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TTM about being a godparent- Updated in OP
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So, I have a feeling that on Sunday, my best GF is going to ask me to be her son's godmother (she is planning to baptize him in September-- she's Lutheran).
While I would be honored if she asked me, would it be weird to accept if I don't believe in God?
She knows I am not religious (in the sense that I don't go to church ever), but now that I think about it, I am pretty sure she doesn't know that I am a non believer. (We don't talk about religion, really.)
WWYD?
Update- Friend did ask me to be her son's godmother on Sunday. I told her that I was really honored and would love to be the godmother, but I wanted to make sure that she knew that I didn't believe in god and never really did (even as a child). And then I started crying-- in front of both her and her husband. I have no idea why really-- I guess it was just a a long weekend (with lots of fighting with H) and my emotions were bubbling right at the surface. I think I totally scared her H-- he ran out of the room to get me a tissue.
Anyway-- after I pulled myself together, she sort of laughed at me and said she figured that's how I felt and she just wanted to ask me because she said I have been such a good friend to her over the years and couldn't think of anyone else she would rather ask. Cue both of us crying.
It was pretty pathetic, but also sort of cathartic. So I am going to be a godmother!!
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
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Re: TTM about being a godparent- Updated in OP
OK-- so you do think I should just make it clear that I absolutley do not believe in God, right?
She has no siblings and her hubs has two brothers, but they both identify as Jewish (her H is half Jewish, but doesn't identify as such.)
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
No-- I don't think there will really be any duties-- and to be honest-- since I am not religious the ceremony means nothing to me and I would be happy to "stand up" for her son.
I am just wondering if I should broach it with my friend, since I am assuming it means something to her-- I wouldn't want to make light of a serious religious ceremony/ rite-- KWIM?
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Like others have said I would just be honest with your friend and take it from there.
Good luck!
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We are Lutheran, and wanted friends to be godparents, even though one is agnostic and the other is atheist. They couldn't do it because they couldn't come in from out of state for the ceremony, my sister is DD's godmother, which she was going to be anyway.
From a Lutheran perspective, we wanted these friends to be godparents because even though that doesn't mean you are charged with the care of a child legally if parents die, I could see our friends really caring for our child and even taking her to a Lutheran church (or whatever) to honor the tradition and wishes of our family. The husband had grown up in the Lutheran church and even thought about going to school to become a Lutheran pastor, even though he is agnostic. He loves the history, tradition, etc.
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