Third-Party Reproduction
lizzielou80
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DH (35): low side of normal on everything
May, June, and July 2012 IUIs- all BFN
4 IVFs- resulting in ectopic and miscarriage at 7 weeks
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lizzielou80
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Hi everyone! I'm new to the forum but wanted to introduce myself (and was suggested on another board to post here). My name is Liz and I'm 34- married for almost 3 years (come August). My husband and I started trying for a baby a few months after getting married and had a chemical pregnancy a few months later- dr said this was normal and to keep trying- so we did for a few more months. I just felt something wasn't right- all my friends were getting pregnant no problem- so I decided to see a RE. I was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve and given the donor egg talk. Talk about being caught off guard- NOT what I was expecting to hear at 32! Thankfully I have insurance that does help with infertility treatments, but they required 3 IUIs before approving anything IVF related. So 3 IUIs back to back is what we did- May/June/July 2012- and though I always had 4-5 follicles- we had a BFN each time. So we moved on to IVF- our first IVF we only had 3 eggs retrieved and only 1 made it blast- we transferred that blast and unfortunately it ended up becoming a ruptured ectopic. I had to have emergency surgery and lost my right tube and required a blood transfusion. I tried to stay positive- thinking who cares about losing a tube- I don't need it anyways since IVF is probably the only way we are going to conceive. But it still was a shock to have an ectopic pregnancy- because I seriously didn't even think of that being you are bypassing the tubes! ANYWAYS- moved to another clinic and since Dec 2012 to now we did 3 retrievals and 2 transfers. First transfer was BFN and last transfer (this past January) ended up being a miscarriage at around 7 weeks and required a D&C. So we currently have 3- 3 day embryos frozen which we will hopefully be transferring soon- but I have little faith it will work. Obviously my eggs are no good so I feel like what's the point- BUTTTTTT my hubby wants to transfer them since they're our last embryos- so that's what we'll do. If this doesn't work we are trying to move on to donor embryos- though we've hit snags with that. I was in talks with 2 families- 1 family ended up finding another match (though if I'm honest it really made me mad/sad/hurt/jealous at that time that she chose to donate to a lady that already has 8 kids- while my hubby and I have none) but I know deep down she wanted a really open relationship with whomever she donated to and open relationship with the future kids- and I don't think I gave her enough confirmation that we'd be ok with a 100% open relationship. We are still in the works with this 2nd family- however their clinic is making it very hard to transfer ownership to me- and my clinic won't take them until they are technically "mine"…SOOOO yet another roadblock. I'm joining this group in hopes to find support and positive reinforcement…because let's face it- infertility is a total drag, life consuming DOWNER at times. I try to stay positive and then BAM my mind goes to another place- why me? why have we spent 20K to have a kid and still have none? Why have I had to not only endure failure month after month but also an ectopic, loss of a tube, a d&c, etc. But obviously if I only focused on that I'd probably never get out of bed! I need to keep my eye on the prize, right!?? I would love for my husband and I to have a 100% biologically our child- but that seems unrealistic. I'd love to do donor eggs so the kiddos are at least biologically related to my husband- but it's too darn expensive!! I've thought about going overseas for donor eggs- but what if it didn't work? Just more money spent for failure. So that's how I came to the decision of embryo adoption/donation. I feel that there are so many totsicles frozen away with such potential that I want to be able to give life to a baby that might have only sat frozen for years to come. My husband and I always said we'd donate any extra embryos we had after treatment because we know the heartache infertility has brought- and the amazing gift that would be to someone struggeling- but we obviously never had extras. So that's where I'm at- and hopefully I've not bored you to tears. I've wanted kids my whole life and I just have this picture in my mind of being pregnant (sick and all, swollen feet and all, hard labor and all) and the idea of that not happening is really hard to swallow. So hoping me talking about our situation will bring us peace on our path- wherever that happens to lead us! Thanks ladies!
TTC #1 Since Oct 2011
ME (34): DOR. AMH <.16DH (35): low side of normal on everything
May, June, and July 2012 IUIs- all BFN
4 IVFs- resulting in ectopic and miscarriage at 7 weeks
HSG clear, SHG no issues from miscarriage, we get eggs (odd with such a low AMH) but the embryos just aren't good.
Moving on to donor embryos
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DOR and AMA
2/12-5/12: 4 IUI cycles = all BFN;
7/12: DE IVF # 1 (with ICSI)- 20R, 16M, 14F, 5DT of 2 blasts; 6 frosties = BFN;
Lupus anticoagulant initially high, then found to be normal on hematology consult;
Follow up testing in September all clear;
Started synthroid for "high normal" TSH;
FET # 1- late October 2012- BFP on FRER; beta # 1- 21(low), beta # 2- 48 (still low), beta # 3- 132, beta # 4- 1,293; beta # 5- 5,606; last beta- over 100,000. First u/s 11/21- heard heartbeat
12/12- Officially an OB patient!
Level 2 ultrasound at 20 weeks shows vasa previa and VCI
Referral to MFM and mandatory c section for delivery
Beautiful baby girl born at 34 weeks
Finally home after 15 day NICU stay!
Trying for sibling: FET # 2- May 2014; beta 5/31, BFN
FET #3, early July 2014; beta 7/14, BFN
DE IVF # 2- August 2014; 14R, 13M, 11F, 5dt of 2 blasts (3 AA), 5 frosties = BFN
FET #4- December 2014, yet another BFN
Dr. KK work up shows borderline uterine blood flow, elevated NK cells, and MTHFR mutation (homozygous for c677t)
Added baby aspirin, prednisone, supplements, Metanx, and intralipids
Switched to large clinic for final attempt; had endometrial receptivity testing in January; FET March 2015 = yet another BFN
Likely OAD- NBC
Praying unceasingly for a miracle. ALL welcome!
Welcome and good luck with whichever road you choose!
TTC #1 since May 2010
OE IVF #1 9/2/13 Cancelled- poor response
DE IVF #1 3/12/14- BFP 3/17/14- ectopic, right tube removed 4/11/14 @ 7 weeks
DE FET #1 7/3/14-Transferred 2 5AA 6 day embryos Beta 7/13/14 BFN
DE FET #2 9/5/14-Transferred 2 4BB 5 day embryos Beta 9/15/14 BFN
DE FET #3 in December- Cancelled, didn't respond to meds
DE FET #3 (2nd try) 2/13/15- Transferred 1 4BB and 1 4BA 5 day embryos Beta 2/23/15 BFN again (CP)
DE FET #4 - last 2 frosties....5/22/15- Transferred 1 4BA embryo...only one frostie thawed properly. Beta scheduled for 6/1- BFN (beta 2, 2.81, 6, 23, 49.4) 6/15/15 Discovered ectopic in left tube. Methotrexate given. Moving on to a new donor. Hoping to transfer by the end of the year.
Cant find a donor that is healthy and available. Looking at being happy with just the two of us.
TTC #1 Since Oct 2011
ME (34): DOR. AMH <.16DH (35): low side of normal on everything
May, June, and July 2012 IUIs- all BFN
4 IVFs- resulting in ectopic and miscarriage at 7 weeks
Good luck with your next steps!
Me: Diagnosed with ovarian cancer in 2013, underwent fertility sparing surgery which left low ovarian reserve, no tubes, partial ovary | DH: perfectly normal
BFP: 5/30/2014 via donor eggs | EDD: 2/6/2015
***signature & ticker warning***
Me: 30 ~ Stage IV Endo ~ AMH .38 ~ AFC 8
AMH .97 as of 4/2012! ~ AMH 1.63 as of 4/2013!?!
Him: 29 ~ perfect swimmers
Laparotomy w/partial oophorectomy 8/2009 to remove cysts/endo.
Stopped BCP 4/2010.
Multiple clomid rounds from 11/2010 to 6/2011. ~ All BFN
IUI w/clomid 7/2011. IUI w/clomid & injectables 11/2011 & 1/2012. ~ All BFN
IVF:EPP 5/2012 ~ (4R, 3M, 2F w/ICSI). Both embryos txfrd. ~ BFN
BCP to manage endo from 10/2012 to 12/2012.
FET w/donor embryos #1: 10/2013 Cancelled
FET w/donor embryos #1.2: 11/2013 ~ ET of 2 beautiful blasts on 11/27.
Beta 1: 503(12dp5dt) Beta 2: 1035(14dpt) Beta 3: 3001(16dpt) Beta 4: 8503(19dpt)
Twins with an EDD of 8/15/14! Team Purple
G&B born 6/30/14 at 33w3d via emergency c/s.
If you're wondering about my avatar...it's a fried pickle chip shaped like a fetus!
TTC #1 Since Oct 2011
ME (34): DOR. AMH <.16DH (35): low side of normal on everything
May, June, and July 2012 IUIs- all BFN
4 IVFs- resulting in ectopic and miscarriage at 7 weeks
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle