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Update: Court tomorrow

babymama619babymama619 member
edited June 2014 in Single Parents
Thanks for all the support and well wishes last week. I've been mobile so it was hard  to post an update. 

BD showed up for court and acted really inconvenienced to have to be there...You know what else is inconvenient? Being tricked into a pregnancy! when I brought DD into the waiting room for the DNA (in her carrier) I asked if he wanted to see her, he said no. Then I asked him why he did this and what he expected to happen. He then continued onto crazy town by saying he knows he's not the father. 

I then pointed out that he was the only person I slept with, he lied about his vasectomy to me, he told the subsequent baby mama that he had cancer and couldn't have kids, there is a whole online forum of women saying he was dating them while married, oh and my 7 month old looks just like his 18 month old that he has with his wife! he then said they used a sperm doner for the baby and they were separated, blah, bah, blah. He's a pathological liar and a delusional lunatic. 

I remained pretty calm during this discussion but he got pretty worked up. The DNA tech called us in separately because she said he was getting pretty "enraged". So now I'm just looking forward to results paper to make it officially indisputable which should arrive in the next week or two in the mail. We go back in August to determine the support order.

I'm thinking of meeting with a few lawyers to see if I should bring one with me to that court date. Thoughts?

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Re: Update: Court tomorrow

  • eg214eg214 member
    wow. this guy and my manchild need to be friends. sick. you have more balls than I do. I am in no way going to offer for MC to see her. A judge will now have to order that before I allow it. 

    PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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  • 20thirteen20thirteen member
    When do you get the results back from the DNA test?

    And ditto what @eg214 said, I would not even offer to let BD see her.
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  • babymama619babymama619 member
    Well I wasn't going to let him hold her or anything, just turn the carrier around so he could look. I really don't want to, but at the end of the day I'll need to answer to her when she asks why he isn't in her life. I'll know and hopefully she'll see it's because he's an ass, not because I kept him away and didn't offer opprotunities for him to be a decent human being.

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  • babymama619babymama619 member
    edited June 2014
    We did the test on Wednesday and they said we should get the results in 2 week, so I'll call after three if we don't see them. In theory that means by the 18th.

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  • eg214eg214 member
    @BABYMAMA619 - At the moment, I too will have to answer to LO about why her dad isn't around. I have no problem doing that. I mean, do I want a dad for her, sure...but not a shitty one like he is. I know he has every intention of telling her I kept her from him. Maybe she will believe him. Maybe she won't. I've thought long and hard about what I will tell her when the time comes and I'm sure I will do some more long and hard thinking until then. I've given him every fucking opportunity (excuse my language) to see her...he's chosen to do nothing. So, eventually I will tell her that her dad loves her/loved her but he was very, very sick (mentally) and couldnt be a good dad, so he stayed away so mommy could take good care of her...or something to that extent. Depending on age and all. When she's older...I'll tell her like it is. Your dad was wack and he chose not to be around because he sucks...or something.

    Ultimately, she will make her own decision. It will break my heart if she doesn't believe me, but it is what it is. I was a rebellious teenager and really wanted nothing to do with my mom and everything to do with my dad who left her for his secretary. Pretty shitty but it happened.

    Fingers crossed your pat results come in sooner than later.

    PCOS // Loss 3/2010 // Single Mom // Natural Birth // DC Metro // Baby Girl Born 2/2/2014
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  • freeatlast2014freeatlast2014 member
    See about free legal aide. I'm personally kicking myself for not doing that with my restraining order. I would consider getting one...although many many women do it without. I'm just scardey cat.
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