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Intro- pretty sure that I belong here but not sure why yet (losses mentioned)

sunflwrasunflwra member
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Hello ladies-

I hope you'll bear with me as we figure out the next steps in our journey.  Here's my background. I had my daughter in 2011- I got pregnant on our first month TTC and had a relatively easy pregnancy. Last year, I got pregnant for the second time (on our second try) and the baby was found to have no heartbeat at our 20 week anatomy scan. I was induced and we found that there were cord strictures that significantly reduced blood flow, so it was ruled a cord accident (they tried to do chromosomal testing on the baby but were unable to get any results). I got pregnant for the third time (on our second try) and we learned the baby had no heartbeat at 15 weeks.  I just delivered her last night and we've requested an autopsy and chromosomal testing.

In both the 2nd and 3rd pregnancies, we had the Panorama test done and the results showed very low chances of the chromosomal abnormalities that it covers. I also had standard bloodwork done to rule out clotting issues, etc and all was clear.  With that being the case and now having two 2nd tri losses, our OB is suggesting that my husband and I do chromosomal testing.  We will be doing that as well as lots of bloodwork on me.

So I guess at this point, I'm in the unexplained infertility boat but I have a feeling that once the testing is complete, we may learn that there is some sort of chromosomal translocation issue.  Only time will tell, I guess.  I look forward to spending time with you ladies through this journey.

BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

 

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  • Momarazzi007Momarazzi007 member
    Hello, my heart just breaks for you and am truly sorry about your losses. I would also recommend introing to the Trying to Conceive After a Loss Board as I know the additional support of women who have truly been there. I hope your stay here is short and you get the answers to these losses ((hugs))
    January 2007- Stop BCP! Let's DO this!
    June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS. image

    November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
    January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS!     February 2011- lost twin. BS. image

    SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
    November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
    April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
    FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
    BABY BOY VINCENT!
    image

    We can't wait to meet you!
    Conception:image    imageimage Potato Love!

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  • annibesannibes member
    I am sorry for your losses.
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  • sunflwrasunflwra member

    Thanks ladies!

    Momarazzi007  - I'm also on the TTCAL board, spent some time on there betwee #2 and #3, and will be jumping in with those ladies as well. Just thought there may be more help regarding the potential IF aspects here :)

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

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  • Momarazzi007Momarazzi007 member
    I'm glad to hear, just want to make sure you are getting good support! :)
    January 2007- Stop BCP! Let's DO this!
    June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS. image

    November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
    January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS!     February 2011- lost twin. BS. image

    SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
    November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
    April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
    FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
    BABY BOY VINCENT!
    image

    We can't wait to meet you!
    Conception:image    imageimage Potato Love!

    BabyFruit Ticker


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  • Momarazzi007Momarazzi007 member
    So it doesn't sound like you have issues getting knocked up- but unexplained (at moment) losses- would you move on to like IVF w PGD if they were discovered?
    January 2007- Stop BCP! Let's DO this!
    June 2010- MFI. BS. IVF! Ectopic. BS. image

    November 2010- FAILED FET! BS!
    January 2011- BFP FET! TWINS!     February 2011- lost twin. BS. image

    SEPTEMBER 2011- DD Born! Most awesome girl in the world!
    November 2013- FAILED FET! BS! (screw you November FETs)
    April Fresh Cycle, FAILED. Frozen embryos frozen for future FETs.
    FROZEN CYCLE JUNE! BFP
    BABY BOY VINCENT!
    image

    We can't wait to meet you!
    Conception:image    imageimage Potato Love!

    BabyFruit Ticker


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  • pettycrockerpettycrocker member
    edited June 2014
    Have you considered trying baby aspirin? You can take it throughout a pregnancy and it could potentially help with blood flow to the fetus. 



    I am so deeply sorry for your losses. I don't think this board will be a good fit for you, unless something crazy comes up in that b/w because you seem to be able to get pregnant easily, which is great, hopefully the Drs can find something to help you stay pregnant. This board is full of lots of Clomid, IUIs, IVFs, etc, nothing you should have to worry yourself with. 


    I will keep you in my prayers, and I hope you get some answers soon! (HUGS) 


    Spontaneous pregnancy #1
    DD1 July 31, 2011

    Trying for #2 since Oct 11
    732973 Clomid Cycles
    2 IUIs 
    3 Fresh IVFs= 1 Ectopic treated with MTX
    Spontaneous pregnancy #2= Ectopic #2= lost left tube
    Spontaneous pregnancy #3= DD2 January 29, 2016
    Spontaneous pregnancy #4= Ectopic #3
    Spontaneous pregnancy #5= Baby #3 is a BOY!!! 



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  • Bananappeal145Bananappeal145 member
    I'm so very sorry for your losses. I hope your stay here is short.
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    TTC #2 since 1/1/13

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  • Jodee37Jodee37 member
    my heart breaks for you. no one should ever lose their baby. and definitely not more than once. i'm so sorry.
    Me: 36, DH: 36
    DH's SA = normal
    1 tube only wonder
    AFC 3-5, AMH 0.30

    BFP #1 3/29/11.  EDD 12/4/11... Missed m/c 5/9/11. Cytotec fail. D&C 5/17/11.
    BFP #2   7/5/11.  EDD 3/14/12... Our rainbow Kellen born 3/14/12 via c/s.
    BFP #3 5/30/13.  EDD 2/8/14...  6wk u/s HB 126. 8wk u/s lost HB. D&C 7/12/13.
    BFP #4 2/18/14.  EDD 10/30/14... Ruptured ectopic with L tube removed & D&C 3/7/14.
    BFP #5 7/27/14.  EDD 4/9/15...  m/c @ 5w4d.

    IVF #1    Oct 2014 - antagonist protocol: 9R, 7M, 5F. 3dt of 3 Grade 2 embies. BFN. 
    IVF #2    Jan 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.  Converted to IUI #1. BFFN
    IVF #2.1 March 2015 cancelled due to dominant follicle.

    BFP #6  (SUPRISE!) 3/19/15.  EDD 11/30/15...  CP at 4w2d.
    IUI #2:    Clomid + Follistim = 3 follies. BFN.
    IVF #2.2 May 2015 - horrible response to micro lupron flare protocol: 3R, 3M, 3F. 3dt of 2 Grade 3 embies. BFFN. 

    BFP #7 (beyond surprised again!) 4/26/16. EDD 1/5/17. beautiful betas!!!! and then near-fatal hemorrhagic corpus luteum. turns out baby was ectopic after all; another lap 5/6 (@24dpo).

    the universe can fuck off.


     "You are overly paranoid and delusional that every one is out to get you." -lastsliverofhope

    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    all AL welcome. TTC #2 for 43 44 months.
    follow my infertility journey here at timestandsstillblog.com

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  • MrsLaurenandDanMrsLaurenandDan member
    I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my son at 20w, and we are looking at IVF with PGD. I would definitely get testing. After I had testing I'm now on folate (instead of folic acid) supplements to help with egg quality, and baby aspirin. Wishing you the best of luck!
    TTC #1 June 2010
    1/3/11 S/A - Count 45; Motility 32; Morph 4.3 - 2/10/11 - S/A Count 17mil; Motility 39; Morph 7.9
    1/5/11 Femara Cycle #1 = BFN  2/4/11 Femara Cycle #2 = BFP: 3/4/11 - Starting Progesterone suppositories 
    Beta#1 15DPO = 108; Beta#2 17DPO = 179; Beta#3 18DPO = 259; Beta 4# 20DPO =659!!
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    TTC#2 Pulled goalie 5/12, PPAF 3/13, BFP 6/27 Beta 15DPO=248! 
    Dx Severe Hydrocephalus and severe Dandy Walker Cyst.   Stillborn 10/19/13
    Lilypie - Personal pictureLilypie Angel and Memorial tickers 
    TTC#3 - (No preventing, TTC+progesterone starting 12/13)
    4/7/14 CD3 BW - FSH 5.6; AMH 0.469 - 4/11/14 S/A Count 35, Motility 47, Morph 1.5
    4/16/14 - Cycle 6 - Natural IUI - Beta 12DPIUI = 3; Beta 13DPIUI=4.  15DPIUI=6. 17DPIU=4. Chemical Pregnancy  
    TTC #4
    5/5/14 Dx MTHFR homozygous A1298C, Benched 1 cycle HSG 5/14 both tubes open w/scarring on the left   
    5/28/14 Starting clomid 6/8/14 IUI #2 1 dominant follicle 31mm Beta 11DPIUI =4, 15DPIUI = 74, 17DPIUI = 165 
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  • CeCe8579CeCe8579 member
    I'm so sorry for your losses. I do have to agree with Mrs.Castillo. I think you will have a hard time fitting in and identifying with everyone here unless you do get an IF diagnosis. Sorry :-(
    Carly
    (Former UN: iloveshanej)

    Birdie born 05/01/2007
    Rainbow Surprise Baby due 05/26/2017                                          


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  • sunflwrasunflwra member
    Momarazzi007 said:
    So it doesn't sound like you have issues getting knocked up- but unexplained (at moment) losses- would you move on to like IVF w PGD if they were discovered?
    @Momarazzi007 - just from what I'm researching, it's seeming like IVF with PGD may end up being our best option, but we'll see what all of the tests ultimately show (or I know they could show nothing). It's not something we've even considered before since we had the first successful pregnancy and the first loss was seen as a fluke at the time, so this 2nd loss changes things a lot.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

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  • sunflwrasunflwra member
    Mrs Castillo said:
    Have you considered trying baby aspirin? You can take it throughout a pregnancy and it could potentially help with blood flow to the fetus. 



    I am so deeply sorry for your losses. I don't think this board will be a good fit for you, unless something crazy comes up in that b/w because you seem to be able to get pregnant easily, which is great, hopefully the Drs can find something to help you stay pregnant. This board is full of lots of Clomid, IUIs, IVFs, etc, nothing you should have to worry yourself with. 


    I will keep you in my prayers, and I hope you get some answers soon! (HUGS) 
    @Mrs Castillo - my OB had me on baby aspirin for the last pregnancy even though I wasn't determined to have any clotting problems- seemed like a won't hurt/might help type thing, but we still had the loss.  The reading I'm doing makes it seem like, if it's determined from our current testing that it is a chromosomal issue, IVF might be our best way to go for a successful pregnancy. I don't know enough about it yet though since we're just starting this aspect of our journey.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

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  • sunflwrasunflwra member
    Iloveshanej said:
    I'm so sorry for your losses. I do have to agree with Mrs.Castillo. I think you will have a hard time fitting in and identifying with everyone here unless you do get an IF diagnosis. Sorry :-(

    Understood- just trying to prepare as it seems like the IF diagnosis may be coming.

    BFP #1- 4/2011; DD Brynn born 12/2011

    BFP #2- 7/13; EDD- 4/2/14; Lost DS at 20 weeks (11/16/13) due to cord accident

    BFP #3- 3/14; EDD- 11/28/14; Lost DD at 15 weeks (6/7/14)- cause unknown

    To my angels- I held you every second of your lives and I'll love you every second of mine.

     

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  • MommalawyerMommalawyer member
    I'm so sorry for your losses. That's really, really sad. I hope you find some answers soon & get back on the road. Hope your stay, where ever that may be, is short. Hugs to you!
    Me: 38     DH: 36
    Married: July 21, 2013
    TTC#1 (between us): June/July 2013

    DX: MFI (low count and motility)
    Charting/OPK/CBFM July 2013-present
    1st RE Visit: January 2014
    Cycling: 
    March 2014- 75iu follistim + trigger + progesterone + IUI = BFN and OHSS
    (8 million post wash 47% motility, 18mm/17mm/16mm/16mm/14mm follies)
    April/May 2014- Benched due to cysts/enlarged ovaries
    June 2014- 50iu follistim + trigger + progesterone + IUI = BFP!!
    (10 million post wash 60% motility, 20mm/19mm follies)
    Beta 1- 85 Beta 2- 2,752 - EDD 2/27/2015


    Everyone welcome. Strength in numbers!


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  • FrenchteachermamaFrenchteachermama member
    I'm sorry for everything that you've been though, I recognize you from the TTCAL board.  Welcome, I hope we can be the support you need.



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    My FF Chart:
    http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/490dd7
    TTC #3 since June 2013
    BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
    BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14
    IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
    IVF #1, Stimmed for 12 days, ER 8/22/14, 9 retrieved, 7M, 7F!!  Freeze all due to fluid in uterus.
    FET end of October 2014 cancelled due to fluid in uterus due to possible c-scar defect
    Surgery scheduled 12/12/14 to fix possible isthmocele
    3/26/15 transferred one 8 cell grade 4 embryo and one 6 cell grade 3 embryo = slow rising betas for 2+ weeks = ectopic MTX shot 4/29/15
    Repeat c-scar surgery June 2015
    2nd and last IVF cycle August 2015, stimmed for 12 days, 2 egg retrieved, both mature and both fertilized.  Transferred both 8-cell embryos on Day 3, beta 9/5/15 = BFFN
    MOVING TO ADOPTION!  


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  • CeCe8579CeCe8579 member
    sunflwra said:


    Iloveshanej said:

    I'm so sorry for your losses. I do have to agree with Mrs.Castillo. I think you will have a hard time fitting in and identifying with everyone here unless you do get an IF diagnosis. Sorry :-(


    Understood- just trying to prepare as it seems like the IF diagnosis may be coming.

    I hope you get some answers quickly!

    Carly
    (Former UN: iloveshanej)

    Birdie born 05/01/2007
    Rainbow Surprise Baby due 05/26/2017                                          


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  • sailorgalsailorgal member
    I'm so sorry for your heartbreaking losses.
    Me: 32, DH: 33
    DS #1: April 2010
    DS #2: July 2015 (preemie born at 31 weeks) - our little miracle conceived through ART - unexplained secondary infertility/adenomyosis
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  • lawmom747lawmom747 member
    I am so sorry for your losses and I hope you can work with the doctors to find answers.  BTW - I completely understand coming here - I too was on TTCAL but for a very short time.  I think the ladies here are great!
    Me: 35 DH: 35 - Married 10 years
    PCOS and MF
    Two failed rounds IUI in 2010
    IVF #1 in 2011 - BFP 8/5/11 - Our IVF miracle was born 4/8/12
    FET 9/23/13; BFP -Twins-10/3/13; EDD 6/10/14; MC 11/1/13; D&C 11/4/13
    FET 3/28/14; BFN - 4/7/14
    IVF #2 - Transfer 2 embryos 11/14/14; BFP 11/24/14 - Beta 265;
    11/26/14 - Beta 612; 11/28/14 - Beta 1263; 12/1/14 - Beta 3571;
    12/3/14 - first u/s - two gestational sacs; 12/17/14 - two healthy heartbeats (132 and 134)
    Our IVF miracles were born 7/16/15

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