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Cannot figure out my child

MafernjMafernj member
edited June 2014 in March 2014 Moms
I feel like a terrible mom. I will go back to work in 2 weeks and my mom will care for LO . I need to give her some sort of schedule but I don't really have one. She feeds on demand but I don't let her go more than 4 hours without food (dr order) she is not napping these days for more than 10 minutes at the time. She wakes up maybe 5 am but then she'll sleep in my bed one more hour. She is a great motn eater! Every 2 hours she is up wanting food! During the day I offer boob and it is a hit or miss.
This is bad, I have never noticed a growth spur or anything the wonder weeks says to watch out for as far as mood and cry and feeds. So basically I cannot instruct anyone how to care for her. But to me it seems "easy" like we have our own little click and flow going.
I haven't noticed any cluster feeding either ever! She is 10 weeks 2 days around 13 lbs bf w a formula bottle from time to time. I asked dr about this and his answer was " your child doesn't have to cluster feed, she does what she does she is doing great and it's well cared for... Relax mama" he is a good dr but damn!! I needed a little more than that answer. Anyone else on this boat? Do you all notice the cluster feeding and the wonder weeks leaps ? As always, thanks for any advice or input.
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  • sopranoalisopranoali member
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    Umm, there's an app out if you have a smart phone called total baby. Maybe if you track everything a trend will emerge. This was very helpful in getting LO on a schedule.
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  • MafernjMafernj member
    I know I'm all confused typing this. I edited my question is if you all notice the cluster feeding and the wonder week leaps.
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  • MafernjMafernj member
    @sopranoali‌ I have apps, ANSI have written down what I do all day there really is no pattern other than motn feedings are every 2 hours it all gets out of pattern during the day.
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  • sopranoalisopranoali member
    I don't really know how to help you then. My baby is on a schedule and I would go BSC without it...
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  • amdecker1016amdecker1016 member
    Mafernj said:

    I feel like a terrible mom. I will go back to work in 2 weeks and my mom will care for LO . I need to give her some sort of schedule but I don't really have one. She feeds on demand but I don't let her go more than 4 hours without food (dr order) she is not napping these days for more than 10 minutes at the time. She wakes up maybe 5 am but then she'll sleep in my bed one more hour. She is a great motn eater! Every 2 hours she is up wanting food! During the day I offer boob and it is a hit or miss.
    This is bad, I have never noticed a growth spur or anything the wonder weeks says to watch out for as far as mood and cry and feeds. So basically I cannot instruct anyone how to care for her. But to me it seems "easy" like we have our own little click and flow going.
    I haven't noticed any cluster feeding either ever! She is 10 weeks 2 days around 13 lbs bf w a formula bottle from time to time. I asked dr about this and his answer was " your child doesn't have to cluster feed, she does what she does she is doing great and it's well cared for... Relax mama" he is a good dr but damn!! I needed a little more than that answer. Anyone else on this boat? Do you all notice the cluster feeding and the wonder weeks leaps ? As always, thanks for any advice or input.

    Yes on the wonder weeks.
    She gets cranky, clingy, and crying.
    Going through the 14 week one now.


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  • dannie2011dannie2011 member
    edited June 2014
    Tell your mom to feed her when she's hungry, make smaller bottles so your mom has the option to feed more often at first. It might be a bit bumpy the first day or two but your mom and LO will set their own pace. Babies never follow the same scheduled they have with mom with others. 

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  • stephcrosby09stephcrosby09 member
    I went back to work this past week and my husband has the summer off so its Daddy daycare. He has been done for 3.5 weeks and he still had some adjustment in knowing what she needs, how she needs it, etc. The lady who is going to take care of her when he goes back to work just wants to know if when she wakes is she usually hungry, then play or vice versa. They will figure it out.

    Maybe just let your mom know what your goals are. For example, our current goals are getting her down for naps during the day and trying to make tummy time more fun. It helps me know that all the hard work I had been putting in wouldn't go away.
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  • BethRN1987BethRN1987 member
    I do things on demand ( eat /sleep) but I'm seeing a pattern emerge. Good morning and early afternoon naps and a shorter early evening nap. Feeding scattered in there along with play. Bedtime is always started between 7-8 whenever she starts getting fussy into the bath she goes.


    You probably have some sort of " routine" but you just do t realize it OR your baby isn't ready to be on a routine as some won't be for a while and that's ok. They all develop differently.

    AND your mom has taken care of babies before- she knows what to do. I had to start realizing that myself whenever I let someone care for Sloan
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  • DRFleenerDRFleener member
    edited June 2014
    My mom watches my ten week old we EBF no formula and demand feed. I give my mom 4 bottles of 3.5 ounces (kelly mom) sometimes she takes all and sometimes only 3. I nurse right before I leave and usually right when I get home.

    Don't be stressed, grandmothers are pretty resilient. As long as she has enough bottles then really your good. My four bottles is the assumption she eats every two hours but it varies every day.
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  • vacsx2vacsx2 member
    We've had good luck with the eat, activity, sleep method. It's a good combo of baby led/parent led. It also helps the caregiver and baby anticipate what's next. It really helped me pick up on his cues. And yes, his wonder weeks and growth spurts were very obvious. He was a different baby during them.

    https://noobmommy.com/2012/02/e-a-s-y-schedules-cheat-sheet-4-sample-baby-schedules-from-4-weeks-1-yr.html
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  • MafernjMafernj member
    Thanks for the schedule I read the book on the easy method but It didn't work out. Maybe I can try again now that she is a bit older . As per the wonder weeks, I don't notice any difference because she has always fuzzied if I put her down for more than 5 minutes she only naps on me she eats every 2 hours mostly and she is a colicky baby so nighttime has always been a nightmare
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  • PankersPankers member
    I can understand your worries. My LO is 14 weeks tomorrow, never noticed a growth spurt, but she does cluster feed at dinner time. My DH is going to be a SAHD, it starts in 6 weeks. He still can't figure out when she's hungry. We have a transition week so my hoping that we nail it then. She has no real schedule, doesn't nap at all unless she's on me. I'm in a similar boat.

    All I can say is, your mum knows what to do, you turned out fine, and maybe with someone else a routine will emerge. Don't stress out about it, your supply might take a hit. Good luck.


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  • MafernjMafernj member
    Thank you I will talk to my mom about my goals for LO and hopefully it will all work out
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