To those who went past their due dates

Re: To those who went past their due dates

• adheaton1387 member

  June 2014

  Just don't ask if she's had the baby yet or what's taking so long. I kept hearing both of those from the same people over and over and it got really discouraging! Other than that just being an ear and a shoulder if she gets emotional or overwhelmed with being late will help.

  

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• maelic member

  June 2014

  I went 10 days over, it was horrible. Emotionally I was just done, I'd put in my 40w and when nothing seems to be happening you start getting short with yourself and others.
  
  My advice is to let her vent. And don't do what my in laws did which was text super early each morning asking if I'd had the baby. Trust me, people, we will tell you when I am thankfully no longer pregnant.

  
  

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• *sparky* member

  June 2014

  Similar to what the PPs wrote, don't ask if she's had the baby yet. That got so annoying. She is probably bored and antsy at this point (I had stopped going to work by then and was pretty much just waiting for baby) so see if you can take her for a pedi, meet for lunch, or do anything for her. If she has other kids and you would be comfortable with this offer to take them for a few hours.

   

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• KatieGummow member

  June 2014 edited June 2014

  I was 6 days late with twins. It will go by slowly but surely. Then she will forget about it.

  

              
  

  
  

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• Rrrrrachel member

  June 2014

  Bring a meal and/or try to distract her.

  Mama to a little girl born July 2011 and a little boy born April 2014!

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• Avion22 member

  June 2014

  Do something to take her mind off it. Do not give her suggestions on how to hurry things along (she's heard them all already and likely tried most of them).

    

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• allyandmike24 member

  June 2014

  Yup I agree with distracting/letting her vent. Bring cake. Watch a movie together. Sit outside and drink a marg. I'm sure she's tired and uncomfortable, so just hanging out and taking her mind off waiting is probably the best thing you can do.

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• baileymama3 member

  June 2014

  All about distraction make plans she hopes you break! Like a movie, pedicures or brunch. I was 5 days late and it was most annoying to be asked when the baby was coming... Cause I felt great and was just trying to stay busy!

   

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• Cecilbear member

  June 2014

  I was 9 days late and didn't mind one bit. I used the extra time to get work done for my business and see movies/go to dinner w/ DH. So, why not reframe the situation?

  

  
  

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• ambarnett1 member

  June 2014

  I was 6 days late. So uncomfortable and in so much pain. I hated being asked how I was feeling. I agree with everything everyone else has said!

  
  

  

  
  

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• LaNorte member

  June 2014

  I was 2 entire weeks late, and let me tell you there was not one damn thing that anyone could say that wouldn't throw me into a rage. I wanted to be left alone in a quiet dark room by myself to simmer in my own bitch juices. But maybe that was just me?

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• PaperBowl member

  June 2014

  I went two weeks over and had to be induced. Don't ask her if she's had the baby or "order" her to have it. My inlaws made me feel like I was choosing to not have the baby and it enraged me. Also don't try to offer advice ("walk a lot"!! Yeah ok, eff off) or positives ("omg sleep now!!"). The only people I didn't want to rip out the throat of were people who brought me stuff and asked if I needed anything and just said "I'm so sorry" and let me bitch and moan to them. It was incredibly miserable and I wanted people to either respect that or leap off a cliff.

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