BAD FEELING

babyknutson · June 2014

I had a loss in November and got pregnant again in February I am almost 19 weeks along and have my ultrasound coming up. Just yesterday I got a little bit of a bad feeling...anyone else having bad feelings or feeling like this at all.

I also worried because I woke up sleeping somewhat on my belly.

help me out ladies. I am loosing my mind

Melissa2216 · June 2014

Yep, I have had bad feelings throughout this pregnancy (not so with my son). I even told my therapist throughout the 1st tri that I felt like this was "temporary." I kept saying things like "IF I have a baby in November..." Then a test came back high risk and I had a CVS and I thought "oh no, this is it." But everything came back normal. Still, at my OB appt. on Friday, I was actually surprised when we heard the heartbeat. I had this feeling like it would be very bad news. I think part of the reason is that there have been so many losses on this board, so it is always on my mind.

happyfrappy · June 2014

hey OP, I feel the same way and went through something similar. loss in November, pregnant in February. I have my a/s this Friday, the 13th (ugh!), but feel the exact same way. I'm just trying to stay busy and hope for the best. I hope you are able to distract yourself as best as you can. I know that's not comforting, but I'm not sure there's much else to say. hang in there!

as for waking up on your belly, my ob told me during my last pregnancy that once it is actually harmful, your body will naturally correct itself. I'm not sure if that's true or not, but it helped me in the moment. (I like to sleep flat on my back which also isn't great.)

wallygirl · June 2014

With is still having so much time between our appts I think it is very easy to worry. Especially so if you've experienced a previous loss. Sleeping on your stomach at this point is fine. Your body will let you know when you can't/shouldn't any longer. With my DD the dr said it was fine to sleep on your belly till it was uncomfortable.

JustJainey · June 2014

I had a loss in November too and am now 15 wks. I wouldn't allow myself to be excited until I hit 2nd tri and all my appt's and results have been great, but I still have an overwhelming sense of foreboding. I'm worried about buying big items being a jinx and about how I would cope (or rather not cope) with a loss.

DH tends to be a person who looks at things from a more positive perspective and is somewhat frustrated with my fears, so I've started not telling him things (probably not great but there it is - just the truth) I'm considering talking to my OB about anxiety. From what I've read it's not uncommon.

colettey_37 · June 2014

I have to say im nervous for my u/s on thursday. I think because i had a loss in october snd the u/s is where i found out. Just bad memories associated with u/s in general. I think it is just our screwed up mind games we play with ourselves telling us dont get your hopes up, remember what happened last time. I wish those fears would take a hike!

Momma&babies · June 2014

I feel like its a normal feeling to have. I worry too, I started worrying even more when DD was born. Motherhood is the best thing ever but definitely makes you a crazy worry wart.

Dimples0101 · June 2014

I have felt the same way. I haven't been as excited about this pregnancy as I was with my first two (only one was a m/c). I'm thrilled to be pregnant, this was planned and we really want this baby. But I've just had a bad feeling since the beginning. I think it's fairly common, although I will admit that I didn't have this strong of a feeling with DD.

As for the sleeping on your stomach, like PP said, your body will tell you when you shouldn't sleep on your stomach or back anymore.

Good luck with your u/s!

TC0514 · June 2014

I feel worried from time to time! My anatomy scan is on Friday and I keep telling my husband "I hope baby is still there" he just tells me to stop stressing. I've had no previous loss, and really no reason to worry. I think it's normal..praying for a healthy pregnancy for all of us!

Sarahbeth612 · June 2014

I had a loss in November as well, and it's crazy what that can do to your brain. Just know that worry is normal especially after a loss, but won't change anything. If this bad feeling is persistent, maybe see if they can get you in sooner? Hugs to you and FX for a great ultrasound!

2ndGeneration · June 2014

Wow, a lot of us had Nov losses-me too. I had my a/s this week and am feeling pretty good about things. OP, are you feeling movement? That helps me feel better-but don't worry if you don't yet, I'm on kid 6 so I felt it early, no strong abs to blunt it LOL. As you get further along and feel more, it's very reassuring.

As for sleeping on your belly, you'll know when you can't-baby will kick the daylights out of you! Then you'll roll over : )

kaimee27 · June 2014

I'm actually really relieved to see this post-I know that sounds weird, but it makes me feel a lot better to know that I'm not the only one who has had these worries. I agree with PP that the many losses on this board keep the possibility in our minds (especially for those with previous losses). Sometimes when I can't take the fears anymore, listen to the baby's heartbeat-I'm able to use a doppler at work sometimes on my lunch. Other than that I try to have faith that everything will be okay-but that is WAY easier said than done sometimes. Hopefully we will all be able to relax soon and enjoy our pregnancies. I think that as we get good anatomy scans, more frequent appointments, and start to feel our babies move it will help. Hang in there ladies!!

ktibbits1 · June 2014

I find I get more worried as I get close to an appointment, probably because that's when you could potentially find out something is wrong! I'm sure it is harder not to worry with your previous loss and so many on this board as people have said, but try to think positively and enjoy this time (that's what I try to tell my worried self!)

huntress17 · June 2014

Every night before dr day I get really anxious and worry something is wrong. With the bleeding I've had and everything it scares me. I refuse to go to the drs alone my mom is coming with me tomorrow because OH can't come due to work

SummerB0607 · June 2014

I worry and have a bad feeling all the time. My boyfriend keeps talking to my belly but all I can think is what if baby isn't there anymore. I am good for a couple if days after a dr appt but then I'm worrying again. Wish I had a doppler but can't really afford one :-\

Acedit · June 2014

I notice that I get a smidgen of anxiety as my appointments near too.... I am not sure the reasoning for it, other than the fact that pregnancy is fragile. I think after an appointment, seeing the little one, hearing the heartbeat it gives me confidence for a bit (approx 3 1/2 weeks), then my mind gets the best of me. Try to be optimisitc until you are given a reason not to be. Enjoy being pregnant today. Soon enought these little ones will be kicking and jabbing us and that will bring on a whole new level of excitement.

sAAmFam · June 2014

I also had a November loss. It was my 3rd and very devistating by the third time. I'm not overly scared but anything can happen. I was actually upset I got pregnant again. I just assumed this one wouldn't last. It was really starting to take a toll on my marraige with self blame. They didn't find anything on my 1st ultrasound so I figured no baby again. I'm still here and pregnant and getting fat. The best thing in your life is about to happen and it's going to change everything. Hopefully the negative thoughts will go away.

KMW08 · June 2014

I agree with most of what other PPs have said.

About a week before any appointment I start feeling a little twitchy/anxious. From 2days before until after the appointment I'm a straight up hot mess.

After loss(es) I don't think you truly ever feel safe. Even though I'm past all my milestones, I'm very aware of what could happen. Loss totally destroys being naive when it comes to pregnancy.

((Hugs)) hang in there.

babyknutson · June 2014

I am usually a pretty anxious person so i think much of my feeling is stemming from that. thanks for all the input ladies! so in reality it is normal to worry?

Bethyboo26 · June 2014

Sounds like it

I think you are completely normal!

moonladymae · June 2014

I feel worried a lot too. Especially when it's been a few weeks since my last appointment. I think it's from the internet and reading about all the things that can go wrong. Sometimes I avoid reading any of the posts with a title I know is going to be a sad story, it sends me into too many bad thoughts. I find the more I avoid the internet and just go about my day and think about how awesome it is that I have made it to this point and that I'm pregnant the better off I am. It's totally normal to feel worried as a mother, but try to keep yourself happy and not stress. Listen to some happy music and dance, that always helps me :-)

jibell · June 2014

Glad to know I am not the only one that freaks out and worries... Had an appt this morning and it was a feeling of relief to hear the heartbeat nice and strong... Like others I haven't told anyone about my fears because hubby would think I am nuts worrying for no reason...

babyknutson · June 2014

My hubby already thinks I am nuts...that's why he loves me so much hahhaha!!

I am (obviously) not very good at holding my feelings back so I thought i would check in with others to see if I was alone...

My hubby has been great ....absolutley great. i had a meltdown last night he held me and said the baby is healthy and because it can hear it's probably getting annoyed with my ugly cry...later that night he surprised me and ordered me a doppler. HE IS AMAZING.

sparklingwhit · June 2014

I convince myself at least once a day that my baby is gone. I think that it's fairly normal, although I'm convinced that this is me transitioning into MY over-protective, worry-wart mother (please God no).

babyknutson · June 2014

Thank you all for sharing. It makes me feel better and reassures me that things are not wrong because other people have these terrible thoughts.... praying we all have healthy babies! xoxo

Alid86 · June 2014

I'm right there with you all! I don't remember being quite as worried with DD but I'm an anxious person at the best of times so I probably was and just forgot. I'm hoping once I feel movement I'll be less worried but I'm sure I'll find something else to worry about then...it's an awful cycle! Hang in there mamas - praying for healthy babies for everyone!

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