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JAH87JAH87 member
edited January 2014 in New to The Bump
Hello, my name is Julia. Im 26 years old. Im single but want to start a family. I was diagnosed about 2 years ago with PCOS. I've never been too concerned about it as i had so much going on at that time. The older i get the more ready I am to have a child. I've been doing some research on PCOS and its time to get it under control because honestly it scares me. Im also struggling on If i can afford iui, again im doing this on my own. Im happy to have a place like this to vent and talk to others with similar situations like mine. I'd really like any advice or suggestions any one has for me, hopefully i can be helpful in return. Also feel free to ask me anything. Thank you.
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Re: Intro

  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    Welcome.

    I'd see your dr about the PCOS. It can impact fertility but it doesn't make childbearing impossible. And there are treatments available.

    I would see if your insurance will cover IUI, and if there's a difference on doing it because of fertility issues vs getting pg as a single woman.

    Adoption is also an option for you.

    I'm curious as to why you feel now is the time to have kids, as opposed to waiting a few years and/or finding someone to raise a child with you. Not knocking your choice, just curious.

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  • JAH87JAH87 member
    Thanks for your reply and advice. My mom has spoken with an Ob-gyn about pcos recently and they're all kinds of new treatments. I have an appointment to meet with a doctor. My insurance only covers up to diagnosis. Have you ever just known you were meant to do something? I know I'm meant to be a mother, I have 2 nephews, 1 niece and 2 godchildren. I don't see my nephews as much as I'd like but I watch my niece 2+ days a week and supply everything she needs when she's at my house, and I see my godchildren everyday. I always thought I would have a child by now and I wanted to have children around the same age as my nieces and nephews because my cousins and siblings and I were always so close. I wanted my child and his/her cousins to have the same kind of relationship. I want a child by the time I'm 30/31 so I have a few years and if I meet someone while I'm going through the process that's great if not I'm fine with that. My family and friends would tell you I'm independent, reliable and very loving/caring. I put so much of my time into everyone else's child(ren) and although I do it for many reasons it doesn't fill that void from not having my own. I know on the outside looking in I might seem crazy to want to do it alone but if you knew me you would understand. My dream for myself isn't to be a single mother, however it's not something I haven't thought through either. I've spent a lot of time contemplating if doing iui and raising a child was something I could do, alone. I know I can at least try, besides parenting doesn't come with a hand book. Isn't that what all parents are doing, trying to raise their child to the best of their abilities and knowledge?
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