When did you announce?

Saracp78 · May 2014

Hello ladies :-)

Just wanted to check in and see when you decided to tell people you were expecting!! This is my first and we are at the end of the baby making for our peers. They are all expecting but because it is my first time being pregnant and I am 35, (36 at delivery) my husband wants to wait until after 12 weeks...

I am bursting! For one I am tired of going to social events and having to drink water out if beep bottles and vodka soda which is really water ;-) also I am having to navigate through bbq's and little kids birthdays that have deli platters that have been out and lastly I could use some advice from my friends :-(

So when did you ladies share your wonderful news?

Was if your first?

path75 · May 2014

I don't think it would hurt to tell one person you can trust. My hubby announced it on facebook two hours after finding out. LOL He just couldnt wait. It did feel better to let it out but I am also cautious since my 1st appt isn't until June 4th.

designchica · May 2014

At 3 weeks 3 days, I told about 20 of the people I am closest with. I figured if I have a mc, they are going to find out anyway because I would reach out to them for support, so why keep it a secret?

Then at 7weeks 4 days when I had my first appointment, I announced it on Facebook.

I realize this is super early but I am a live out loud kind of woman!

I think people should just do what feels right for them and if that means waiting until they are further along, then wait. If it means climbing to the highest mountain and telling the whole world as soon as they find out, then go for it. I don't believe in following any set rule about this.

flyinmommy · May 2014

We told immediate family at about 10 weeks because my mom was visiting, but we didn't tell anyone else until around 14 weeks.

Saracp78 · May 2014

@flyinmommy‌ we are probably do the same telling my family about 10 weeks because we will fly out to see his back east at the 11th week and we wanted to tell them in person and they will find out when I don't during wine at dinner ;-) thank you!

NicoleWI · May 2014

I would wait if I could, but you can tell I am pregnant right away. When I told the first time with number 1, it was getting hard to hide at 10 weeks. This time, it's getting hard to hide at SEVEN weeks. I am waiting until after my appointment on June 2 to tell our parents, if possible, and then others will be on a need-to-know basis until after first tri. Some of our siblings know already.

moroccojade · May 2014

With our first, we announced at 12 weeks. (our parents and a few close friends new earlier).

With this one.... Parents and a few close friends, and my close colleagues were told right away or a few weeks after. But we still haven't gone completely public. I want the results of my NT scan and blood work first. (I see my midwife on Friday.) If the results are good, we might drop a note on Facebook. (That takes care of the rest of the world!

If they aren't great and we want further testing... we will wait longer.

ScubaMomma · May 2014

I am currently 42 years of age (will be 43 at the time of delivery).
With our first pregnancy we told our closest friends and family. Public announcement was after 12 weeks.
Second pregnancy we told a couple of close friends and then at 8.5 weeks I miscarried.
It is so exciting to share, it's wonderful to get that happy reaction that you yourself are feeling.
Un-telling everyone...not fun. I didn't want to talk to anyone and yet I was getting calls and emails asking how I am feeling etc...
I am currently 12 weeks and am in no hurry to share. About 7 people know about the pregnancy, but this time I am a little more than cautious. I go in for my Nuchal Translucency Screening tomorrow and hope they tell me all look fabulous. I have had 3 ultra sounds to date and so far so good.
I have an older sister who has 12 children and so she is the first person I tell everything to. She has also suffered 5 miscarriages. I have learned so much from her and she usually calms me when I have moments of panic or stress.
Best of luck to you all :>

Mrs.McIrish · May 2014

Since we've been in treatment for years with two losses, we kept quiet about this pregnancy until this weekend. However, my parents knew the day of beta since they knew what was going on and I told my sister at 7.5 weeks. But we didn't tell DH's family until 12.5 weeks (if Memorial Day was a week later, it would have waited til then). I also told my best friend last night but haven't made any big announcements. DH wants to say something on Facebook but if I agree to it (if) it won't be until closer to 20 weeks

LadyXaverian · May 2014

With DD, we slowly told immediate family and best friends throughout 1st trimester, but we didn't go "public" until 12 weeks.

DjinnaG · May 2014

DH has been telling everyone we know that we've been "working on it" and of course wanted to tell the world as soon as we got the BFP. I explained about CPs, and how common they are, and he understood right away that it wouldn't be the best thing to do, but was still bursting to tell SOMEONE. So we agreed to tell just our moms (both can keep secrets), and our closest friend-couple, who have had multiple losses themselves. The plan is to hold off on telling the rest of our families until at least after the first appt. (will be at seven weeks), assuming there's good news to be had from the initial tests. I'd like to hold off on telling the world in general until after the fetal blood tests are back. It's only been a couple days of knowing, and I've already been faced with bowing out of/declining new athletic events, hesitant to tell the real reason why I'm suddenly unavailable. I feel ok with telling strangers, except that it feels wrong for some lady trying to put together a lacrosse team to know when my sister doesn't.

harmonicbabe26 · May 2014

With DD we didn't tell anyone till I was done with the 1st tri. That included parents and relatives. Then when I was 4m along we posted it on FB.

Similar this time. We got our NT scan results at 12w and the following weekend we told our parents. Since then I told a couple of closest friends.

I'm in no hurry to spill the beans to the rest of the world. Kind of enjoying having a secret i guess.

RebekahP14 · May 2014

I was in this situation over the holidays this year, so we confided in a couple we knew would be at most of the same parties as us. I would carry a drink and my dear friend she would spend the night "drinking for two" switching our glasses back and forth. Had to go for a dating ultrasound because of spotting around the time of one of my missed periods, once we had that image printed with the date confirming 12 weeks, we felt more comfortable telling people. Make sure to tell you boss before it hits facebook if you work with a gossipy crew.

Kjoylace36 · May 2014

I waited for after 12 weeks. I told my boss when I was 16 weeks.

designchica · May 2014

I am only 10 weeks, but with all this bloating, I don't think I would have been able to hide it from my coworkers or friends who see me on a regular basis.

EmilyD76 · June 2014

We have been telling close family. I am planning to tell my close friends as soon as I can get them all in one place at the same time. We are planning to wait to tell our boys until my first official appointment. I like knowing that the people who are most important to us know so that if anything should happen, they can be there to help us through it.

nstreet1818 · June 2014

With my first two pregnancies, we told people right away. The thought of in telling never crossed my mind. This time around, I'm older (35) and I am more cautious. We plan to tell our other children, parents, siblings, and handful of our closest friends once we have our first ultrasound. Everyone else will likely find out after 12 weeks. I have a big work trip at about 11 weeks that usually involves lots of spirits each night. I am no longer looking forward to it as I really don't know how I'll hide it!

mandyreads · June 2014

I called my mom and hubs mom that day we found out. And told our girls too. But we waited a week before we told some family. Once we had our U/S last week (I was 7wks) we announced on fb. I honestly can't remember when we told everyone with our 3 girls. The last one was 7 yrs ago so it was before I was on fb lol

Lady2010 · June 2014

We did tell my best friend when I was 5 weeks - she was visiting for 4 days and it was pretty tough to hide it from her (was looking at my phone to look up if I could eat foods, etc). So DH and I decided to tell her (she has 2 kids so she was super helpful and of course excited). Other than her and her DH no one else knows.

We are telling both sets of parents at the end of week 9/start of week 10. We will then wait to tell siblings until after my ob appt on the 9th (will be 11w, 3d). I get released from my RE the week we tell my parents and see the nurse-midwife that same week but the OB sees you 2 weeks later.

In terms of general public - after we hit 12 weeks we will tell a couple of our closest friends but then will be on vaca for 10 days so will tell everyone else after we return (week 14). Prob won't do Facebook announcement - unless there is a pic of me clearly showing when we go to a wedding in Sept.

It took us a LONG time to get here so I just don't want to jinx anything. And similar to OP we are the LAST of our friends to have kids - and they all know we have been trying for years (several know we have been doing IVF) so it won't be a huge shock.

aynjc · June 2014

With my 1st & 2nd we waited until my 1st appointment to tell close family and friends. Didn't tell others until my 2nd trimester.

With the 3rd, close family knew right away and extended family around the 1st appointment. At my 3 month appointment we learned that there was no heartbeat and told immediate family to spread the news. Honestly, I learned then that it didn't really matter who knew. I'd rather people understand what I was going through than be in the dark.

With the 4th I ended up having another m/c before even the 1st apt - 6 weeks. No one knew I was pregnant, but I called my mom immediately for support.

This time around, I told my parents before I was even 4 weeks. I figure I'd rather have the support than be hiding it from everyone. We told the in laws like a week after that. I told some girls at work - they are my outlet! I plan to tell our immediate families after my 1st appointment.

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