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Trying not to go insane...

Corkey450Corkey450 member
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hi all, this is my first post ever on the bump! My husband and I found out we are pregnant two days ago. I felt like I was experiencing symptoms of early pregnancy, and once my boobs started to hurt, I knew it was happening! I took a First Response Early Result test two days before my missed period and it came back positive. I called me doctor and made an 8 week appointment... and now I wait.

How do you make it through the first trimester without going insane? I want to be excited, but I know there is a good chance this pregnancy may not last. I feel just conflicted emotions. I get anxious that something will happen, and then I get anxious that getting anxious will cause something to happen. Can you tell I am type A?? Any advice from those of you farther along in the 1st trimester would be wonderful. The thought of making it to August without getting to excited is killing me!
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  • abbyfulabbyful member
    Breathe and find a hobby.
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  • Trish1183Trish1183 member
    Hi there. I am with you 100%! I am also very type A. I am 5 weeks pregnant with our first, and we are so excited to have a baby. I just feel like now that we are pregnant, I can't relax because I am so anxious about having a healthy baby!

    My OB isn't see I me until week 8 either, so I'm trying to read all about the Dos and Donts online. As an example, I just started getting morning sickness, so I took a bath yesterday to calm down. Right after the bath I was reading that pregnant women shouldn't take hot baths, and I love hot baths, so now I'm all anxious about that!

    I would love to just be able to relax and enjoy this amazing pregnancy.

    I too would appreciate any advice.
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  • Sarah1253Sarah1253 member
    Try to let yourself be excited and remember there is NOTHING you can do to change the outcome. Just keep yourself healthy. I get anxious too from time to time. I am really jealous of a lot of people who already had their first Ultrasound or got to hear the HB  when I haven't had mine yet. My Doctor ordered one at 12 weeks and that's next Friday.
     
    The best advice I can give is try to be happy and stay positive because like I said its out of your control.

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  • Corkey450Corkey450 member
    Thank you for all the advice! It is nice to hear from women in a similar position, or who have made it through the first trimester wait! It is also nice just to talk about it, because I have not told anyone other than my husband (and this forum). I like the idea of relaxing and meditating. I am thinking about going to yoga tonight... but I need to make sure that is "safe" haha
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  • Corkey450Corkey450 member
    Good advice RedHeadBaker! I will stop researching every little movement possible. I know it is only adding to the worry.
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  • jaztasticjaztastic member

    OP I feel the same way you do... given my history I am feeling extra anxious and on pins and needles. The advice on this board is great. Im learning that I just need to chill out, and I havent even known Im officially pregnant that long. lol

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     Loss and IF veteran. Current mom of DS 5.5, DD 2, and sometimes DH 40. Due June 2021 with TWINS
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  • allrightmeowallrightmeow member
    Corkey450 said:
    Thank you for all the advice! It is nice to hear from women in a similar position, or who have made it through the first trimester wait! It is also nice just to talk about it, because I have not told anyone other than my husband (and this forum). I like the idea of relaxing and meditating. I am thinking about going to yoga tonight... but I need to make sure that is "safe" haha
    Yoga is more than safe for preggies especially this early on.  Later you'll have to make adjustments as you get bigger.  Please don't start googling every thing you'll drive everyone around you nuts. 
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  • thunderbadgersthunderbadgers member
    Congratulations!

    Be positive! As long as you're doing the "right" things when it comes to pregnancy, it's out of your hands. You have to remember that your body WANTS to make this baby happen. There's usually a pretty dang good reason (although you might never know what it is) if it doesn't. Don't you worry.

    I totally understand wanting to make sure that every little thing you do is safe. When in doubt, call your doctor/midwife, don't Google.

    Um.. I don't know. As stupid as it might sound, really go with your gut as much as you're able. With my first pregnancy, I just knew something was off. It ended badly. Even after that, the second pregnancy felt different... it felt okay, and I figured after the first, I would be paranoid.

    The pregnancy guru over here. Ha ha. Just try to enjoy it, like others have said. All that nausea and sore boobage and mood swings. :)


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  • mels823mels823 member
    The way I see it is I will be worried about something child related even if the baby makes it through this first trimester! There is genetic testing later on, delivery, keeping a baby safe, sending them to daycare, school, drivers license! The worry will never end, so try to enjoy each moment of it for what it is :) So many more pregnancies end well than end with a loss.  Try to focus on that thought!
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  • shellybean3788shellybean3788 member
    I always feel better if I know I'm doing everything I can to increase my odds. Here's what I've found out:

    You can skip alcohol and cigarettes, obviously.
    Sleep when you need it. 
    Don't drink more than 200mg of caffeine a day.
    Avoid harsh chemicals.
    Take your prenatals. Make sure they have Omega 3 and Folic Acid (at least 800mg each).

    Good luck!
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  • Corkey450Corkey450 member
    Thanks everyone. Your advice has been wonderful. 

    I got my period yesterday, and now know I experienced a chemical pregnancy. I know these are common, so I am feeling optimistic that we at least know we can get pregnant... everything just needs to line up in order for it to be right. 

    I think this experience will help me relax a little in the following months. No need to get all worked up (even though it is much easier said than done... at least for me!) If it is going to happen, it will. If not, it is my body's way of saying this isn't the right time. 

    I cut back on alcohol and caffeine, don't smoke, and try to stay active and eat well... so I feel I am doing all that I can to prepare for a healthy baby. I just need to let nature take its course. Hopefully I will be back on the 1st trimester board soon!
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  • shellybean3788shellybean3788 member
    I'm sure you will. It's good that you aren't letting this discourage you; you're an inspiration :) Good luck sweetie, we'll see you when you get back!
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  • myatalamyatala member
    edited June 2014
    shellybean3788 said:

    Take your prenatals. Make sure they have Omega 3 and Folic Acid (at least 800mg each).
    Folic acid doses are usually in mcg, not mg. 800mg of folic acid would be way too much. OP, you may want to ask your OB what they recommend. My OB has me taking 4mg of folic acid in addition to the amount in my prenatal multivitamin.
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  • shellybean3788shellybean3788 member
    Whoa! Thank you, Myatala, for catching that. 
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  • Trish1183Trish1183 member
    Thank you to all for your calming and supportive words!
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  • kellm387kellm387 member
    In the same boat here! 5 weeks yesterday and am trying not to go crazy. Don't go to doctor until 8 weeks. It's just hard to know if everything is ok or if I'm doing everything right when I can't feel anything...... I'm counting down the days until my appt and thinking about how excited our families will be when we tell them! That's how I'm getting through!!
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