wtf Facebook?!

lrichmond86 · June 2014

When we lost baby gary two years ago I summoned up all my courrage and wrote a beautifully worded post for Facebook explaining what had happened as best I could. Today I needed baby Gary's weight for something and couldn't remember the exact ounces (sad how memory fails) and I knew I had it in that post. So I went to my profile back to 2011... gone! All my other posts from that time are still there but that particular post is gone. I'm so angry! Not sure what happened but I have a feeling this is fb deleting without discretion again. Maybe I'm just jaded. Maybe it's just a mistake. I'm just so sick of the world acting like my son never existed. Just so sad.

lexusolsen · June 2014

I didn't realize fb did that. I hope you have it written somewhere else.

JessicaG220 · June 2014

*ticker warning*

FB did the same exact thing to me. I noticed a couple months later that all of the posts before and after Ava's obituary were there, but that particular one was gone. And I have a friend whose post about her miscarriage was deleted, too. I don't think it's a coincidence. I have since deleted my account.

I'm so sorry that happened to you. Screw you, Facebook!

lrichmond86 · June 2014

I have several loss mom friends who have had pictures of their angels flagged as "offensive" and removed. It makes me sick that people can post pictures of a sexual nature our racist jokes or vulgar language but my thoughts about my son are offensive?

bunnybun4 · June 2014

((hugs))

Xath · June 2014

***ticker warning***

If this is a repetitive action, this seems like something that we need to make a stink about.

lrichmond86 · June 2014

I'm seriously considering just deleting my account.

JessicaG220 · June 2014

gertiebarden said:

***ticker warning***

If this is a repetitive action, this seems like something that we need to make a stink about.

Agreed!

@lrichmond86, that is one of the reasons I deleted my account. It should be a place where we can share these things, but it seems posts about the loss of our children are not welcome. It's so, so wrong.

lrichmond86 · June 2014

I sent fb a message about it today. We'll see what they say.

Xath · June 2014

I posted the following on the Still Standing page to see if other people had experienced deletions from their account. I checked my history and Ellie's pictures are still up, but her photos are all from the NICU. I wonder if Facebook is targeting photos from loss parents who share post-loss photos.

"Several members of theBump Loss community have reported that posts relating to their deceased children, especially those containing photos have gone "missing" from Facebook, as in they were deleted by the Facebook staff. We're trying to determine if this is a trend, and if other loss parents have experienced non-voluntary deletions of their childrens' memorial posts on Facebook. "

lrichmond86 · June 2014

Thanks, gertiebarden!

AshersMom11 · June 2014

That is awful. So sorry.

shandorfml2 · June 2014

Hmm. Ill check my facebook. Thats frustrating

Jellybean71514 · June 2014

That's so contradictory because there are FB pages dedicated to loss with stories, posts and pictures that I visit every so often - think it's your right to share what you want on your own page ESP if it is private- so sorry that happened to you though- *hugs*

TeamWinForever · June 2014

That is so weird. But, last night I was scrolling through my fb page looking for a quote that I put up in regards to my grandmothers passing and it was gone! Then I went to my sisters page bc she put up the same quote; gone from there too! Something isn't right here....

lexusolsen · June 2014

I just checked. My post explaining our loss of Ben was still there. However, it was tucked away. It said, "more posts from March 11- 20". When I clicked on that I could see it. I'd never seen it hide posts like that before.

I hope you ladies get a prompt response.

angelsnight · June 2014

lexusolsen said:

I just checked. My post explaining our loss of Ben was still there. However, it was tucked away. It said, "more posts from March 11- 20". When I clicked on that I could see it. I'd never seen it hide posts like that before. I hope you ladies get a prompt response.

This, I've noticed my post announcing the loss of our daughter wasn't in my feed when I went back and looked at it (I wanted to read all of the supportive comments we got) multiple times. But it says I am looking at highlights, and there is an option to see all of the posts I made. Also like @lexusolsen said, sometimes you have to click the "more posts from ____" to see the ones you're looking for.

I have no idea if it was a coincidence, or if that post is specifically hidden. I don't get it if it was though....if it lets us post them to begin with and people see/respond to our posts, then why does it matter if it remains visible for years to come? It doesn't make sense why FB would do that if that is indeed what is happening. So OP, please check to make sure you're seeing all of your posts before you delete your account. I would hate for you to do that, and then discover it may have been there but was just hidden. Big hugs!

Edit: I had another thought...if our lost posts about our angels are being hidden and not deleted, maybe it is for space saving purposes. Most of my posts get a bunch of likes and a few comments, but I know my loss announcement got a ton of comments. So maybe they're not being hidden due to the content, but for the amount of space it takes up??? I hope that is the case anyway.

lrichmond86 · June 2014

That's possible. I did click the "show more" spot and it still wasn't there. Not sure what to think of all of this.

dadalou · June 2014

Mine doesn't show up on the iPad app at all, but the one from MH that I am tagged in does. On the actual site I was only able to find it in highlights, but it was hidden there. With all posts it doesn't show up. I do seem to be missing posts from before that either way. There is nothing at all from the middle of December until February 11.

gracie5107 · June 2014

I really hope that FB is not removing these posts. We should have every right to express our thoughts regarding our loss and be able to refer back to our memories when needed.

lrichmond86 · June 2014

My post hasn't been restored and Facebook has not responded to my inquiry. Not sure what to say about this one.

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