe resting more and working with an acupuncturist could be what you need to tip the odds in your favor.

There are just so many variables, though, that stress can't be the one and only issue keeping you from getting KU.

Jodee37 · June 2014

@graceyandtroy did i come across too angry? ha ha

GraceyandTroy · June 2014

Lol, @jodee37. It's all justified! And I love your new siggy pic. It makes me happy that you're a potato.

Mommalawyer · June 2014

I dunno if I buy into the whole stress thing. I'm on the fence. Here's why I'm not sure- when DD was conceived, it was one of the most stressful times in my life. I was at the tail end of post grad school, I had just found out I had passed the bar, I was looking for a job everywhere with no luck, and I was in a really bad relationship. I got knocked up. Now maybe that's an extreme example. But there are ladies I work with and we've got high stress jobs, but they get knocked up. So I dunno if I buy into the stress thing. No one I know would have gotten pregnant. I do think that the stresses of infertility are a very different kind of stress and of a whole other magnitude. Especially when you throw meds in the mix. So whether that impacts us in a not able to conceive way, I don't know. I don't want to believe it does. I'm pretty sure that the majority of us would never be completely stress free....

People with the "just relax" comments need a boot to the head. My other favorite that seems to follow the "relax" comment, is the "can't you just be happy with the child you have?"

lawmom747 · June 2014

Mommalawyer said:

But there are ladies I work with and we've got high stress jobs, but they get knocked up. So I dunno if I buy into the stress thing. No one I know would have gotten pregnant. I do think that the stresses of infertility are a very different kind of stress and of a whole other magnitude. Especially when you throw meds in the mix.

This.

I am also an attorney in a very high stress work environment and the women I work with still get pregnant. Mommalawyer - did you see this shirt? https://teespring.com/keepcalmlawyerandamom

I also agree with everyone above - when someone tells you to 'just relax' they clearly have never dealt with IF. I do try to eliminate unnecessary stress where possible, especially during a treatment cycle. Not overextending myself to volunteer for something, avoiding stress inducing relatives if possible, etc.

Mommalawyer · June 2014

@hoppin747‌ - I haven't seen that shirt! I love it! What kind of law do you currently practice? I think being an attorney as a female is hard enough as it is, but throw motherhood and infertility into the mix and boy, somedays I'm ready to be an Orange County Housewife. A poor one.

lawmom747 · June 2014

@Mommalawyer - I practice civil defense litigation. How about you? (Please tell me it's something more exciting!)

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