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Back to work tomorrow :(

lbryantphotographylbryantphotography member
edited June 2014 in Working Moms
So I'm heading back to the office tomorrow and am petrified. More for me than for my daughter, who was colicky for 6 months but is now a dynamic social butterfly. 

Fears:

Oversharing baby stories/photos with people who don't care
Not being able to focus
Balling my eyes out spontaneously because I miss her
Feeling like I can't juggle both career and baby
Bringing the stress of the day home with me

Any tips on how to ease the transition would be greatly appreciated!

~L

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Re: Back to work tomorrow :(

  • PSU_TexanPSU_Texan member

    You've had a great leave (same as I took)!  Just know that you've made the best decision for your family so don't feel guilty.  Take it one day at a time.  The best advice I was given is try to be like a man in that you compartmentalize... when at work, concentrate on work and when at home, concentrate on home. 

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  • MommyAttyMommyAtty member
    Let me put your fears to rest. Every single thing on your list except spontaneous crying is going to happen. Every. Single. One. And that's perfectly okay. We have all been there. My biggest piece of advice is to totally cut yourself some slack. It's going to be an adjustment. But if you got through colic, you can definitely get through this. Sending you good luck vibes through cyberspace.
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    PrivacyWanted said:
    Since you posted in Parenting asking about driving traffic to your blog, and you link to it in your message, I'm going to just assume that this is well concealed spam.

    I didn't even notice the link, so it didn't work here. Lol!
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  • lbryantphotographylbryantphotography member

    PrivacyWanted said:
    Since you posted in Parenting asking about driving traffic to your blog, and you link to it in your message, I'm going to just assume that this is well concealed spam.
    I used a hyperlink to illustrate my point. Some people care and are interested, others aren't. You fall into the latter category, that's fine, but doesn't relate at all to the advice I was seeking in this post. So thanks for nothing :)
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  • lbryantphotographylbryantphotography member
    SweetC80 said:
    Good Luck! It just takes time. At first it was overwhelming and hard and I thought I was a horrible mother, wife, employee. Now, I love my job, DD's daycare and I've found a (fairly) decent way to keep up w/ the house. Just know it'll get better and you are doing awesome!
    Thank you so much for the words of encouragement. Day 1 was tough. Overwhelming and exhausting. But also really rewarding. Coming home to a happy baby, who actually crawled (!) to welcome me was incredible. As for the house - no clue how that's going to stay clean. Roll with the punches I guess!!
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  • lbryantphotographylbryantphotography member
    MommyAtty said:
    Let me put your fears to rest. Every single thing on your list except spontaneous crying is going to happen. Every. Single. One. And that's perfectly okay. We have all been there. My biggest piece of advice is to totally cut yourself some slack. It's going to be an adjustment. But if you got through colic, you can definitely get through this. Sending you good luck vibes through cyberspace.
    Very true. Colic was total hell, this is a cakewalk in comparison. A different set of emotions to deal with now. It's so easy to fall into a pattern of self-critique so I appreciate the notion of "cutting myself some slack". And perhaps a piece of pie. 
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  • lbryantphotographylbryantphotography member
    K3am said:
    If you're anything like me, you'll do all of these things. And you'll hopefully have at least one co-worker who wants nothing more than to spend 15 minutes flipping through pics of the cutest baby ever. 

    My advice? Unless you work in some hell hole, allow yourself to feel all these things and fears.. Most of your coworkers will at least try to understand, especially during the first few days back. (I actually found some of the men I work with to be more supportive than the women, surprisingly.)

    Good luck!
    This is precisely what I found today! And it was all I needed. A little secret fix of home life midday to keep me feeling grounded. I know some days will be crazy, but I work in an office with 500 other employees so surely someone will want to talk baby with me daily?! Thank you for your sweet words :)
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    PSU_Texan said:

    You've had a great leave (same as I took)!  Just know that you've made the best decision for your family so don't feel guilty.  Take it one day at a time.  The best advice I was given is try to be like a man in that you compartmentalize... when at work, concentrate on work and when at home, concentrate on home. 

    Such great advice. I'm sure once I'm back in the swing of things a little more, it'll feel easier. Today it was leaving the house that I found so difficult. The little babe is going through a very clingy-to-mom stage - but I knew she'd have a super fun day and that mine would be a distraction of meetings and back-to-work chaos. Day 1 done! 
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