Baby's Personality

asarem93 · June 2014

For any of the mamas who can feel their LO moving, can you tell things he/she likes it doesn't like? For example, my baby boy kicks my bladder when I have to pee until I go, then he stops moving all together. It's funny how they already have likes and dislikes.

sheluvs2travel · June 2014

Maybe? Baby is super active if I eat sweet stuff. I had a chocolate donut (don't judge!) and it felt like there was a party going on in there. He was kicked and moving all over the place!

KingsDaughter76 · June 2014

My baby is very laid back for sure. She is super calm ad easy going...hope it stays that way once she is born! lol

DaniGrace89 · June 2014

Yes! She is a daddy's girl. Her daddy is away for 3 months and when we video chat every day, she loves to kick and move.

She's been super active for a really long time. I was the same way when my mom was pregnant. So she may be like me!

pinkshades05 · June 2014

This baby loves anything with sugar--and for me to rest which I'm always happy to do

heathera1979 · June 2014

She hates when my belly is pressed up against anything. She will kick right where it hits. She also doesn't like when I hold fussy babies. She will kick right where he/she is resting. She's also a little stinker. I'll feel her kick so I'll put my hand there to try to feel her and she'll stop until I move my hand.

ladybug0088 · June 2014

So far she prefers DH to me. She loves to kick him as he sings and talks to her. She wiggles nonstop--even our OB said she was a crazy wiggler. We learned at her last u/s that she is shy. She crossed her legs at the ankles and had her hands in her lap the whole time. I think she'll be shy since both DH and I are introverts, but I think she's already a daddy's girl. He is also a big pacer when he is thinking or talking he walks around a lot and I'm wondering if that is why she is such a wiggler. LOL

golfingdarwinfish · June 2014

Eh, I try not to read anything into what occurs in utero. I also think it's sort of funny when people assume that their LO is acting a certain way because they're being "watched" during an ultrasound. Unfortunately I always counter the "fun" side of my brain that tries to extrapolate behavior with the scientific side. Perhaps once I meet him I'll associate his behavior with in utero actions.

I do hope to eventually be less of a party pooper.

ETA: Sugar does create a reaction, which we have viewed on ultrasound, but that's to be expected and I don't think it's a personality indicator.

ohioloveyou · June 2014

So far baby likes ice cream and coffee! And is kind of a night owl.

Emerald27 · June 2014

@VCGolfNYC‌ DS kept his hands in little fists in front of his face for my entire pregnancy. I knew because I was having weekly ultrasounds to monitor placenta function. Our sonographer wanted so much to give us a cute face photo, and so tried and failed every week. DS would not move his hands!

At one ultrasound, the sonographer was poking at DS' hands and such, trying to get him to move, and DS actually moved his hand to press back against the ultrasound wand. The sonographer would press, and DS would press back. He even opened his fist to place what looked like a flat hand against my uterus to push.

Of course he had no idea that he was being "watched," and I know you're mostly referring to the comment about babies being "shy" or not, but I wanted to share my story because it was so cool to me that he would be like "whatever you are and whatever you're doing, I don't like it so please stop!" Lol

ETA: There are definitely some "traits" that persist outside the womb and that you might pick up on during your pregnancy...like reversing night and day, frequency of hiccups, specific awake/alert times, etc.

vrj0522 · June 2014

She is definitely more calm than DS was. She dances a lot when I eat anything though. When I was pregnant with DS, he would not let me sleep on my left side at all. If I turned to my left, he would kick until I moved to the other side. Several times I tried to just sleep on my left even if he was kicking and he literally did not stop until I moved (showed his stubbornness from the get go). That made for one very sore right side by the time he was born... and my preferred sleeping position since. Ha!

golfingdarwinfish · June 2014

Emerald27 said:

@VCGolfNYC‌ DS kept his hands in little fists in front of his face for my entire pregnancy. I knew because I was having weekly ultrasounds to monitor placenta function. Our sonographer wanted so much to give us a cute face photo, and so tried and failed every week. DS would not move his hands! At one ultrasound, the sonographer was poking at DS' hands and such, trying to get him to move, and DS actually moved his hand to press back against the ultrasound wand. The sonographer would press, and DS would press back. He even opened his fist to place what looked like a flat hand against my uterus to push. Of course he had no idea that he was being "watched," and I know you're mostly referring to the comment about babies being "shy" or not, but I wanted to share my story because it was so cool to me that he would be like "whatever you are and whatever you're doing, I don't like it so please stop!" Lol ETA: There are definitely some "traits" that persist outside the womb and that you might pick up on during your pregnancy...like reversing night and day, frequency of hiccups, specific awake/alert times, etc.

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@emerald27

I'm not disagreeing with the bolded in anyway; I know that in utero a fetus will respond to outside stimuli, open and close hands, make a fist, etc. - I've never disputed that. They also respond to outside stimuli, such as pushing, shaking, jumping - again, I never disputed that.

You're right - I was referring to traits like shyness. A fetus does not know "genitals" and it would not know to try to "hide" or "cover" them one it is being "ultrasounded" (and I put ultrasound in quotes because the fetus has no concept of ultrasound other than the fact that there's pushing for a few minutes or whatnot).

In your example I would also wonder if he was saying, "I don't like what you're doing so please stop." or in that instance pushing back on something pushing on him - which may be a more instinctual reaction vs. showing like or dislike. It very well could be like or dislike, I'm not saying it's not, in my case I would ponder both sides, but that's just my personality.

ETA: And, I should add, I understand the desire to and the execution of projecting traits, adjectives and thoughts onto a baby in utero. I wish I could do it because I think it would probably help me bond a bit more. I'm just a bit more reserved given past experiences.

Emerald27 · June 2014

@VCGolfNYC‌ I totally get what you're saying.

Maybe when LO arrives you'll feel a sense of "remembering" certain little things he/she (I'm mobile!) does. Yet maybe not! I don't think it really matters much.

WiFiMom2be · June 2014

My little man goes nuts every time I eat fruit! Interestingly, he seems to get more excited over fruit than other sweets. :x

MrsL2B · June 2014

@VCGolfNYC‌ You might find this article interesting. It talks about when the brain actually links up to the rest of the peripheral nervous system. https://www.newscientist.com/article/dn18923-bumpology-my-fetus-is-smarter-than-an-earthworm.html#.U5Qlwom9Kc1

MorganWP · June 2014

With DD, she always seemed to be moving and poking me. We used to 'play' together, I would poke my tummy and she would poke back. She also hated, hated, hated the doppler or ultrasound wands and the fetal monitor. One time my OB couldnt get a good listen of her heart beat on the doppler because she was moving against it, making it go all fuzzy. She was also very active at night and that continued after birth. Total night owl now.

This one is a lot more calm. Rarely moves unless I'm eating or, lately, when DD is sitting on my lap. He's a morning baby though, I feel him most when I first wake up.

TheOtherJacobsons · June 2014

She responds to sounds a lot. She thumps my belly when I play music with a strong beat. She also responds to Hs voice. I notice her kicking more when I am on my back. I am sure she's just adjusting to the change in direction. I get thumps when I am sitting too far forward and my pants dig into where her head is. I think she's like me in that she likes to sleep in and stay up late and she hates when people bug her

futuremrsnjoroge · June 2014

To address the PP about ultrasounds. Ultrasounds are apparently very loud to a baby. Many do jump away and clinch up as a reaction.

On the the OP. :-)

My little guy definitely prefers when I am resting. I'll still feel him move, but he's more likely to hang out in one area and just relax there. He also doesn't really start waking up in the morning until I get up. I go tinkle and lie back down and meditate until he joins me. Then I make him a big ol breakfast and sing or talk to him

Like someone else said, he doesn't particularly enjoy when I place my hand over my belly. He can be very active, but once I place my hand there, I know I'll be waiting several minutes before he moves again.

Lastly, I'm amazed by how much time he spends awake each day. I'd say he's awake half of the day. I don't know if he sleeps through the night or if his movements just aren't strong enough to wake me out of my sleep.

Feeling him has made every horrible day of pregnancy worth it.

crystal8503 · June 2014

My son hated hiccups in the womb and hated them even more in the outside. He loved being positioned on my right side and it got painful as he grew, so I'd tap his bottom to get him to move. He'd move for a little while and then go back.

I told my husband he hatred hiccups, was stubborn as hell and loved spankings. I was right an all accounts, especially the spanking because the only way to soothe him to sleep was by thumping his bottom repeatedly as a baby. He's 18 months and it still works. I also said he was a mamas boy because he would freeze for anyone else and always give me a quick tsp wherever I touched my belly. He is the biggest mamas boy I have ever seen and I'm actually kind of worried for how he's going to handle sharing me.

I think there are some habits you can pick up on in their personality, which is amazing to thick they're already developing habits and preferences.

bumpuser10309732 · June 2014

When I wear yoga pants it squeezes just the right place and LO goes nuts. It seems like there's more movement during the day than at night. FX that continues! That's all I can really tell at this point! DH will lay on my stomach and listen. I keep hoping she kicks him in the head.

Saragoeswest · June 2014

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

ADH0906 · June 2014

Nicb13 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.

Same here. I do love hearing these stories, though I chuckle a bit every time someone says their kid is shy because he hid from the ultrasound wand, etc.

golfingdarwinfish · June 2014

ADH0906 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.
Same here. I do love hearing these stories, though I chuckle a bit every time someone says their kid is shy because he hid from the ultrasound wand, etc.

This makes me feel so much better. I was worried I was my comments were going to be an UO.

ADH0906 · June 2014

VCGolfNYC said:

ADH0906 said:

Nicb13 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.
Same here. I do love hearing these stories, though I chuckle a bit every time someone says their kid is shy because he hid from the ultrasound wand, etc.

This makes me feel so much better. I was worried I was my comments were going to be an UO.

Nah, but I'm glad someone else feels the same way too. I really do like the stories. It's like...a weird way of anthropomorphising, except it actually is a human. Kinda.

I definitely look for patterns, but I wonder if I have trouble bonding with this kid in the womb because when I notice something my brain says "Well, X and Y make him do Z because of ___ reflex" instead of assuming he's playing a game. In okay with that *shrug*

(Though, I really hope this whole 'active at night only' thing is just a phase)

LightBright515 · June 2014

VCGolfNYC said:

ADH0906 said:

Nicb13 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.
Same here. I do love hearing these stories, though I chuckle a bit every time someone says their kid is shy because he hid from the ultrasound wand, etc.

This makes me feel so much better. I was worried I was my comments were going to be an UO.

@VCGolfNYC‌ I don't think it's a UO, but I think your profession (scientist?) and your past experiences with pregnancy have left you a little biased/jaded (no shame in that).

I understand your mindset with my background in education being predominantly science/math based as well, and we *ALL* bring our prior knowledge and experiences to the table when going through things. I just wish you could enjoy these moments more...

I could be way off, and I hope this doesn't offend you.

pnwlover12 · June 2014

Nicb13 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.

Wait, so when baby kicks you don't automatically assume they will be a soccer player?!

pnwlover12 · June 2014

LightBright515 said:

VCGolfNYC said:
said:

Nicb13 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.
Same here. I do love hearing these stories, though I chuckle a bit every time someone says their kid is shy because he hid from the ultrasound wand, etc.

This makes me feel so much better. I was worried I was my comments were going to be an UO.

@VCGolfNYC‌ I don't think it's a UO, but I think your profession (scientist?) and your past experiences with pregnancy have left you a little biased/jaded (no shame in that).

I understand your mindset with my background in education being predominantly science/math based as well, and we *ALL* bring our prior knowledge and experiences to the table when going through things. I just wish you could enjoy these moments more...

I could be way off, and I hope this doesn't offend you.

I'm not a scientist and I'm a STM and totally agree with her. It's nice to imagine our babies purposefully doing things right now, but ultimately I don't think baby kicking or squirming has anything to do with personality.

griffers · June 2014

Can I just clear something up real quick- babies cannot hear ultrasound as a PP stated.

Now that I got that out the way, my little one loves to kick the crap out of my crotch. It is the most uncomfortable feeling. Once he did it so hard it made me jump out of my chair! Hoping this is not something he continues outside my uterus...

poca1313 · June 2014

@EMERALD27 I just had my sonogram today and he did the same thing. Bunched up and had his arms in front of his chest and face the whole time. They had me flip from side to side, empty my bladder, pushed and jiggled my belly. He finally opened his legs long enough to show us he was a boy but she couldn't get a picture of his face or heart. I go back in two weeks to try again. We all know it doesn't have anything to do with being shy or stubborn but it's just fun to think so. Even the doc was playing and told me to "have a little conversation with your little boy" before I came back. Hell I have diabetes and whenever I get good sugar #s I say the baby likes_____ (whatever I just ate) even though it has nothing to do with it.

golfingdarwinfish · June 2014

LightBright515 said:

ADH0906 said:

Saragoeswest said:

These are all precious anecdotes, but it's still hard for me to believe that they demonstrate baby's personality and not just baby's behavior in utero. Blame it on me being a FTM.

Nope I agree. I like feeling DD move but I'm not putting too much thought into it or think it's any indication of how her personality will be. I do love hearing all these stories though.
Same here. I do love hearing these stories, though I chuckle a bit every time someone says their kid is shy because he hid from the ultrasound wand, etc.

This makes me feel so much better. I was worried I was my comments were going to be an UO.
@VCGolfNYC‌ I don't think it's a UO, but I think your profession (scientist?) and your past experiences with pregnancy have left you a little biased/jaded (no shame in that). I understand your mindset with my background in education being predominantly science/math based as well, and we *ALL* bring our prior knowledge and experiences to the table when going through things. I just wish you could enjoy these moments more... I could be way off, and I hope this doesn't offend you.

I'm not really sure how to respond to this, especially since our comments were in agreement. Right now I don't assume that because my baby kicks or punches or squirms a lot it's indicative of his future behavior. I'm having a hard time seeing how there's something wrong with that. I'm enjoying my pregnancy while appreciating the complexities of life that is growing in my uterus. My husband and I laugh and joke about the future baby, we don't sit sullen or afraid to mention it or anything like that. But, yeah, beyond that I'm really not sure how to respond..... Please don't accuse me of not enjoying moments or wishing I could enjoy them more. I don't apply traits to my baby in utero - that's all there is to it. Eta: also, judging by other comments in this thread, I'm not the only one who feels this way about projecting onto the baby.

archi35 · June 2014

My little guy gives big movement for bananas. Also for red meat, fruit and anything bitter (lemon, sour cream, pickles, etc.). I assume that this is a good reaction and not a bad one?? Haha - I will feel SO bad if he comes out with a real aversion to those things. He also really likes his Daddy and gives high kicks when DH and I are talking. Its definitely for DH too because I do lots of conference calls and meetings at work and he doesn't seem to care for those people

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