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Stop asking me when this baby is coming!

Junebaby614Junebaby614 member
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My due date is this week and I am so sick of people asking me "So are you going to have that baby today?" or coworkers saying "You're here!" every day I continue to show up to work. I know, I know. People care and are interested and are trying to engage; they are well-intentioned. But it's getting SO ANNOYING! I'm tired and uncomfortable and am having a hard time being friendly when I get these joking comments. Anyone have a good line or response for these kinds of annoying interactions? This is more of just a rant as I'm sure everyone experiences this too, I'm just crabby. Thanks! :)
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Re: Stop asking me when this baby is coming!

  • mamaloafmamaloaf member
    People care about you and are excited for you. They want you to know that, so they ask. Try to adjust your attitude. While I'm typically all for snark, in this situation, I think it'd be terribly rude of you to.
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  • Junebaby614Junebaby614 member
    No no I'm not looking for snarky replies and, as I said, I get why people are making these jokes... they are well meaning. I just wish I had a standard catch phrase that didn't sound crabby because I certainly don't want to be rude. The fact is, I'm just plain crabby! :)
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  • Junebaby614Junebaby614 member
    And apparently over-compensating by putting a smiley face after every post.
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  • Junebaby614Junebaby614 member
    Glad to see I'm not a total jerk and that others have this same experience. Love that website! I may have to use it soon. Thanks!!
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  • *LrCg**LrCg* member
    My first 2 babies were born spontaneous at exactly 37 weeks (not twins and accurate dates- I was charting) so with my 3rd after 37 weeks I was getting calls/texts daily!  Drove me NUTS!  I seriously just screened and ignored them.  I went on to have #3 at 39 weeks.  Now with this one I refused to tell anyone my due date (not even family- only DH & our midwife knows it)- I just say I'm due in July.  They sometimes pry even more and I always say the due date never meant anything to me so I never kept track of it- babies come when they come.
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  • ElTrain5ElTrain5 member
    My standard go to's so far have been "Hanging in there!" (for any "how ya feeling/doing" type questions) and "Soon!" or "any day now"! to any "when are you due/how much longer/when are you having that baby" questions.  Seems to be vague enough to make everyone happy without me having to go into more detail....most of the time.

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  • Jwilliams777Jwilliams777 member
    My biggest pet peeve lately has been the belly comments. Up until literally 2-3 weeks ago everyone was telling me how small I was. Now its "omg you're ready to pop... are you sure theres not two in there?!".. no im just almost 39 weeks and have a pumpkin inside my stomach! You seen what a baby looks like right?! Well I have a whole one living in there....
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  • Jwilliams777Jwilliams777 member
    www.haveyouhadthatbabyyet.com :)
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  • ADC1979ADC1979 member
    My typical replies to people in the general public or people who I know only in passing is to give them simple, short answers.  People I actually like and care about (which includes some of my co-workers) I don't mind giving more in-depth responses to, even if I am answering the same question every day it feels like!

    I had people in the general public thinking I should have been due in April because I'm petite and I look like a watermelon smuggler, so they don't get much in the way of answers from me!

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  • Junebaby614Junebaby614 member
    I guess I'm finding a big difference in how friends and family constantly ask how I'm feeling or how many days I have left out of genuine interest and excitement, vs. the people who day after day point out to me that I'm still at work (yes I'm aware I'm at work) or ask me if I'm having the baby today (after enough times of telling you I don't know, just give it a rest). It feels more like taunting than caring.

    I too have looked like a watermelon smuggler for quite some time. The constant comments on my size, especially by strangers, is a whole new discussion thread I could start! It's amazing.
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  • ashanshelashanshel member

    I know the feeling!! Im due in a week and each of my sisters and mom had went early with their firsts, so I feel like the pressure is on! Everyone wants to know when this baby will come, and so do I!! Even though everyone means well, when you are 39 weeks pregnant and are being asked constantly how you are feeling you just want to scream at them, "how do you think im feeling!!" I usually just reply, "good!" 

     

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  • Daughterofeve84Daughterofeve84 member
    When asked for the umpteenth time whether i'm having a boy or girl by the same people i started saying "boy or girl doesnt really matter, it's whether the peanut has a soul" to which most folks have scolded me. Teach them to keep asking the same stupid questions.
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