February 2014 Moms

Heartbroken and need T&Ps (sorry long)

I don't even know how to begin this post. As some of you may recollect I had some complications in my colon. Surgery was a major risk and I was hoping to go try alternative treatment.

Well here I am across the globe in India where we were to begin my treatment today. The Dr ordered an MRI to better understand what's going on and the results were very disappointing. He found two major abcesses which make even alternative treatment in India very complex. I don't want to dwell into more details here but I'm heartbroken, guilty and very very upset. I was desperate for treatment as the pain had been excruciating. I decided to fly down here after my surgeon in NY strongly recommended it as well. I mostly feel guilty as I did not want LO to be away from his home for so long. Initially we expected 6 weeks of treatment time but now we may have to delay for god knows how long.

I know I can vaccinate him here and he will be fine in the grand scheme of things but I just feel so heartbroken and guilty of putting my baby through adjusting with do many things because of my health. Sorry ladies but I really need T&Ps that this is not what it seems and I am able to heal soon. I need to heal for the sake of my child but it just seems to get worse and worse.

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  • I'm so sorry, I don't blame you for being upset. T&P's
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  • I'm sorry, mama. I would probably feel the same way. :(

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  • (((Hugs))) I'm thinking about you. What part of India? I have family there.

    I am in Mumbai at the moment. My in laws as well as my mom is here.
  • ((((((Hugs))))) oh love :(
    That sounds so painful. You are being so brave. Please don't feel guilty.
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  • Sending you hugs and positive thoughts and echoing what tlex said (she says the perfect things).
    I hope, while more complicated than anticipated, whatever treatment route you're taking that you get relief soon.
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  • I'm so sorry that you are in pain, hg. You can lean on us. I hope it is resolved as quickly as possible. ((hugs))

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  • I am so so sorry. :( Lots of healing Ts and Ps coming your way. 

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  • Lots of hugs to you! I'm so sorry you are going through this :(
  • I'm so sorry. Huge hugs.


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  • I'm sorry. I'm glad that your LO is with you and that you have the support of your family. I hope you have more answers soon.
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    I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. I was in a similar situation, different health problem but lots of pain, from before the time DS was born. I tried different things before finding a solution.I felt guilt about my pain and not being able to care for him and play with him as well as I wanted to. I felt guilt after my surgery because by then he was old enough to wonder why I couldn't hold him. All of that is to say that while it's normal to feel guilty about taking care of yourself first, its also so important to take care of yourself first sometimes. I found a solution for my pain and am stronger and healthier than ever to be able to be there for my kids. I pray that, no matter what path you take, that you find relief from your pain. Your little guy is just so happy to be with his mama right now and hopefully by the time all is said and done and you are feeling better, he won't even remember that all of this happened. Huge ((hugs))! Sorry this got so long! Yikes! I also don't know why there are no paragraphs! Sorry about the wall of text :(
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  • ((((Hugs)))) I hope the treatment works and recovery is easier than expected!
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  • I'm so sorry! You'll be in my thoughts! 
  • I'm so sorry! big hugs to you. I hope you get answers and are feeling better soon.
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  • I am so sorry! Please try not to mommy guilt yourself too much! LO will be fine!
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  • T&P for you to heal!
  • I'm sorry you received unexpected news about your health. As others have mentioned, your LO can now spend more time with his grandparents, which seems to be a silverlining since they live so far away.
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  • I'm really sorry you are going through this.  Lots of hugs.
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  • I am so very sorry you have been dealt all of this :( huge hugs, and thoughts for you.
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  • So sorry you are having to deal with this.  T&Ps for you!
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  • ((hugs)) I am really sorry you are going through this... I hope you get some relief soon. Please do not feel guilty for LO. The most important thing for your baby is a healthy mama. It doesn't matter what country you are in! I will say some prayers for you.


     

     


     

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    You're a great mama because you are doing everything you can to get well. Sending you lots of healing thoughts.


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  • Big hugs! Just focus on getting better. LO will be just fine. As others have said, this might be a blessing in disguise for your LO as he now gets more time with family. LO doesn't care where he is, so long as he us loved.
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  • Thank you ladies. I needed to hear this. I just spoke to my dr here who is now not wanting to try alternative therapy until I get a few procedures done. The time frame just increased to another 6 months. This affects my job, my ability to do certain things etc. But I don't think there is too much choice here so I am just going with the flow for now.

    Thank you for your T&Ps. LOs enjoying the Mumbai heat so I'll look at him and feel happy. Things could have been much much worse but they are not.
  • I am so sorry.  I hope you find a treatment that will go your way soon.  I know it's upsetting, but LO will be ok, focus on your healing.  Lots of ((HUGS)) to you.

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