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Late Term and Child Loss
Noethola
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PAL Check-in
Noethola
member
This is a post and run this morning, but I look forward to checking back in on everyone.
Welcome to the Parenting After Loss check-in! Please feel free to ask questions (whether or not you are PAL) and get to know one another and the journey each person is on. Welcome to all those who had babies these last few weeks.
Introduce your new baby if you have recently delivered, or if you have recently joined us and have older children.
Do you have any upcoming milestones?
How has this week been for you?
QOTW: Do you have a favorite charity that you are involved with? What charity and why?
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
How has this week been for you?
QOTW: Do you have a favorite charity that you are involved with? What charity and why?
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Any questions for the group?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: PAL Check-in
I recently gave birth to our beautiful rainbow baby, on April 16th. Baby Zoie has been an absolute blast! It was a difficult (high risk... and high anxiety) pregnancy, but thank the Lord she's here today.
Milestones: today was our second angel baby's birthday, Lorelei. It's been exactly one year since we said goodbye and the pain and sadness is still there. I think after we had our rainbow baby people assumed that we were "all better"
Mother's day... I was alright, I enjoyed having Zoie with me, but my heart still felt kinda only half full if that makes sense. I really wish I could have ALL my girls with me.
QOTW: There's a pregnancy center here in town that offers support and resources to women and teenage girls during their pregnancy. I'm not currently involved with this group but I'd like to volunteer some time when I get a chance.
Open Topic: Zoie will be 2 months this month and we're also remembering our two babies' angelversaries... this month is the definition of bittersweet.
Hope all of you other angel mamas are doing well. Hugs:)
Mothers Day was fine. We'dfinally planted the memorial garden and I'm thrilled with how it came out! Such a beautiful tribute to our two beautiful angels! This week has been tough. I feel like I'm stuck. I walked to dh about it last night and the conclusionwe came to is that I feel hopeless because we won't have any more children. After we lost baby gary we knew we would try again so there was still hope for the family we dreamed of. Now that we've decided no more pregnancies after losing Riley and adoption really feels like a pipe dream, I feel like there is no hope of having that family. I'm so thankful for Aubrey; she's the light of my life! But I just always expected it to be different and I'm not really coming to terms with that change.
Our favorite charity is MOD. We walked in this year's March for Babies and I felt really good about our contribution. We also always donate to the Jimmy fund.
Not my mind this week is how fast my baby is growing up and how sad it makes me that I'll never have this time again. I'm attaching her 11 month picture because it totally blew me away at how grown up she looks... like a toddler and NOT like a baby. I guess I knew this would happen. I wish I had known that her firsts would be our last. Also attached is one of the family photos we had done a few weeks ago. Good God I love this kid!
How has this week been for you? Rough, I went back to work on Friday. Not only is it unbearable to leave my baby, but it also brings back memories or returning last year after our loss. The morning is the hardest, I hate leaving her and despite my dad being an amazing dad, I still worry cause he's not me.
QOTW: Do you have a favorite charity that you are involved with? What charity and why? I really like St. Jude. I think it is wonderful that they offer so much to families going through the worst thing and at no cost to them. I also like The Tears Foundation. They help raise money so families can afford funerals and gravestones/urns for their angels.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Since returning to work, everyone is beaming, asking about LO. It just makes me sad, the difference between this and last year. I know they all think I am fine now that I have my rainbow, and I just want to scream that I love my daughter and I'm soooo happy she's here, but that I love BOTH of my daughters and LO being born of course helps, but she does NOT make it ok that my angel died.
My Pregnancy/Parenting BLOG TTC since 5/2011, BFP #1 12/3/11, M/C 12/7/11 @ 4wks 2d. Began seeing RE Sep 2012. October 2012 Metformin 1500 mg= ovulation on CD34 BFP#2 11/14/12 9DPO, EDD 7/26/13, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks, our angel born sleeping 3/24/13 @ 22wks 2d. BFP #3 7/4/13 8DPO EDD 3/22/14, DX Gestational Diabetes @14 wks. started insulin @16 wks. Our rainbow, born 3/19/14 @ 39wks 6d., we're so in love!
How has this week been for you? Ugh...this week has been rough. DH is out of town for work, which makes everything more difficult because I don't have my partner here helping take care of Liam. It's also been really hard because we found out that Liam hasn't gained any weight in 2.5 weeks
QOTW: Do you have a favorite charity that you are involved with? What charity and why? We have given donations to Cornerstone of Hope - a local group center for grieving families. We attended a neonatal/infant loss support group that helped us immensely.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? The past couple of weeks have been so emotional - good and bad. The triplet's first birthday was a couple weeks ago and only a handful of family/friends remembered. Then last week was the hospital memorial service at the cemetery and that was really difficult, too. Yet, I'm sitting here, watching Liam sleep and thinking about the smiles he's starting to give us..it's just a lot of emotions.