Alone time

TittsMcGee · June 2014

What do you do that's just for yourself? How often?

I am trying to make more time for myself, even if its going for a walk, reading a book or taking a nap. Every time I get a chance to do something on my own, I feel guilty for not being with DS as if I am going to miss something major while I am gone.

Funny thing is I don't feel this way when I go to work, mostly because I have to go to work. For some reason when I am at home, I feel like I need to spend every second with him to make up for the missed time.

Mommy guilt at its best.

Anyone else feel this way?

eyenigh · June 2014

I go to yoga a few times a week, which I really love. I also ride my bike a couple of times a week if the weather permits. Alexander usually comes with me but he's in the carrier behind me so there's no real work or conversation involved so it's like "mostly" me time.

bloverde · June 2014

I work ridiculous hours and DH is at home with DS 3 days a week. So I feel like a total assh0le if I ask DH to do bath time or do "me time" stuff. It something I need to work on, because I'm totally burnt out.

I did put my foot down and insist on night weaning though.

gwendarling · June 2014

I try to run in the mornings. that is my time to prioritize, think about my day, and just get some time to think.

KS02CS08 · June 2014

My alone time is when dd naps and when she is down for the night. We also try to go on a date night ever once in a while. I wish we could do more alone time but we do more then people with 2+.

TittsMcGee · June 2014

MissPeansMama said:
This is exactly how I feel.

The only alone time I get is after DD goes to bed. And by then I am too exhausted to do anything, so I just veg out on the couch and watch TV with DH.

DH and I are going on vacation in a couple weeks without DD, so I suppose that counts as alone time. But I will admit that I feel super guilty for leaving her.

This.

When DS goes to bed I am too busy trying to prep for the next day and cleaning up.

But enjoy your vacation with just you and your H. Try not to feel guilty because both you and your H deserve a little break from time to time.

jellybean529 · June 2014

I also get the mommy guilt for being in the office all day. Always have.

I don't get much alone time because quite honestly there isn't really someone to help me out. I live with my sister, so on the weeks that her kids are here I can sneak out for a walk in the evenings occasionally, but when her kids are at their dad's she usually goes out so I'm stuck at home. After DD goes to bed I'm usually doing chores before I finally crash and fall asleep.

Ago · June 2014

I need alone time, but understand the guilt around it. I still get the guilt sometimes. I try to get alone time after DD goes to bed. Occasionally, on the weekend as well.

I really recommend reading All Joy and No Fun. It talks some about the mommy guilt.

HopingforChange · June 2014

I take dd on walks. She just sits in her stroller, so that's a good chance for me to have mental quiet. My DH is really good about taking dd once every week or two so I can run to the store, get my hair cut or whatever I need to do without her hanging on me. I think at least a few minutes alone is pretty crucial to good mental health, so I don't feel badly about it. I also SAH, though.

MrsCodeMonkey · June 2014

I get alone time during naps. Right now I'm having coffee, watching Ellen, and bumping instead of chores. I do have laundry in the dryer, but it can wait. My goal is to start reading more instead of watching mindless crap. I started The Book Thief and so far seems promising.

PB102012 · June 2014

I don't have much alone time, except like PP's said, when LO naps. DH encourages it, but with him working so much now that summer has started, it's just LO and I. I can do a lot of chores (laundry, vacuuming, steaming the floors) while she is awake, so when she's sleeping I catch up on my shows, Bump, etc.

JackoftheBox · June 2014

I almost never have alone time. I was going to the gym but it made my day so hectic and DH goes at night so i don't feel like i can go then and take that time away from him. I did get pissy yesterday b/c DH "let me" sleep in until 9 (ds gets up at 7). So then that afternoon DH laid down when DS laid down for a nap. In that time i folded laundry, wrote out bills, emptied the dishwasher, and started dinner. So i go to wake up DH and he's all "you got to sleep in 2 hours i still have another 30 mins!!" So i was all "this morning you just laid on the couch.... during my "break" i did XYANDZ!!!"

Yea that turned into a rant sorry...

legalbeagle1 · June 2014

Alone time on the weekend during L's naps, but the key for me is I don't stay in the apartment! I usually go to a fitness class, but just going for a walk, window shopping or something like that is good for me. DH and I alternate who stays at home during the nap and that way I don't feel like I'm missing out on something and it isn't too difficult for the other person. DH went to a movie during his alone time this weekend and I had brunch with friends.

During the week I have every Wednesday off as a standing date with myself. Usually a fitness class or quick dinner with a friend. Having a night I can plan on something for me is great.

dmlk413 · June 2014

I try to read in the evenings after I get my chores done. I also like to get a pedicure.

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